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Steve

Can the Master's tools be used to dismantle the Master's house?

About Me

I am originally from Boston, but have been in St. Louis for 10 years. I enjoy the arts – theater, dance, art openings, museums, and concerts. I try to see most of the innovative things that come through town. For the last couple of years, I have been going to the clubs more, but there needs to be something fun happening for me to enjoy it - dancing, karaoke, drag show, strippers - or ideally all of the above.
I am very political and about as far left as you can get without being arrested under the Patriot Act. I am a pro-feminist man and do not tolerate anti-Semitism, misogyny, racism, ethnocentrism, or homophobia. I am also totally and completely out. I don’t feel the need to wear a button or announce it to everyone I meet, but I also never stay silent when it would be natural or appropriate to talk about my sexual identity. I grew up and was educated as an activist in the “Silence = Death” years, and I still believe it. I will not go back into any kind of closet.
I am also a fun-loving person with an ability to laugh at myself. I try to take life as it comes and enjoy every day. I like video games and pinball, movies (making and watching them), love a good science-fiction novel, and am glad that there are some constants in life - like Wendy's Frosties. I love lesbian punk music, 80s disco, and traditional folk music. I am always looking for the new adventure.

My Interests

Activism, The Meaning of Life, Cultural Diversity.

I'd like to meet:

1) Anyone who believes that community is possible.
2) Anyone who believes that still being an idealist in your forties is ok.
3) Anyone who believes that the process is just as important as the result.
4) Anyone who is willing to speak truth to power.
5) Anyone who knows how to let loose and have fun.
6) Anyone who has room in his/her life for real friendship.
7) Anyone who accepts imperfection and admires the effort.
8) Anyone who is willing to be a fish trying to understand water.
9) Anyone who is in love with life and enraged by injustice at the same time.
10) Anyone who can make things happen.

Also,
1) Queer folks who know or want to learn our history.
2) Queer folks ready to be the change.
2) Folks who are working to end heterosexism.
3) Folks who are working to end racism.
4) Folks who are working to end sexism.
5) Folks who are working to end able-ism.
6) Folks who are challenging the constriction of binary gender.
7) Folks who are working to end imperialism.
8) Folks who are working to transform the class structure.
9) Folks who understand that as long as anyone is oppressed, none of us are truly free.
10) Folks who are more radical than I am, and are willing to challenge me about the ways I still conspire with the system.

And, an exciting guy to date would also be nice.

Music:

Scott Matthew, Jay Brannan, They Might Be Giants, The B-52s, Scissor Sisters, Judy Small, Jean and June Millington, Kay Gardner, Laura Nyro, Linda Tillery, Lucie Blue Trembley, The Bangles, Beastie Boys, Bikini Kill, Bitch and Animal, Bratmobile, Alison Krauss and Union Station, Tori Amos, Annie Lennox, Cat Stevens, David Bowie, Diana Krall, Joni Mitchell, The Breeders, The Butchies, Deee-lite, Jonny McGovern, The Thompson Twins, Duran Duran, Echo and the Bunnymen, Depeche Mode, The Sex Pistols, The Ramones, The Clash, The Cure, Joy Division, New Order, The Go-Gos, Tami Hart, Le Tigre, Second Chapter of Acts, The Need, Pansy Division, Teresa Trull, Vicki Randle, Chicago Women’s Liberation Rock Band, The Dyketones, MUSE, Indigo Girls, Pink, The Pixies, Adhamh Roland, Caleb Engstrom, Sleater-Kinney, Siouxsie and the Banshees, The Smiths, Erasure, Panty Assault, Alix Dobkin, Barbara Higbie, Aquabats, Kathy Fire, Bernice Johnson Reagon, Sweet Honey in the Rock, Toshi Reagon, Betsy Rose, Berkeley Women’s Music Collective, Jasmine, Cathy Fink, Cathy Roma, Cathy Winter, Connie Caldor, Cris Williamson, Ferron, Holly Near, Casselberry and Dupree, Judy Fjell, Velvet Underground, Sarah Brightman, Cocteau Twins, Throwing Muses, Kate Bush, Bjork, Human League, Patti Smith, Sonic Youth, Team Dresch, Ace of Base, That's My Daughter, Tribe 8, Suzanne Vega, Devo, Talking Heads, Jesus and Mary Chain, Panty Assault, Everclear, Sum 41, Green Day, Quiet Riot, John Denver, Nine Inch Nails, Rufus Wainwright, Bronski Beat, Blink 182, Lynn Lavner, Malvina Reynolds, Margie Adam, Maxine Feldman, Suzanne Vega, Meg Christian, Flying Lesbians, Phranc, Robin Flower, Ronnie Gilbert, The Washington Sisters, Sue Fink, Tracy Chapman…

Movies:

There are two movies. Harold -n- Maude is the first. Until you can recite at least 30 minutes of dialogue from Harold -n- Maude, you shouldn't be wasting your time watching any other movies. Shortbus is the second. Though only currently available for view at selected theaters, this is the first movie I have seen in 25 years that I could watch over and over again.

