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"Perfection: It is Me!" ~ THE BOOK

I will be out of town without internet access from 06/07/07 - 06/15/07. Have a beautiful week! (upda

About Me


No, not about ME...this is about the book! If you'd like to learn more about me personally, please visit my personal MySpace profile: TabbyCat . Now, let's get back to the focus of this profile!
Ok, so about the book! It's called "Perfection: It is me!". It is a creation from my heart. I grew up during the 80's and 90's when, according to society's standards, "plus" wasn't pretty and "big" wasn't beautiful. I used to enjoy browsing the many popular teen magazines. However, it seemed that after I was done looking at them, I always felt "not pretty enough" afterwards. So I did a thousand diets and ten thousand different exercises to be as beautiful as those girls in the magazines, but it never worked. And it's not that I was an obese child; however, I also wasn't a thin girl by far. I was always told by older family members, "Oh, you'll grow into your weight." Little did I know back then that my weight would grow with me, too!
Ok, enough of my ramblings! So, what inspired me to create this book? It's simple! One day, in the not too long ago past, I stumbled across an old picture of me (circa 1990 ~ I was 12 years old). I had to look at it several times, because I couldn't believe that it was me. I've always thought of myself as fat, but as you can see, in this picture, I was apparently mistaken (that's me below the arrow).
Oh my, I was so stunning!!! BUT, at that time, and for many more years to follow, I didn't see that or feel that way about myself. I have carried for years a self-loathing relationship with my body.
So, upon this recent discovery, an epiphany struck me. I was beautiful then, but I didn't see myself as so. And I know that I'm beautiful now, but for a long time I didn't "feel" beautiful. So I asked myself, what is the common component here? That's when I realized that it was all in my perception of myself! And as we all know, perceptions can often be changed.
If I allow the emotions to get to me, it hurts to realize that I allowed so many years to go by perceiving myself as physically not good enough. Many years wasted on hating myself. And for what good reason? I mean, just alone, the happiness I forewent just because of a perception I had of myself. With the exception of what society deemed me as (i.e. "not pretty/thin enough"), I was and am an awesome person. I volunteer my time to animals and people, I say please & thank you consistently, I give food to homeless people when I can, I always purchase a $3 - $5 certificate at my grocery store to contribute to meals for the poor, and there's more.....so overall, I'm a pretty freakin DAMN GREAT person!
So with this all in my mind, I asked myself, "What can I do to help alleviate this suffering for other young girls and women out there?" I have sisters and nieces, and someday I may have a daughter. I don't want for any of them to have to go through this experience and take 25+ years to finally come to this level of self-acceptance. I'm not delusional in thinking that this suffering can be completely avoided (even though it can build great character!); however, it can most definitely be lessened with part of society telling these young girls and women out there that it's okay to be a size 24 and still be sexy/pretty, or beauty is in everyone no matter how big, small, short, or tall you are; it's all inside!
So, with that all said, here is my goal! I am creating this book to promote size and self-acceptance. To do this, I will be collecting life-stories from other women who have achieved the level of SELF-love, respect, and acceptance. These women have determined that they are perfectly acceptable to walk among and mingle with the other lingerie and glamor models of the Earth, no matter what society says!
Listed from oldest to most current.
Simply click the one you want to read!

* "In the beginning..." ~ 11/12/06
* "I'm in need of assistance!!!" ~ 11/13/06
* "What do YOU want to see in this book???" ~ 12/15/06
* "My passion...my calling...please share with others" ~ 01/04/07
* "Support a great cause and share it with others!!! :)" ~ 01/18/07
* "Please excuse my temporary absence" ~ 02/07/07
* "On hiatus for a little while..." ~ 03/02/07
* "NEW FEATURE! PIIM wants to show our support for YOU!" ~ 05/21/07
* "Let's have a LADIES NIGHT OUT! :)" ~ 06/30/07
* "BLOG SAFETY (Always use protection!) {aka Virus Alert}" ~ 07/05/07
* "DID YOU KNOW???" ~ Article 1 (size-acceptance news & info)" ~ 07/06/07
* "DID YOU KNOW??? ~ Article 2 ("Body Positive" door hanger)" ~ 07/07/07
* "DID YOU KNOW??? ~ Article 3 ~ Bra Size Calculator!" ~ 07/08/07
* And we shall call it...(name for the "Ladies Night Out" event) :::drum roll::: ~ 07/08/07

My Interests



Please take my polls ~ the results will be published in the book! (New polls will be added on a random basis; please check back.)

