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You choose the behavior ... You choose the consequences

About Me


"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou
I may never see tomorrow. There's no written guarantee. And things that happened yesterday, belong to history. I cannot predict the future, I cannot change the past, I have just the present moments, I must treat them as my last.
I must use this moment wisely, for it soon will pass away, and be lost forever, as part of yesterday. I must exercise compassion, help the fallen to their feet, Be a friend unto the friendless, make an empty life complete.
The unkind things I do today, may never be undone, And friendships that I fail to win, may nevermore be won. I may not have another chance, on bended knees to pray, and I thank My Higher Power, for giving me this Day.
I am an educated woman ... a loyal friend that knows the true meaning of being a "FRIEND" ... a potential partner in life that will be honest with you ... compromise with you ... respect you ... understand you ... and communicate with you in order to make a relationship work ... an open-minded individual full of energy who is self-driven and goal oriented ... I'm one to know that I'm not perfect, but I strive to improve myself through my experiences and friends constructive criticisms each and every day ... I also love country living where it is peaceful ... calm ... has fresh air and quiet ... a simple ... happy life is what I have always desired.
Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear. Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you. Good friend's are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget. You can only go as far as you push. Actions speak louder than words. The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else. Don't let the past hold you back, you're missing the good stuff.

LIFE'S SHORT.


If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it. A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have. Some people make the world special just by being in it. When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

TRUE FRIENDSHIP NEVER ENDS.
Friends are forever. Good friends are like stars, you don't always see them, but you know they are always there. Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile. What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry? Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them. Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.
Men See You As Understated

You are an intreguing mix of girl and woman. You're feminine, quiet, and a total mystery to most men. Yet they often feel the urge to protect you, even if they don't know you. You *are* a flirt, but you usually only flirt with those you know well

A Change of Attitude ...


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skills. It will make or break a company ... a church ... a home. The remarkable thing is I have a choice everyday regarding the attitude I will embrace for that day.
I cannot change my past ... I cannot change the fact that people will act a certain way. I cannot change the inevitable ... the only thing I can do is play on the one string I have, and that is my attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you ... you are in charge of your attitude.

Falling In Love ...

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not part of it. Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try.
You'll never love a person you love unless you risk for love. Love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time. Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing it's chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages. Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing. The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go.
We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves.
On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time. To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return.
Fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain. Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that there were the things that helped you grow. Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you. Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love.
Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love. There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love 'coz every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling in love.

My Interests

"Today is a new day, make it count, stand up for yourself, or leave the light of day to those that have courage"

I BELIEVE ...


To those I believe in and who have believed in me ... Read this slowly - it's a keeper for sure. There are so many truths in this.
I believe- That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I believe- That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I believe- That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest instance. Same goes for true love.
I believe- That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I believe- That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I believe- That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I believe- That you can keep going long after you can't.
I believe- That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I believe- That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I believe- That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I believe- That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I believe- That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I believe- That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I believe- That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
I believe- That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I believe- That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I believe- That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I believe- That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I believe- That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I believe- That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I believe- That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I believe- That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I believe- That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I believe- That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I believe- That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I believe- That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
Do the thing that you believe in and to do the best you can in the place where you are and be kind.
Cervantes said, "To do is to be."
DesCartes said, "To be is to do."
Sinatra said, "Dooby Dooby Doo."

Love ...

we think about it,

dream about it

lose sleep worrying about it.

When we don't have it,

we search for it;

when we discover it,

we fear losing it.

It is the constant source of pleasure and pain.

But we can't predict which it will be from one moment to the next.

It is a short word,

easy to spell,

difficult to define,

impossible to live without..."


"We learn our biggest lessons by the mistakes we make, not by our accomplishments!!"

"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them."

