About a week behind on accepting friend requests without a message. I like to review each friend request and post specific comments for each friend I accept. Too many spammers to react right away, if you know what I mean and if you are a Deadbeat bomber, male or female, understand I am offended by the word and I will call you a loser in your comments for being so bigoted.If you need something right away send a message with your friend request that way I will know u aren't a spammer. You can also reach me at my email address on the link below. If urgent please include a return address other than myspace.
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Also, before sending me a message here is what I am not:
I am NOT a legal service and cannot offer legal advice
I do NOT provide financial assistance
I do NOT organize public demonstrations in support of individual cases, well maybe a good one.
I consider myself just a regular Dad of two children that had the unfortunate experience of being thrown into the family court ringer for a few years. The kids and I are barely surviving the Divorce Industries attacks and it saddens me to know that their are 21 million other parents out there still waiting to be found.
Luckily for me and my kids, the ex wife kind of came around for a little while this last year. We basically reached an agreement outside of the courts and basically it's like this, we share our children depending on her mood or if she needs a babysitter. If the kids and I object to anything she schedules over our parenting time, the kids and I won't get any extra time together. Although it's better than it could be, there are still a lot of unresolved problems where whenever her world gets upset she calls the police, lies and then we are stuck having to go back to the court order until I can get another motion to get her to stop using the kids to mess with me. Pain in the rear but I put up with all this because my kids need me in their life and I won't give up on them like the system has.
This past summer I was able to coach both my kids soccer teams and I counted my two little blessing every night I had them. I have experienced enough in life to cherish what you have because no matter how much you have, it can all be taken away from you, without notice like a thief in the night.
Without going into all my own personal horror stories, my main motivation is to try and make a better future for our children and the families yet to face the injustices of the family courts. I believe there is a much better way of doing things than we are doing right now and in the end I would like to make it so that nothing like this ever has to happen again to any family, rich or poor. I believe all life is precious and we should not accept casualties of any domestic war, especially not in our family court rooms. To me it's simply not acceptable that their are 21 Million Non-Custodial Parents in this county who's voices are being oppressed, all for the sake of profit and my goal is to change our custody laws so that a judge can still award joint custody even if one parent doesn't agree and eventually make it so that the law just assumes as a starting point that a presumption of joint physical custody is in the best interest of the children.
Over my years, I have seen too many children that emancipated themselves from their supposed restrictive parents, who in the end wound up being socially challenged in one way or another. Canada has already assumed the role of the surrogate parent for our children in their highest court and it's just a few formalities away from happening here too unless we stand up and make parental rights an inalienable natural right that is constitutionally protected for fit loving parents. [ Subscribe to My Blog To Stay Current on Breaking News ]
Quotes of the Week:
In order for the state to maximize it's welfare function, it must discriminate as much as possible.
The main problem is, MN and state laws basically assumes at least one parent is unfit if the other parent doesn't want joint custody.
This isn't a system created by the people for the people. This is a system created by the system for the system.
Our only crime is we want equal time!
Stop Using Federal Dollars to Infringe on Other Peoples Natural Rights!
False Allegations Create Profits For the State!
Child Support Crack-An IV Funding Addiction The States Can't Quit!
Child Support Crack-Permanently Destroying More Families Than The Drugs Themselves June 2006 CEWG Report on State and Local Data
The courts are hurting our kids and saying it's our fault!
Anoka County-Will you please get help for your child support addiction?
The bigget pusher/dealer of IV-D for Anoka County=Alexander House
Parenthood is more than just a financial obligation!
Don't Be Afriad of Equality, Demand Shared Parenting Laws in Your State.
We instill fear in those afraid of equality and accountability!
Parents are staying in abusive relationships because of their fear of the family courts.
DHS-The Department of Inhumane Services
What problems has this system really solved compared to the number of problems it has created?
My job is being a parent first and foremost, and it is my duty as a citizen to speak out against policies that are needlessly hurting families and children just for profit.
The Solution to Parental Inequality is
Parental Equality!!!! Dah!
Until our nation has equality in family law, the true number of deadbeats will always be overstated, hunted, tortured, incarcerated, oppressed and alienated to the point of hopelessness and then dignity and pride are swallowed all for the sake of our childrens future.
