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"Feminism is a movement for the liberation of women which, because women’s oppression is deeply embedded in everything must necessarily, then be a movement for the transformation of the whole society"-Charlotte Bunch"For men this means working to change society with feminist guidance, help to empower our Sisters, and importantly to work towards changing the accepted "normative masculinity"PROFESSOR ROBERT JENSEN: "We live in a culture in which rape and battery continue at epidemic levels. And in this culture, men are masturbating to orgasm in front of television and computer screens that present them sex with increasing levels of callousness and cruelty toward women. And no one seems to be terribly concerned about this. Right-wing opponents of pornography offer a moralistic critique that cannot help us find solutions, because typically they endorse male dominance, albeit not these manifestations of it. Some segments of the feminist movement, particularly the high-theory crowd in academic life, want us to believe that the growing acceptance of pornography is a sign of expanding sexual equality and freedom. Meanwhile, feminist critics of pornography have been marginalized in political and intellectual arenas. And all the while, the pornographers are trudging off to the bank with bags of money. I think this helps explain why even the toughest women -- women who at rape crisis centers routinely deal with sexual violence -- find the reality of pornography so difficult to cope with. No matter how hard it may be to face the reality of a rape culture, at least the culture still brands rape as a crime. Pornography, however, is not only widely accepted but sold to us as liberation. The struggle for men of conscience is to define ourselves and our sexuality differently, outside (to the degree possible) the domination/submission dynamic. It is not an easy task; like everyone, we are products of our culture and have to struggle against it. But as a man, I have considerable control over the conditions in which I live and the situations I am in. Women do not have that control. Women are vulnerable in a different way. Women are not just at risk of sexual violence but also have to deal with how men, who disproportionately hold positions of power in this society, view them. Women do not, and cannot, control that in the short term. The only resistance is collective, and the pornographers want to squash it When I critique pornography, I often am told to lighten up; sex is just sex, people say, and I should stop trying to politicize pornography. But pornography obviously is political. Telling men stories about sex in which women are three holes and two hands, not people, is political. It offers men a politics of sex and gender. And that politics is patriarchal and reactionary." . ..IF THIS FOUR FOOT FIVE 11 YEAR OLD LITTLE GIRL CAN FIGHT OFF A SIX FOOT TWO WOULD-BE RAPIST -MURDERER WITH HER OWN LITTLE HANDS THEN WE BIG MALES CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT PATRIARCHY. UNLESS WE DON'T WANT TO. ********Captain kidStreet-smart 4-foot-5 girl fights off 6-foot-2 kidnap suspect, helps in arrestBy NICOLE BODE DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITERTuesday, May 15th 2007, 4:00 AMPrint Email Suggest a Story Xochil Garcia may only be in sixth grade but she's got the smarts of a quick-thinking adult. The 11-year-old escaped from an alleged kidnap suspect twice her size in Brooklyn yesterday.Eleven-year-old Xochil Garcia kept herself ready for the worst, constantly rehearsing in her mind how she could escape an attacker or kidnapper.Little did she know her hours of mental preparation would pay off - possibly saving the Brooklyn girl's life.Last night, the 4-foot-5, 80-pound sixth-grader was hailed as a hero for fighting off an attacker twice her size - then having the wits about her to help capture the suspect."I always make my plan before there's a robbery or a kidnap[ping]," Xochil said from her Midwood home. "I think of a plan, like, if anybody kidnaps me, kick them back or scratch them - I'm growing my nails out. I went with Plan B."Plan B meant yanking backward with all her might as Bernard Mutterperl, 19, allegedly grabbed her in her apartment stairwell Sunday, dragged her into the lobby and tried to take her to another set of stairs leading to the roof.But Mutterperl, who stands 6-foot-2, had picked the wrong target."I always tell her, whatever happens, whatever these men do, don't go with them for anything," said mom Martha Hernandez. "Thank God she knows how to defend herself."Xochil was heading home from the corner store with a new bottle of nail polish for her mom on Mother's Day.The street-smart pixie spotted Mutterperl tailing her about a block from home and instinctively began to run for the door.She recalled seeing him talking to her landlord before, she said, and wondered if she had misjudged him.But after making it up two and a half flights of stairs in her building, Mutterperl grabbed her just short of her apartment, she said."He grabbed my mouth and told me to not scream. I thought he was going to take me up to the roof and rape me or something like that," Xochil said."When [we] went downstairs, he loosened my wrist a little bit. And I took advantage of that and I broke out of where he was holding me and I ran outside."Mutterperl was arraigned last night in Brooklyn Criminal Court on charges of unlawful imprisonment, endangering the welfare of a child and burglary. Bail was set at $25,000 cash or $75,000 bond."I was really scared," Xochil said. "I never thought this would happen to me. But I calmed down so I could remember my plan."She waited for Mutterperl's hand to go slack, then made a dash toward the building's front door. There, sobbing and shaking, she pressed all the buzzers in the building, summoning her 18-year-old brother, Angel Garcia, and several other concerned neighbors.Meanwhile, Mutterperl scrambled to escape, trying the roof and the basement doors before stripping down to his white undershirt in an attempt to conceal his identity, witnesses said.When he tried to sneak out the front door, the brave girl and her neighbors were waiting."My brother said, 'Is that him?' I said, 'Yes.' My brother said, 'Hold on a minute. You're not going anywhere.' Then that's when he took off," she recalled.Neighbor Timothy Isaac, 25, Angel Garcia, and at least three others caught up to the suspect, bringing him down on the sidewalk across the street.At first, Mutterperl, of Borough Park, Brooklyn, protested his innocence. But as they waited for cops to arrive, he changed his tune, saying, "I'm sorry, I won't do it again. I won't do it again," as the crowd pummeled him to keep him from escaping, Isaac said.Xochil, who called for her attacker to get a stiff sentence, warned other kids to think safety first. "Try to figure out a plan before somebody tries to kidnap you. That way if somebody tries to touch you, you're ready to attack them back."[email protected]