... To laugh
Enjoy seeing others laugh
Antiques
Anything Law Related
Baking
Baseball (Cardinal's)
B-i-n-g-o
Boxing
Crafts
Full Contact Fighting
Gardening
I Love Lucy Fan
M & M's
Perfumes
Poetry
Purses
Scrabble
Shoes
Sunsets

Sunshine and Water
Swap Meets
Vanilla Ice Cream
Winter and Snow

S Sensual
T Ticklish
O Observant
R Respectable
M Mystical
Y Yummy
B Bubbly
R Reserved
O Original
A Altruist
D Dependable

I'd like to meet:

Robin McGraw, for real though let me say this: I'm not looking for "Mr. Right", but rather I'm working on me being "Ms. Right". I'm divorced, was with the same gentleman for 15 years and married five of those years. Everyday is a healing process to once again becoming ME again. My ideal friend would be someone who can seriously keep me interested and challenge me and make me laugh. A man that is educated, romantic, and knows how to be a DORK from time to time. A man that simply puts a smile on my face from now 'til forever ... If a BBW is offensive to you, keep to step'n cuz I ham what I ham!!
I enjoy meeting new people from all walks of life ... I take my friendships seriously. Friendships can happen in a day and last a lifetime.

I have come to know many things in my life. From pain and sorrow, to joys and life! I may be hurt, but I will survive. I may be down, but I am Alive!
The things that I know, Both good and bad, I know them for a reason, For lessons I am glad.
In time many will see, The true flower in me. A beauty to behold. That gift that is me.
It will take time, And this I do know. But given time, Watch how I grow!
And everyday is better then the one before. I can do it, I have done so before. So hold my hand as a friend and you'll see, All the magic and beauty; Yes that is ME!! Thanks Nathan ... this poem is perfect!!
"Don't go through life, grow through life."

"The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the shape of her body, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart: The place where love resides."

"The person who belittles you is only trying to cut you down to their size."

When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.

START OVER


When you've trusted God and walked his way When you've felt his hand lead you day by day But your steps now take you another way ...

Start Over


When you've made your plans and they've gone awry When you've tried your best and there's no more to try When you've failed yourself and you don't know why ...
When you've told your friends what you plan to do When you've trusted them and they didn't come through And you're all alone and it's up to you ...

Start Over


When you've failed your kids and they're grown and gone When you've done your best but it's turned out wrong And now your grandchildren come along ...

Start Over


When you've prayed to God so you'll know his will. When you've prayed and prayed and you don't know still ... When you want to stop cause you've had your fill ...

Start Over


When you think you're finished and want to quit When you've bottomed out in life's deepest pit When you've tried and tried to get out of it ...

Start Over


When the year has been long and successes few When December comes and you're feeling blue God gives a January just for you ...

Start Over


Starting over means "Victories Won" Starting over means "A Race Well Run" Starting over means "God's Will Done"
Don't just sit there ..............

Music:


Country

Instrumental
Oldies

Pop Rock
Rock and Roll

LOVE SONGS

"A lot of my songs deal with spirituality and with God and I guess if you are in tune with that, you'll read into it. A lot of people only listen to the chorus." --Lenny Kravitz

I Walked Away ...
I asked you if you liked me, you said no. I asked you if I was HOT, you said no. I asked you if I was in your heart you said no. I asked you if you would cry if I walked away, you said no.
So I walked away ...
You grabbed my arm and said ... I don't like you I love you ... You're not pretty you're beautiful ... You're not in my heart, your my soul ... And I wouldn't cry if you walked away I would die ...

Movies:


Airplane

Beaches

Dirty Dancing

Father of the Bride I & II

Forest Gump

Four Weddings and a Funeral

Ghost

Grease

How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days

Jerry Maguire

My Best Friends Wedding

Notting Hill

Pretty Woman

Sleepless in Seattle

Something's Gotta Give

Titanic

You've Got Mail

The Breakfast Club

When Harry Met Sally

The Shawshank Redemption

There's Something About Mary

The Wedding Planner

Television:

Baseball, no doubt St. Louis Cardinal's, I Love Lucy, Survivor, Amazing Race, Big Brother, Hell's Kitchen, Starting Over, Dr. Phil, Bachelor, American Idol, Apprentice, Wife Swap, Trading Spouses, COPS, America's Most Wanted, Intervention, First 48 Hours, 48 Hour Mystery, HGTV, Viva La Bam, Jackass, Discovery, VH1, MTV, CMT and QVC (shh). News: Dan Abrams, Nancy Grace, Rita Crosby, Greta Van Susteren, Headline News, Larry King Aint TiVo grand!!

