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About Me

I'm a moderately well known educator in the area of health, relationships, and sexuality. I've written 11 books, five of which are currently in print -- including "SM 101: A Realistic Introduction" "Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook" and "Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies" -- all published by Greenery Press.

I'm also working on a personal website at JayWiseman.com.

Personally, I'm heterosexual, polyamorous, something of a switch but very much a dom at heart. (I recently had this knowledge reinforced in a very pleasant way.) I travel a fair amount giving presentations, mostly relating to BDSM, and am on a plane going somewhere about once a month. I'm also a former ambulance crewman and currently teach classes in CPR and emergency care, at both the basic and advanced levels, for various groups -- especially alternative communities such as dungeon monitors, ravers, and sex workers.

My Interests

Videography, EMS, BDSM, law.

I'd like to meet:

IMPORTANT NOTICE:

After mulling it over, I have decided to be relatively liberal in adding people to my friends list. This being the case, a reader should NOT infer from the fact that someone is on my friend's list that I necessarily know that person either online or in real life. A reader should also NOT infer from that the fact that someone is on my friends list that I necessarily think well of that person or would recommend them in either a personal or professional capacity.

Regarding my friend's list, in most cases, I've never met the person in real life and also have not had much interaction with them online, so I really know very little about them and have essentially no information upon which to base an opinion and/or a recommendation regarding that person, be it either positive or negative.

In most cases, all their presense on my friends list means is that they asked if they could be on that list and I approved their request, usually on the basis of only a very cursory reading of their profile.

Also, again after mulling it over and trying different approaches, I now generally don't approve "thanks for the add" comments and/or comments with a holiday theme. If you know me and have something to say about me (preferably something good ), I will probably add that comment, but otherwise probably not. It's nothing personal. Somewhat snarky person that I can sometimes be, I'm just not a big fan of things like "thanks for the ad" comments.

Music:

Classical music, especially Mozart, classic 60's music, (What? Me? An aging hippie?) Psychedelic, Folk (Doors, Jefferson Airplane, Stones, Simon and Garfunkle, Animals, Dylan, Mammas and Papas, The Blues Project,)

Movies:

Fail Safe, Dr. Strangelove, The Godfather, Pink Panther, Soylent Green

Television:

Sopranos, Big Love, Law and Order, Daily Show, South Park, Deadwood, History channel, Tonight Show, OZ, Rumpole of the Bailey

Books:

Harry Turtledove, Ed McBain, Isaac Asimov, George R.R. Martin, Steven King, Joseph Wambaugh, George MacDonald Frazier (Flashman series), Steven Covey, Isaac Asimov (both fiction and nonfiction), Robert Heinlein

My Blog

Those wacky Canadians!

http://www.reuters.com/article/oddlyEnoughNews/idUSN15389382 20080516?rpc=64> Canadian pierces lover's heart in botched sex gameFri May 16, 2008 10:20am EDT OTTAWA (Reuters) - A Can...
Posted by Jay on Sat, 31 May 2008 02:58:00 PST

California Supreme Court eyes polygamy

Hi all, In it's recent 4 to 3 ruling that the ban on gay marriage was a violation of the California Constitution (gay marriage foes intend to place a measure on the ballot to alter the state's constit...
Posted by Jay on Sat, 17 May 2008 05:45:00 PST

Wife charged in husband’s bondage death

Woman charged with bondage death of husbandAssociated PressOriginally published 06:32 a.m., April 23, 2008Updated 06:32 a.m., April 23, 2008 COLUMBIA, Tenn. A Maury County woman has beencharged with...
Posted by Jay on Fri, 25 Apr 2008 09:59:00 PST

First Aid/CPR class

Hi all, It was my pleasure, and my privilege, to fly down to Los Angeles this past weekend to teach a First Aid/CPR class for the Threshold DMs. I’ve done such classes several times before, in a...
Posted by Jay on Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:02:00 PST

So about that new "compression only" (alleged) CPR

Given that I teach FA/CPR classes, and have participated in hundreds of actual resuscitations, people have started sending me the story about the "New CPR" that eliminates giving mouth-to-mouth breath...
Posted by Jay on Wed, 02 Apr 2008 11:52:00 PST

Musings on matters TNG-ish

[I posted this in reply to a friend’s blog post, and decided to post it here as well on a "just because" basis.] It’s interesting, and more than a bit sad, to observe that "the whole TNG t...
Posted by Jay on Mon, 24 Mar 2008 09:29:00 PST

NY Times article: the fantasy of faithfulness

Hi all, Interesting article, eh? http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/18/science/18angi.html?_r=1&a mp;no_interstitial&oref=slogin Best, Jay ...
Posted by Jay on Tue, 18 Mar 2008 10:39:00 PST

Charges filed in SM-related death

Hi all, This story is out of Quebec. Police say that death by strangulation is a "strong possibility." http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20080228. wlsado28/BNStory/lifeMain/?page...
Posted by Jay on Fri, 29 Feb 2008 05:05:00 PST

Are we men a bunch of liars?

Some years ago, I was at a private play party being held in a large house that had a number of private rooms. A woman I knew somewhat approached me for a scene. She really liked being tied...
Posted by Jay on Sat, 26 Jan 2008 10:36:00 PST

A new book -- good but disturbing

[the following is a very lightly edited version of an email that I sent to an attorney friend of mine who specializes in privacy rights] Hey there! How are things? Lunch sometime soon? Say...
Posted by Jay on Sat, 22 Dec 2007 11:52:00 PST