My Interests

"Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us."Andrea Dworkin...................................................Wo men's work in the movement is different than male's work. While we have to educate ourselves and be there in solidarity and friendship it is clear that our sisters don't need us to do the things that they are more than qualified to do and for which they have already created an infrastructure and a methodology. Women do not really expect us to help heal the rifts dividing Women, for example (these rifts which are caused by patriarchy (us)in the first place), to be theorists, in short to become involved in the aspects of feminist discourse that we do not belong in. We have different jobs on the practical level Our job is to help empower Women, and their job is to EMPOWER themselves. Some of the things that we can do, they cannot do, which are: *Work on changing ourselves and our concept of "manhood". *Work to remove the demand for pornography and prostitution. Pledge to not be "consumers". *Pledge and *act* to eradicate rape. *Pledge and *act* to eradicate DV and all forms of violence against Women and kids. * To learn to listen and to try to *not* do things which get in the way of Women realizing their full potential, by doing the things that we are so accustumed to doing, like allways trying to lead the show, allways pushing out 'ideas" on to them, such as religion, patriarchal political perspectives, personaly crowding them in a social-emotional context, etc. *Do our share of housework, (and childcare when relationships with children are involved). *Support feminism as males,because since as males we have unfortunately more agency than our sisters, our united voices will help to change the perception of males from thinking "oh those are the guys that are allied with those crazy manhaters" to 'those guys are part of that political movement that espouses those politics".Like anything else involving social change, coordinating of action always works best with a disciplined group that is specialized and as our job is different, then it is logical that we rally males to do that job.

I'd like to meet:

THIS IS A SITE FOR MALES WHO IDENTIFY WITH RADICAL FEMINISMThere are guys here ranging in age from 17 to their mid 50s. Most of us share the desire to begin to learn to unlearn the harmful things that patriarchy has taught us and to begin to create a caucus that adds our voices in unison to this movement. I know that some of us are going to be a little scared. I know i am a little scared, because I have wanted this for so long, and only now, with the advent of the Internet has it been possible to even think of gathering like-minded males in one place to begin to organize. To the guys I would like to say, fear patriarchy more than fear embarrasing ourselves. When we were born we were not patriarchists. We were children. We have to regard the enemy of our Sisters as our enemy. We have to shut the door on him.

Music:

Postmodernism is an academic theory, originating in academia with an academic elite, not in the world of women and men, where feminist theory is rooted. Catharine MacKinnonSo the idea that there is nothing essential, in the sense that there are no human universals, is dogma. Ask most anyone who is going to be shot at dawn. Catharine MacKinnonTo be a prisoner means to be defined as a member of a group for whom the rules of what can be done to you, of what is seen as abuse of you, are reduced as part of the definition of your status. Catharine MacKinnonWhat postmodernism gives us instead is a multicultural defense for male violence - a defense for it wherever it is, which in effect is a pretty universal defense. Catharine MacKinnon" It is contrary to the interests of *women* for men to be less that straightforward about their sex particularly in a forum whose work is part of the fight to free women from men's oppression of us." Delphyne.