Television:

I am on a TV break. When I moved into my new apartment, I decided not to get cable. So, my TV is now used for dvds and videos only. Though TV on DVD might get me hooked again. I recently watched all of Dead Like Me.

Books:

I like books like Imelda liked shoes. This is a preliminary list that will be updated from time to time.
Authors:
Angelou - The Caged Bird is still singing
Atwood - The Handmaids Tale
Boylan - She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders
Burroughs - Everything he writes is hilarious, and if I had had his childhood, I would have run with scissors, too.
Campbell - how else will you find a hero
Camus - The Stranger should be read by every teenager
Cather - She was queering america and most readers didn't even notice
Chabon - Summerland, Pittsburgh, Wonderboys, and so much more
Conan Doyle - Sherlock Holmes was the inspiration of my childhood
Dostoevsky - Notes from the Underground
Gombrowicz - my polish obsession, go read Ferdydurke - I'll wait here until you are done
Hamilton - myths, myths, myths
bell hooks - her most recent trilogy on love is must reading for anyone who is serious about relationships
Hurston - Her Eyes Were Watching God, but she also left a record of those who were here on earth
Kerouac - We are all still On the Road
King - Ok, I like Stephen King, so sue me
Lorde - The Master's Tools will never be enough to dismantle the master's house, but Lorde has mastered those tools as well as creating new ones
Morrison - Toni tells us the truth and gives us a window into worlds closed to most
Orwell - We are living in 1984. Doublespeak anyone?
Palahniuk - Choke on it, it is not just fight club.
Rice - both mother and son. Ask me about the night I met Anne Rice at a pornographer's party. I wish it had been Christopher, but I don't think he was out of diapers yet.
Sacks - I mistook my ex-bf for an umbrella once
Sedaris - David is one of the funniest queers on the planet
Tartt - frat boys in the woods, what more could you want?
Woolf - Don't be afraid
Zinn - He speaks the truth to power.
Fantasy/Sci-Fi Worlds:
Disc World
Dune
Foundation
Harry Potter
Hitchhikers
Star Trek - all incarnations
Thieves' World

Heroes:

If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did, and it never will. -- Fredrick Douglas

How we remember, what we remember, and why we remember form the most personal map of our individuality. -- Christina Baldwin

The trouble is that not enough people have come together with the firm determination to live the things which they say they believe. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

My Blog

Blog Move

Loyal readers - I have moved my blog to here.  I will prolly still post announcements and such here, but my main location for writings and musings will be http://publiccontemplation.blogspot.com/...
Posted by Steve on Wed, 28 May 2008 03:01:00 PST

Secrets

People tell me secrets.  In my work as a counselor, case manager, and group facilitator, people have told me a lot of secrets, but this is not what I am talking about.  In my personal life, ...
Posted by Steve on Mon, 05 May 2008 01:59:00 PST

Nero Wolfe

Rex Stout wrote 40 Nero Wolfe novels in a little over 40 years.  I have read about 15 of them since I started working through them a couple of weeks ago.  I love a goo..ive.  Sherlock H...
Posted by Steve on Sun, 04 May 2008 11:32:00 PST

Own your unique beauty

Four experiences have gotten me thinking about body image again,especially the damage it seems to do to gay men.  For some reason, while this phenomenon has impacted me, primarily in my partner c...
Posted by Steve on Fri, 02 May 2008 11:05:00 PST

May Day, May Day

I like sex.  This is no surprise to people who know me.  And, I think a significant percentage of the population likes sex, so I don't think this is one of my eccentricities.  2008 has ...
Posted by Steve on Thu, 01 May 2008 10:32:00 PST

Eight years

Eight years ago there was an 18 year old gay boy in my life.  (A friend - for those of you with dirty minds.  I was in a monogamous LTR at the time.)  He was closeted when I met him and...
Posted by Steve on Wed, 30 Apr 2008 12:33:00 PST

Faggot

So, I had an afternoon hook-up with a young friend of mine today.  Very unexpected, I hadn't planned to meet up with him today, and already had a liason earlier in the day.  And, we did not ...
Posted by Steve on Mon, 28 Apr 2008 02:58:00 PST

Dining Out for Life @ Guido - Next Thursday

Ok, folks. Dinging Out For Life (DOFL) happens only once a year. (Well, we moved the date this year so it seems like twice, but this is the only DOFL in 2008.) So, be there.Here's what I want:1) EV...
Posted by Steve on Thu, 17 Apr 2008 06:37:00 PST

Pride de-friends me

So, I was looking this morning for the original bulletin that Pride St. Louis sent out over their myspace page about tonight’s Open House.  And, I couldn’t find it in my bul...
Posted by Steve on Fri, 14 Mar 2008 07:22:00 PST

Do the clothes make the gay?

Here is the message I got from The St. Louis Pride Committee on MySpace.  Maybe you got it too.  (I added the bold). "Just a quick reminder that THIS FRIDAY, March 14. 2008 we will be having...
Posted by Steve on Mon, 10 Mar 2008 08:09:00 PST