Do you love & accept yourself (inside & out) just how you are?
Absolutely, yes - no question about it! : )
No, not at all. : (
Yes, but I'd like to make a few changes on the inside.
Yes, but I'd like to make a few changes on the outside.
Yes, but I'd like to make a few changes on the inside & outside.
I love & accept myself for who I am on the inside, but not on the outside.
I love & accept myself for who I am on the outside, but not on the inside.
Other (NOTE: if you have a different answer then what's available here, please email it to me!)
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NEW POLL ADDED!
Regarding negative self-image, what do you think has been the greatest influence?
My parents
My siblings (not including parents)
My parents and siblings (or other extended family)
Media (magazines, TV, advertisements, etc.)
My significant other (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, etc.)
My friends
Other (NOTE: if you have a different answer then what's available here, please email it to me!)
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1. Please be 25 or older; I am searching for women who have a mature hind-sight. If you are not 25, but you TRULY do feel that you have achieved self-acceptance, love, and respect, then please contact me. Consideration will be taken.

2. Please be able to travel to Palm Springs, California. However, if you are within a reasonable distance from me (Southern and lower Central California, Western Arizona, and Southwestern Nevada), I am willing to meet with you at a more convenient location, if necessary.

3. Please have available a non-professional photo of yourself from 5+ years ago. It should be from a period that at the time it was taken, you thought of yourself as "fat", and now in hindsight when you look at it, you wonder why you were ever so hard on yourself because you no longer see that fat girl/woman in the photo. I don't care if you were/are a size 2; it is all about YOUR perception! It is with intent that this photo will be published in this book.

4. Please know and accept that you will not receive any monetary compensation for participating. However, free personal advertisement will be offered to all participants (i.e. Your own company, your own website, your own artwork or product, et cetera).

5. Please know that there will be a contract to protect both parties best interest. At any time, there will never be any obligation on your part. (Please see the F.A.Q. section below for additional details).

6. If you are seriously interested in participating, please include your regular (non-MySpace) email address in your initial correspondence to me. Thank you!

Q: How can I reach you other than through MySpace?
A: I can also be reached at [email protected].

Q: I sent you an email, it has been "read", and I haven't received a reply yet. Why?
A: I always appreciate your emails and read each and every one of them. Unfortunately, I am often not able to respond immediately because of numerous time restraints due to multiple projects I am working on. However, please rest assured that I will reply to your email in time. Your patience and understanding is absolutely appreciated!.

Q: What does "piim" stand for?
A: It stands for Perfection: It is me!

Q: Who is your target audience?
A: Young girls and women, ages 10 and up.

Q: Why do I need to travel to Palm Springs, or be within vicinity of you, in order to participate?
A: Included with every woman's inspirational story about their path to self-acceptance, a current photo will be published as well. I will exclusively be the photographer for all current photos.

Q: I would love to participate, but I am not located anywhere near you. What can I do?
A: I have several solutions. Collaborations for this book will likely take 9+ months to complete; therefore, if you are visiting the vicinity (examples: Los Angeles, San Diego, Las Vegas, Phoenix, etc.) within the next 9 months or so, we can get together then. Another option would be, that I may be able to visit you in your home area! I travel back to the East coast annually, and sometimes take side trips throughout the country. If this happens while I'm still creating the book, we can arrange to meet up. Finally, if you're not able to contribute your personal story, there are other ways to participate! Please see the In Search Of section below.

Q: Will there be any nudity in this book?
A: No. Since my readers may be as young as grade-school girls, ALL published photos must be "family-friendly" for viewing.

Q: What kind of photos will you be shooting for the "current" images?
A: The images will portray confidence, a fresh-attitude, and inner-beauty.

Q: Why must I be 25 or older to participate?
A: Because in my experience, it took me 26, almost 27 years to achieve self-acceptance. People go through most of their considerable changes up to the age of 25, then people slowly become settled in their personality. I feel that women at this age, and older, have the insight that I am looking for in this book. This is not to say that someone younger than 25 hasn't achieved this level of achievement yet. If YOU fall into this category, please contact me. All women will be taken into consideration as a participant.

Q: Where do you plan on distributing this book?
A: International distribution, first of all, is my goal. I also plan on targeting such stores as Torrid, Lane Bryant, The Avenue, and other national store chains that promote size-acceptance. And of course there's the obvious, the traditional book stores and internet.