Movies:

The Ethics of Care:As Hoagland remarks: "(1) The focus and direction of traditional ethics, indeed its function, has not been individual integrity and agency (ability to make choices and act) but rather social organization and control. (2) The values around which traditional ethics revolves are antagonistic, the values of dominance and subordination. As a result, (3) traditional ethics undermines rather than promotes individual moral ability and agency. And (4) these aspects of traditional ethics combine to legitimize oppression by redefining it as social organization. Appeal to rules and principles is at the heart of this endeavor."In short, the masculine ethics of justice is rational, objective, and impersonal--and that is what makes it inhuman. A truly human ethics would be based on care and a sense of responsibility and obligation to others. Or to put this in terms of feminist epistemology, true objectivity consists in recognizing how emotional involvement in making moral judgments is not only proper but necessary in order to identify exactly what action is done. We can be objective without losing our sense of humanity because being objective means being obligated to try to identify with the person doing an action in order to understand exactly what he or she is doing, thinking, or feeling.

Books:

“Voices of Men” ..TR Ben Atherton-Zeman has thirteen years of experience working at domestic violence programs and rape crisis centers. In addition to performing “Voices,” he is ...
www.voicesofmen.org/ ..TABLE

Ben Atherton-Zeman. He is a male feminist. He is a man who is working for women’s rights, especially ending violence against women.

Heroes:

MARY DALY, POSITIVELY REVOLTING HAG!(FROM MARY DALY'S NEW INTERGALACTIC WICKEDARY:Positively Revolting Hag, "a stunning, beauteous Crone; one who inspires positive revulsion from phallic institutions and morality, inciting Others to Acts of Pure Lust"AND SISTERS EVERYWHERE.

My Blog

Feminist advice for pro-radical feminist males involved in working on porn and prostitution

..> Feminist Women's advice for males doing antiporn Activism. ...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Thu, 20 Sep 2007 11:46:00 PST

YOUNG WOMEN SENTENCED

THE LESBIAN 7-BETRAYED BY MAN'S COURT- LESBIAN 7: THE ANGER GROWSWritten by One People's ProjectTu...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Thu, 28 Jun 2007 08:53:00 PST

Sonia Johnson, on patriarchal time

All around me every day I hear people complain, "I don't have time." "There's not enough time." "I need 36 hours in every day." I say it myself, although I know that there is plenty of time, all the ...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Tue, 26 Jun 2007 10:47:00 PST

Sheila Jeffreys : "The obscenity of porn: X rated an exploitative

"The obscenity of porn: X-rated and exploitive Sheila Jeffreys May 29, 2007 The discussion on pornography needs a reality check. Pornography does not represent jolly sexual tumbling which can pr...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Fri, 01 Jun 2007 01:27:00 PST

Listening: What man must do. part one of 200.

kellum asked me to send this out as a bulletin and Amy recomended " You should post this as a blog'. May 24, 2007 8:24 PM Subject for gregor.... what can men do? This is a request from kellum, that m...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Fri, 25 May 2007 01:35:00 PST

Are feminist males in the closet?

Are feminist males in the closet?While this thought was being formed, another phrase,also comming from the gay community jumped at me."I'ts not a choice". I really do not know where I am taking this. ...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Tue, 22 May 2007 09:08:00 PST

What feminism is and Isn't= Women's discourse on feminism.

..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..> By Cheryl Lindsey Seelhoff. (This was written by a feminist Woman for Women, and is presented here to expose people to contemporay radical ...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Fri, 18 May 2007 10:16:00 PST

Jesus and Jerry and Tom Dick and Harry

..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..>..>Jesus and Jerry and Tom Dick and Harry ..RIP ..(revised )Reposted: Jesus and Jerry, Tom Dick and Harry: RIP (please!) Body: Posted by XY Radical Feminsts on 15 May 2007:MARY...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Wed, 16 May 2007 07:22:00 PST

Rebecca Wisnant paper part 1 thereof. PPC conference

  Not Your Father's Playboy, Not Your Mother's Feminist Movement: Contemporary Feminism in a Porn Culture A talk delivered by Rebecca Whisnant at the conference "Pornography and Pop Culture: &...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Sat, 28 Apr 2007 05:36:00 PST

Women's Space

In Defense of Separatist Space: Mary Daly's Forced Retirement Boston College has attempted to force Mary Daly into retirement due to her refusal to teach men with women in her Feminist Ethics class. S...
Posted by XY Radical Feminists on Wed, 25 Apr 2007 11:41:00 PST