Reading, writing, procrastinating, walking in nature, fighting the good fight, spiritual akido, ethnic festivals (I'm Scots-Irish, Cherokee and Polish but I love all the world's cultures) size acceptance (fighting all this anti fat hysteria) - weight obsession is a social disease! I am proud to be a women of size. I am also interested in the environment and have given up my car to help stop global warming! Yes, there are fat environmentalists, the weight of our carbon footprints has NOTHING to do with our BMI! Don't let all the preaching and judgments stop you from loving Mother Earth!!!And don't believe all the media scare studies. They are sponsored by Pharma to sell more pills! Which do far more harm than good. That is marketing, NOT science. Health and beauty comes in all shapes and sizes!!! I am also going to start reaching for my own stars and living my own dreams, I finally realize it is possible and I have been waiting far far too long!
I'd like to meet:
Someone who is truly NON COMPETITIVE. Someone who rejoices with all their being at their friend's success, and aches for their failures. In so many families, people begrude each other's accomplishments. Joy uplifts us all. But how many of us would rather remain where we are if we can't be the ones to shine the most. So we try to hold others back, so afraid we won't be the first, the best, or the brightest! We would rather miss all the illumination that comes when any one of us shines as brilliantly as they can. I wish that everyone could step forward towards their dreams with geniune blessings of those they love!*****I would like to meet someone who knows how to FORGIVE THEMSELVES. Guilt is one of the most toxic emotions there ever was. The judgment of others really comes from guilt we refuse to deal with in ourselves. If only we could accept the fact than not ONE of us is perfect and be comfortable in the knowledge the earth plane is simply a school for the spirit. That way we could accept mistakes in others as the same the human condition that makes us tick as well. No need for the illusion that separation from the "sinners" keeps us from sinning ourselves. The degree does not matter. You will screw up! I will screw up! We all will! So why can't we just embrace the lessons and gracefully move forward. The mystic Edgar Cayce said the only real sin was selfishness! Who among us can cast the first stone.***I would like to meet people with COURAGE TO BE THEMSELVES. It is so easy to care what others think. But when we are true to ourselves, we change the vibrations! We make a difference in consciousness. I have seen it done. But the thing is, it has to be done in little ways on a daily basis as well as defining moments in our journeys. Critical mass starts one inch at a time!***I would like to meet people who BREAK THE RULES. Not just for the sake of breaking them, but people confident enough to ignore rules that are repressive, dysfunctional, or just plain silly. Who made the rules anyway!And speaking of BREAKING DYSFUNCTIONAL RULES, this video by Joy Nash is a MUST WATCH for anyone trying to free themselves from weight obsession!!!
Music:
I am addicted to Celtic music. I also like "New Age"and spiritual. Carlos Nakai, Loreena McKennit, Enya, Clanad, Liam Lawton as well as traditional Irish stuff. I will always love the Beatles, especially John Lennon. I love many Broadway tunes, the one thing I miss about being a married suburbanite is season tickets to the theatre! Evita is one of my favorites because she broke all the rules and took life on her own terms. Wicked is awesome, but those who buck the system don't always get a happy ending! I recently walked to a K-mart in a daze and compulsively bought the best of Cher. I am enjoying it. Who knew!
Movies:
Silkwood. Robinhood! Leaving Las Vegas! Life is Beautiful! Chocolate! Only the Lonely! Lassie! Brother of the Wind! Benji! The Incredible Journey!(The original. Not the Disney remake with the snarky fat joke at the end!) Braveheart! Rob Roy! Night Mother! Baghdad Cafe! Hairspray! Real Women Have Curves (although "real women" don't necessarily HAVE to have pronounced curves either, all women are "real women." Reds! My favorite movie line of all times is from Reds. Jack Reed asks Diane Keaton (his love interest in movie) if she wanted to come with him to Russia. With typical female angst, she said "As what Jack? Your lover, wife, comrade, friend, peer??? What Jack??" He looked at her calmly and said "Thanksgiving is coming up! Why don't you come as a turkey?" If only women would learn, men are what they are!
Television:
I like mostly PBS. (Although it is increasingly coming under corporate control!) Ugly Betty! I don't really watch all that much t.v., I find myself feeling so much worse the wear when I do. Really is it about encouraging consumerism at the expense of our mental, physical and spiritual health!
Books:
The Thorn Birds Women Who Run With Wolves (Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes) Big Fat Lies(Glen Gaesser) The Nature of Prejudice(Gordon Allport) A Course in Miracles. The Celestine Prophecies. The Tibetan Book of the Dead. Fat?So!(Marilyn Wann) The Diet Myth!(Paul Campos) Love!(Leo Buscaglia) Hoopa Shoopa Donna (By Suzanne Stempek Shea - The Polish American "Amy Tan.") Circle of Friends.(Maeve Bichey) The Sociological Imagination(C.Wright Mills) You Just Don't Understand (How socialization causes women and men to miscommunicate- Deborah Tannen) Skinny Women Are Evil (Monique - of course "skinny" women are NOT evil, evil is the system that provides people privilege on body type alone) The one I haven't written yet.
Heroes:
Anyone who stands up for their beliefs against the odds. Those who don't go along with the crowd. Those who have the courage to heal. Those who have the courage to LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO TALK TO ANGELS!!!
MUST VISIT WEB SITES:
http://www.bigfatfacts.com/
http://www.bigfatblog.com
