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Stefan

I am here for Serious Relationships, Friends and Networking

About Me

I am an intelligent, complex, introspective man who is currently working all the live long day as a locomotive engineer. I sold my house in the city and bought a chalet up in the mountains. I enjoy surfing, sailing, scuba diving, skiing, snowboarding, hiking, sky diving, ect. I have a BA in English Literature but could not handle all of the BS involved with teaching or any of the jobs I've done in the past, so I'm working for the railroad where you have a minimum of people to deal with and make decent money. I drive trains all over LA and to garden spots like Yermo, CA and Yuma, AZ. I work crazy long hours, which is not exactly conducive to maintaining interpersonal relationships. One has to make sacrifices to get ahead in life. I am the son of hippie artist parents who were nomads. The wanderlust rubbed off on me, so I have lived in many different places, which include Silver Plume & Georgetown, Colorado, Smithland, Kentucky, Vladivostok & Blagoveshensk, Russia, Yelm & Olympia, Washington, and in California: Danville, San Francisco, Pacifica, San Juan Capistrano, Malibu, Woodland Hills, Santa Barbara, Long Beach, Marina del Rey, Cheviot Hills, Pomona, and currently Crestline. I am looking for interesting soul searching "bohemian" types who are looking for someone to spend quality time with (schedule permitting). In addition to outdoor sports, I love live music, playing the guitar and conga drums, dancing (learned how to swing dance in Russia of all places), yoga, kick boxing, theatre, cinema, poetry, art, good food, traveling, beauty, ect...

My Interests

I'd like to meet:

An intelligent, attractive, educated, independent, mature, open-minded, compassionate, emotionally and financially secure, creative, humorous, passionate, sensual, athletic, well-travelled, adventurous woman.

Music:

Anything soulful, melancholy, or that has a good beat. Rhythm and blues, jazz, swing, bluegrass, country, rock n roll, soul, world music, hip-hop, reggae, ska, college radio (KCRW 89.9 kcrw.com, KPFK 90.7 kpfk.org, KXLU 88.9 kxlu.com, KJZZ 88.1 kjzz.org, KSPC 88.7 kspc.org). Some of the BIGGIES for me: Leonard Cohen, Nina Simone, Ottis Redding, Marvin Gaye, Jeff Buckley, Mazzy Star, Ben Harper, John Lee Hooker, Leadbelly, Mahalia Jackson, Frank Sinatra, James Brown, Aretha Franklin, Al Green, Percy Sledge, Sam Cooke, Louis Armstrong, Stephane Grappelli, Django Reinhardt, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Ray Charles, Waldemar Bastos, Buena Vista Social Club, The Doors, Jimi Hendrix, The Beatles, Janis Joplin, Richie Havens, Steve Miller Band, REM, Sarah McLachlan, Maria Callas, Mozart, Chopin, Beethoven, Vivaldi, Bach, Ravel, Puccini, Segovia, Kronos Quartet, Anonymous 4, Yo-Yo Ma, Billie Holliday, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, Sade, Alison Krauss, Cowboy Junkies, Jimmy Buffet, The Beach Boys, The Lively Ones, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, Cold Play, Radiohead, Jack Johnson, Prince, Golden Palominoes, Lauryn Hill, Norah Jones, 10000 Maniacs, Natalie Merchant, Fiona Apple, Tracy Chapman, Tori Amos, Tom Waits, Edith Piaf, Ladysmith Black Mambazo, David Gray, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Jimmy Cliff, UB40, Portishead, Beck, Seu Jorge, Hank Williams, Patsy Cline, Jonny Cash, Willie Nelson, Van Morrison, Nick Drake, Joy Division, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Tool, System Of A Down, Jane's Addiction, Sublime, Rage Against The Machine, Dead Prez, Fugees, AMG, The Roots, The Beastie Boys, Bjork, Brazzaville, The Cranberries, Damien Rice, Iron and Wine, The Black Keys, Zero 7, Sean Hayes, Ray Lamontagne, Skye, Mulatu Astatke, Paolo Nutini, I could keep going... In short, music keeps me alive!