Q: Why must I sign a contract?
A: To protect the best interest of both parties (you and I). The contract will not financially obligate you to anything. It will simply include an agreement of release for both photos (the "before" and "after") and your story, an agreement of understanding that there will be no monetary compensation, and a clear statement as to whether you desire to publish your real name or have a fictitious one used.

Q: Why should I participate if you're not going to pay me?
A: This is an opportunity for you to help out many other young girls and women out there. Don't you wish there was a book like this available when you were younger and going through the "ugly duckling" phase? I know that I wish I did, and that's why I'm creating this book for the girls and women of now!

Q: Will a portion of your profits be donated to any non-profit organizations?
A: Absolutely! I whole-heartedly believe in sharing the wealth and supporting non-profit organizations. As a matter of fact, I currently work for a non-profit animal sanctuary; it is one of my passions. I also believe that in order to better and improve society, you, as an individual, must contribute one way or another. At this time, I have yet to decide which organizations and what percentage will be donated. However, once determined, I will make the information available to the public.

all contributers will be credited & recognized in the book

* Make-up Artists (for the women in the photos - - - For your contribution, your company will be credited and recognized on the participant's page(s), and you will receive FREE advertising within the "size-friendly" business section).

* Drawing artists (capable of drawing the female form)

* Poets (revolving around self-acceptance, love, and respect)

* Advertisers (size-acceptance promoting companies - - - There will be an advertising FEE for non-participating contributors to advertise in the "size-friendly" business section)

* Fashion designers (for the women in the photo - - - For your contribution, your company will be credited and recognized on the participant's page(s), and you will receive FREE advertising within the "size-friendly" business section).

* Women celebrities! (What's more encouraging to a young girl/woman who sees a famous woman promoting self and size-acceptance?!? Too often, celebrities are seen as infallible and perfect in the eyes of a girl, and even more often, these girls try whatever it takes to achieve this perfection. What better way to help put an end to this vicious cycle than to hear it "straight from the horses mouth").

Your Body Image is 16% Unhealthy, 84% Healthy
You have a great body image. You know that no one looks perfect, and you're happy the way you are.
Also, you don't judge other people on their looks... and it helps them feel better about their own bodies! How's Your Body Image?

I'd like to meet:


I am looking for (only) women participants to contribute their story of self-acceptance. If you, or if you know of any other women friends, who would be interested in participating, please contact me here , or at [email protected].

Please read the entire profile before submitting any emails. There are some qualifications, and many questions can be answered here in the F.A.Q. section (to the left). If you do have any additional questions not covered under the F.A.Q. section, please feel free to contact me. Thank you for your cooperation!

And please, if you have nothing nice to say, please don't say it at all. Please direct any and all negativity elsewhere. Thanks in advance!

Save The World - One Click At A Time!

On each of these websites, you can click a button to support the cause -- each click creates funding, and costs you nothing! Bookmark these sites, and click once a day!

Click here to get the code to post these buttons on your website, myspace profile, or blog

Non-Stick Fit | Clothing For Real People

Get my banner code or create your own banner

Sexy Lingerie & Clubwear Sizes Small - 6x

Help support Kathy find a cure for Pediatric Brain Tumors by adding her as your friend and posting this on bulletins and to your profile. Let's bring awareness to this childhood-robbing disease!

Also visit Rosalie on MySpace at www.myspace.com/rosalie_muir

Also visit All Me on MySpace at www.myspace.com/all_me_womens_plus_size!

I want to personally share this site with my network, because I am actually making some extra cash with this. Nothing to quit a job over, BUT I am making enough for vacation money in the next 3 months! So check it out...it's ALWAYS free...it's VERY simple...it's fun. --- Hugs, Tabitha Beringer

This new section is here to help support the confident, self-assured woman who is proud to publicly display her natural assets.

These women won't hide from the public eye no matter what mainstream society tries to dictate. They are all beautiful, and they know it without a doubt!

Please show your support by visiting the websites and entering your vote. Society's terminology of "beauty" will only evolve if we persevere.
SUPPORT BEAUTY IN ALL OF HER SIZES.


If you would like to place yourself here, please visit PIIM's blog (click here) for instructions.
GOOD LUCK!

Heroes:



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And we shall call it... :::drum roll:::


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