?I?m reminded that the 1940s and 1950s had Richard Wright, this century?s heir to this legacy is Torrance Stephens. It is brilliant short storytelling at its finest.? RAYMOND A. WINBUSH, PHD ? DIRECTOR, INSTITUTE FOR URBAN RESEARCH, MORGAN STATE UNIVERSITY
"Raw and erudite, Torrance Stephens? writing is philosophical lyricism with a sensual edge. In the tradition of Iceberg Slim, his work carries the immediacy of corner stoop storytelling but is that rare creation--African American oral tradition in a literary form. LISA RICHARDSON- LOS ANGELES TIMES
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Linda Dominique Grosvenor Comments on Realtionships from an Interview
A healthy relationship is a relationship where the needs of both people in the relationship are being met on a variety of levels ie. spiritual, physical, sexual and emotional. A healthy relationship should constantly move forward and forge a bond that leads to marriage and counts on the both of you making plans for your future together.
The sad fact is that many partners go into relationships not fully expressing their needs and even more than that, they are refusing to communicate their likes and dislikes in and out of the bedroom. While girlfriends will huddle together and say what they will or will not stand for from a man, often times, they aren't as verbal to someone they have deep feelings for because they fear losing them.On the flipside, sex isn't an issue for every relationship. Lots of relationships survive on the companionship aspect of it alone. The key here again is to communicate. Don't say that you're alright with certain arrangements only to resent them later. If two people who only seek to cuddle end up finding each other, they won't need the sex. If two people who come together for sex, but only need a monthly sexual outlet and that's enough, they've found their perfect match in one another. In my book The Plural Thing, I implore men and women to say what they want, mean it, and stick to it.
The most important qualities are trust, respect and communication. You can't love someone if you don't trust, respect or communicate with them.
We don't date with the right perspective. Dating is supposed to be a precursor to marriage. Nowadays, we date like it's an all you can eat buffet. When you are dating you are supposed to be making an attempt to get to know a person on a deeper level and friendships that aren't kept with the boundaries of friendship can hinder that.We haven't been taught how or when to break ties with or "cool down" some former relationships that may be detrimental to the budding relationship itself. This is not to say that you have to abandon your friendships for the relationship, but by the same token, the Bible does say, to "cleave" to your spouse. What better way to practice cleaving than to never put anyone before your partner.
People take their cues from Hollywood instead of God. We trade each other in like cars and want to upgrade the minute we see a quality in someone else that we don't see in the person we are with. We're selfish people for the most part, but there are some happily married people out there. I know plenty of them and I plan on being one of those in the married 50 years statistics!
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