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We need to recruite people to help with this movement. If everyone one does a little, no one has to do a lot. Lets try and get our friend list up by telling your friends about this site and the Fathers for Justice site, www.F4J.us
For the first time in, history married families are a minority group and our family courts are largely responsible for this shift. We are a group of people tired of all the corruption in the family court system and tired of the state profiting off our children at the expense of denying fit loving parents equal access to our children. We are a local volunteer group of Anoka County parents, mostly fathers and the rest are concerned citizens, grandparents, relatives, second wives, mothers, children of divorced parents, girlfriends and the friends of parents who all have been denied access to our children and have decided to step up and help stop the flow of all the money our state, lawyers, politicians, ex-spouses and government workers continue to make off our children using the childrens best interest as an excuse to justify their corruption and continued ignorance.
How can any childs best interest of two fit loving parents be best served by a state entity whose motives are politically driven?
The State of MN alone has made almost a billion dollars off our children in the last 5 years through federal rebate programs that promote sole custody arrangements. A billion dollars of profit, not operational costs, that has gone directly back into the states general treasury and we need to change our system so that good fit loving parents are no longer denied access to our children just for the sake of profit(in MN, whenever custody is disputed 94% of the time the parent denied equal access is the father).
Our Children are Being Held Randsom by our Legislators and Judges!!!
Children need equal access to both of their parents for many reasons but the bearocrats down at the capital seam to really be hung up on the money their systems generate for the State and their inner city welfare programs and we need to change this policy. Did you know that for every dollar they can take from you in support payments for your child, the state and county gets almost dollar for dollar matching federal funds to use as they wish?
Follow the Title IV-D Money Trail
http://www.scribd.com/doc/88227/Title-IVD-Money-Flow
“There is a fundamental liberty right guaranteed to both parents by the 14th Amendment to the care, custody, and nurture of their children. According to the US Supreme Court: “Absent a Compelling State Interest of harm or potential harm to the child, the State may not intervene in the privacy of family life.â€
One of the main problems with the current laws are that parents are only allowed joint custody arrangements if both parents agree. One question often asked is why would a statistically advantaged parent agree to joint custody when one parent can have not only full custody of the children but also a large portion of the other parents finances with little or no effort? Another question for law makers and judges is, why does the family courts allow one parent to give up the other parents rights and are family laws really constitutional as they are now? Right now the system basically allows complete discretion of the judge and by definition allowing discretion is what opens the door for a judge's bias to enter the courtroom and we need consistency.
"The Creation Of A Sub Class Of American Citizens With A Diminished Access To The Rights Equal To All Americans Through An Instrument Of The Court Is Unconstitutional and Illegal." The Law USCG. 42 Chapter 7 Sub Chapter IV Part D 666 requires each state court in a divorce to create a non-custodial parent and place unequal duties upon this citizen." -Krightradio.com 1/17/07
Our goal is to achieve equality and accountability in the family courts. We want to take the sport out of divorce and give parents the tools they need to help them get through their troubled times of a broken relationship. The courts should remain neutral and if anything they should help bridge the gap of our troubled parents instead of further dividing them with this winner take all approach where the winner is awarded absolute power and control of the other parents finances and schedule. When the family court system is biased such as ours, there are many situations where the abuser just because of their gender is awarded custody and as a result of this injustice, the abuser is then allowed to terrorize the other parent and their children for many years to come. We understand a parent's fear is their right, but that right should not be used to restrict the freedom of others just to alleviate their own.
The system is setup to guard the custodial parent and they all do a great job backing each other up too. Next time you walk into a family court room, look around and count how many people there are around, whose income is funded directly or indirectly by the child support that is being paid. The social workers working the cases, the lawyers, the guardian ad-litems, the mediators and even the bailiff are funded by the child support parents pay. They are all in on this scam together and that is why we need to join together. Help us take the sport out of divorce by supporting efforts to get a presumption of joint custody passed in every state where the other parent needs to prove why joint custody isn't in the best interest and a judge can still award jont custody even if one parent disagrees.