Movies:

Just a few that have left an impression: Dead Poets Society, Vanilla Sky, The Graduate, Solaris, Adaptation, Last Tango In Paris, Apocalypse Now, The Wonder Boys, Igby Goes Down, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 10 Things To Do In Denver When You're Dead, My Dinner With Andre, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, House Of Flying Daggers, Hero, Enter The Dragon, Joe vs The Volcano (seriously), The Princess Bride, Legend, Man On Fire, Braveheart, Doctor Zhivago, Say Anything, The Rules of Attraction, Fight Club, The Mothman Prophesies, Jacob's Ladder, Event Horizon, Mr. Smith Goes To Washington, Rear Window, Lawrence Of Arabia, Casablanca, Citizen Kane, The Third Man, The Manchurian Candidate, Dr. Strangelove, The Thomas Crown Affair, Brazil, Il Postino, The Bicycle Thief, Seven Samurai, Blade Runner, Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, The Talented Mr Ripley, The Searchers, The Outsiders, Stand By Me, Emelie, Big Night, Like Water For Chocolate, Chocolat, How The West Was Won, Tombstone, Unforgiven, Rozencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Shakespeare In Love, Hamlet, Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf, Cool Hand Luke, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, American Beauty, The Dreamers, Magnolia, Endless Summer, Gandi, O Brother Where Art Thou, The Sixth Sense, Lost In Translation, Stealing Beauty, The Last Temptation Of Christ, The Passion Of Christ, Sideways, Genghis Blues, Star Wars, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Eyes Wide Shut, Rize, Mind Walk, A Brief History Of Time, What The Bleep Do We Know, Garden State, Elizabethtown, Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, As Good As It Gets, The Royal Tenebaums, Rushmore, I Love Huckabees, The Life Aquatic, The Matrix Trilogy, Lord Of The Rings, Life Is Beautiful, Great Expectations, The Motorcycle Diaries, Sin City, Mystic River, Ray, Walk The Line, The Red Violin, Comedian, The Aristocrats, Memento, Ali G In Da House (Buyashaka, Respect!), Dave Chappelle's Block Party (Bitch!), Match Point, An Incovenient Truth, Everything Is Illuminated, Broken Flowers, Borat, The Good Shepherd, 300, Babel, Running With Scissors, A Good Year, The Pursuit Of Happyness, Half Nelson, The Science Of Sleep, Little Miss Sunshine, Bobby, The Lost Tomb Of Jesus, Stranger Than Fiction...

Television:

Northern Exposure was the greatest TV show ever made! I occasionally watch Jeopardy, Allah help me--the news, 24, The Office, Saturday Night Live, Reno 911, Family Guy, The Simpsons, South Park, Real Time, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Entourage, Real Sex, Inside The Actor's Studio, Sports Center, Animal Planet, Discovery Channel, History Channel, and PBS.

Books:

The Kama Sutra, The Bible, An Introduction To Philosophy, The Teachings Of Buddha, Portrait Of An Artist As A Young Man, Norweigian Wood, Catcher In The Rye, Franny And Zooey, For Whom The Bell Tolls, The Sun Also Rises, The Old Man And The Sea, The Snows Of Kilimanjaro, The Poetry Of Rumi, The Sea Wolf, Call Of The Wild, Two Years Before The Mast, Master And Commander, Once Upon The River Love, Dreams Of My Russian Summers, The Tropic Of Cancer, Black Sunday, Travels With Charlie, Of Mice And Men, The Pearl, A Tale Of Two Cities, Run Rabbit Run, The Celestine Prophesy, The Tenth Insight, Invisible Man, Snow Country, The Norton Anthology of Poetry, Leaves Of Grass, On The Road, Don Quixote, The Canterbury Tales, Still Life For Woodpecker, Desert Solitaire, Walden, Civil Disobedience, Profiles In Courage, Sole Survivor, Something Wicked This Way Comes, Angels And Demons, The DaVinci Code, One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest, Huckleberry Finn, Uncle Tom's Cabin, Beloved, The Prophet, Beowulf, The Alchemist, The Complete Works of Shakespeare, Thus Spake Zarathustra, The Devine Comedy, The Odyssey, The Scarlet Letter, The Metamorphosis, In The Penal Colony, The Teachings Of Don Juan, A Separate Reality, Decline And Fall, Lord Of The Rings, The Hobbit, Heart Of Darkness, 1984, Animal Farm, The Golden Ass, Brave New World, Contact, One Hundred Years Of Solitude, Lucid Dreaming, Paradise Lost, Letters To A Young Poet, To The Lighthouse, The Living, The Road, Into The Wild, Autobiography Of A Yogi...

