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About Me

Welcome to The Shelter! My prayer is that this page will bring light, love, hope, and healing to the people who visit it. First of all, I want to say that I am not a pshychologist or a therapist. I do not have a degree in psychology, sociology or behavorial science. However, I am a survivor of abuse, which I believe makes me a qualified candidate to help, support, and encourage other survivors, as well as current victims of abuse.I am a Christian, and my deepest desire is to show you that I love you, God loves you, and that you are worthy to be loved. Whether you are a Christian or not, I firmly believe that God brought you to this page for a reason. My goal is to provide as much information possible to educate abused men and women, as well as guide them in the right direction towards recovery from the vicious cyle of abuse.For those of you who have survived abuse, I pray that you will join with me in helping, supporting and loving the victims of physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal abuse. I want this community to be one that is safe and nuturing for everyone, so please do not be afraid to reach out to myself or others that you find on this page.If you are currently suffering from or are involved in an abusive relationship, please contact any of the phone numbers listed on this page and visit their sites as well. An additional site which gave me many answers and much comfort during an abusive relationship was http://www.drirene.com/verbalabuse.htm.Please know that you are not alone, there is help available for you, and there is always a way out of an abusive relationship. Despite what you may feel, you are not trapped. You do not deserve to be abused, and receiving abuse of any kind is not your fault, no matter what your abuser tells you. You deserve to be loved, even if you don't love yourself enough to realize that right now. I love you and God loves you. God bless each and every one of His beautiful creations that are visiting this site today!

My Interests

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|Below you can view concise diagram's of the cycle and pattern of any abusive relationship:

I'd like to meet:

---Prevent Child Abuse Americahttp://www.preventchildabuse.org [Call (312) 663-3520]---National Domestic Violence/Abuse Hotline[Call (800) 799-SAFE]--The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Networkhttp://www.rainn.org [Call (800) 656-HOPE]

Books:

"You may be in pain and think you should leave, but your heart hasn't figured it out yet. Logically you don't like what is going on, but you still love your partner. If you are in a relationship with a toxic individual, you have been trained to put their needs first. Toxic people are often extremely narcissistic and everything is about their needs, their wants. You both spend your time serving their needs. All the while, YOU grow more INVESTED in the relationship. Yet, they grow less "vested" in the relationship and show you less respect for your efforts." -Kimberly J. Brasher; "Toxic Relationships...How to Regain Lost Power in Your Relationship"

Heroes:

My Blog

LIFE AFTER ABUSE

Some victims and survivors of abuse wonder, "is there life after abuse?" This question may inhibit someone from getting out of an abusive relationship, if they feel that this is their only chanc...
Posted by The Shelter on Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:36:00 PST

TELL SOMEONE

I post a lot of blog's for this site. All of them are informative, and I believe that all of them are helpful. The one blog I haven't posted yet is a blog to reach out to others in my own ...
Posted by The Shelter on Tue, 19 Feb 2008 06:26:00 PST

CHILD ABUSE INFORMATION & HOTLINE NUMBERS

Unfortunately, child abuse is a common problem. Often times, the abuse may leave a child permanently injured or brain damaged, and sometimes the abuse can lead to death. Sometimes chi...
Posted by The Shelter on Sat, 02 Feb 2008 12:15:00 PST

BASIC FACTS ABOUT ABUSE

Definitions of abuse as found in the Wikipedia, free encyclopedia Sexual abuse: The improper use of another person for sexual purposes, generally without their consent or under physical or psychologic...
Posted by The Shelter on Thu, 31 Jan 2008 07:05:00 PST

CHARACTERISTICS OF VERBAL ABUSE

Verbal abuse is common, and is often overlooked. As with all forms of abuse, the abuser convinces his/her victim that the abuse is somehow his/her fault through manipulation, guilt, and isolatio...
Posted by The Shelter on Mon, 21 Jan 2008 10:06:00 PST

SIGNS THAT SOMEONE IS BEING ABUSED

If you suspect that a loved one may be being abused, then here are some signs of domestic violence. If your loved one has shown any of these signs, then now is a good time to discuss this issue ...
Posted by The Shelter on Wed, 16 Jan 2008 01:53:00 PST

HOW TO LEAVE AN ABUSER

If you are in an abusive relationship and you think there is no way out...THINK AGAIN! There is hope for you. Whether you realize it now or not, you have the strength within you to leave t...
Posted by The Shelter on Wed, 16 Jan 2008 01:19:00 PST

EFFECTS OF SEXUAL ABUSE ON MEN

Abuse can happen to men, as well as women. Although it is more common that women are abused, I believe it is important to recognize that men can be and often are victims of various forms of abus...
Posted by The Shelter on Sat, 12 Jan 2008 06:54:00 PST

COMMON CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSERS

The following information in this blog can be found at http://www.lilaclane.com/relationships/emotional-abuse/ ;and includes a brief description of common characteristics that are found in abusers...
Posted by The Shelter on Wed, 19 Dec 2007 11:07:00 PST

ABUSE TAKES MANY FORMS

Abuse is not just physical. Abuse takes many forms. It can be physical, verbal, emotional, mental, financial, spiritual or sexual. Regardless of the form of abuse, all abusers hold t...
Posted by The Shelter on Wed, 12 Dec 2007 02:00:00 PST