Heroes:

My grandfather. A scholar and a gentleman. Rest In Peace. My grandmother. A saint of a woman. Rest In Peace. My mother, who gave up her dreams of fortune and fame as an actress to raise six children. My twin sister, who has maintained her inner beauty no matter what ugliness this world has thrown at her. My brother, who is like a father to me, as well as a best friend. My older sister, who had to help raise two troublesome twins. My nana, for her continuing love and support into her 90s! My uncle, for showing me that hard work pays off with the finer things in life $$$.

My Blog

Questions For A Lover

Are you my North Star?Can I look to you in the dark of nightwhen I am alone and lost and find direction?Will you be my compass? Can I trust you to always be constant and true?If I am adrift in a ragin...
Posted by Stefan on Wed, 22 Aug 2007 06:38:00 PST

The Children of Stars

Suddenly from out of the void life exploded From a singularityNecessary elements coalesced Chain reactions in the stardustEarth came into creationAn oasis in the desert of space and timeElectrically c...
Posted by Stefan on Mon, 04 Jun 2007 05:33:00 PST

Sex, love, and infidelity.

A response I had to a blog one of my lady friends wrote on the topic of sex and infidelity and its prevalence in television, etc. "There is nothing to be afraid of (except STD's)--genitals are our fr...
Posted by Stefan on Sun, 20 May 2007 05:51:00 PST

Friendship and Times Past

They say you can't really ever go home again once you've left the nest. Things are never the same as they were before. Your memories seem to taint the taste of the place you thought you knew, which is...
Posted by Stefan on Fri, 16 Feb 2007 11:00:00 PST

Death On A Winter's Afternoon

"A wild thing show self-pity I have never seen. A small bird will drop dead from a frozen bough, never having felt sorry for itself." -D.H. Lawrence Today as I was taking a walk around the lake near m...
Posted by Stefan on Sat, 16 Dec 2006 12:34:00 PST

An Inconvenient Truth (www.climatecrisis.net)

If by some strange chance you find yourself reading these words and have not yet seen usurped President Al Gore's film/lecture An Inconvenient Truth, I whole-heartedly implore you to do so. Hopefully ...
Posted by Stefan on Fri, 17 Nov 2006 12:19:00 PST

Down With The Fascists!

Thank God and every other deity I can think of that the Republicans lost control of the House and Senate! Good riddance to Rumsfeld! America finally came to its senses and voted against the corporate ...
Posted by Stefan on Fri, 10 Nov 2006 08:02:00 PST

For My Friends

Dear friends present and pastForgive me if I wanted more from you than you were willing or able to giveAnd vice versaForgive me if I did not fully understand youIt was no doubt mutualForgive me my moo...
Posted by Stefan on Mon, 30 Oct 2006 01:23:00 PST

Soul's Midnight

Restlessly mind wandering At the soul's midnight Frantically scrolling through screens of desperate faces and pretty words The searcher precariously searches... Riding this wave of technology...
Posted by Stefan on Mon, 01 Jan 1900 12:00:00 PST