Books:

Anything for Dummies

Heroes:

My Grandmother ...
Eulogy for Grandma
The rolling hills, the sweeping vista, the clear blue lake: endlessly beautiful. How I covet your view, your life, now carefree, peaceful, calm.
I visit you and share this view, while gently removing weeds and debris from your place here. I speak softly to you, knowing you will hear, and understand.
I bring you flowers, red carnations. Gently, I place them by you, their heady fragrance wafted by the summer breeze, shared with all around you.
Our view is distorted by my torrent of tears falling onto your comfortable old shoulders. I lay beside you, memories flooding back through the tears.
You were a strength a rock to which I would cling when afraid of being swept away by stormy days.
Now I visit you here, clinging still to this rock that marks your place. I feel your warmth, your strength, your love seeping into me
I believe in the unsung hero, people who do those "little and not so little miracles" and expect no fame or glory from them. They just go about their lives again with a bright smile on their face. To me, those are the true heroes of our time.

What Are You Worth ...


A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked,
"Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up.
He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.
He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air.
Well, he replied, "What if I do this?"
And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.
He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.
"Now, who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air.
My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson.
No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value.
It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless.
But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you.
The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE.
You are special- Don't EVER forget it."

Insecurity


When they push, when they pull, tell me can you hold on, when they say you should change, can you lift your head high and stay strong?
Will you give up, give in, when your heart's crying out that it's wrong? Will you love you for you, at the end of it all?
In life there's gonna be times when you're feeling low and in your mind insecurity seems to take control.
We start to look outside ourselves for acceptance and approval. We keep forgetting that the only thing we should know is ... don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own.
Love will open every door, it's in your hands, the world is yours. Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold.
What are you waiting for? Spread your wings and soar.

Twenty Truths To Remember


1. Faith is the ability to not panic.
2. If you worry, you didn't pray. If you pray, don't worry.
3. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.
4. Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.
5. When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still. So He can untangle the knot.
6. Do the math. Count your blessings.
7. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.
8. Dear God: I have a problem. It's me.
9. Silence is often misinterpreted, but never misquoted.
10. Laugh every day, it's like inner jogging.
11. The most important things in your home are the people.
12. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional.
13. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open.
14. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.
15. He who dies with the most toys is still dead.
16. We do not remember days, but moments. Life moves too fast, so enjoy your precious moments.
17. Nothing is real to you until you experience it, otherwise it's just hearsay.
18. It's all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are done.
19. Surviving and living your life successfully requires courage. The goals and dreams you're seeking require courage and risk-taking. Learn from the turtle, it only makes progress when it sticks out its neck.
20. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you really are. While your reputation is merely what others think you are...

My Blog

He will bring you through it ...

One day a while back, a man, his heart heavy with grief, was walking in the woods. As he thought about his life this day, he knew many things were not right. He thought about those who had lied about ...
Posted by MJ on Thu, 08 Mar 2007 03:11:00 PST

Love is Freeware ...

Tech Support: Yes, ... how can I help you?Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to install Love. Can you guide me though the process?Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready t...
Posted by MJ on Sat, 28 Oct 2006 12:08:00 PST

Links I Enjoy ...

BRBCal's GalleryGreaser BabiesMay You Be BlessedState Sex Offender Registry Web SiteThe Wonder Of It AllTop Secret RecipesWanda's Country Home...
Posted by MJ on Fri, 30 Jun 2006 10:36:00 PST

A True Soulmate Found ...

You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goa...
Posted by MJ on Thu, 14 Sep 2006 02:39:00 PST

Just Breathe ...

Just Breathe ...While my head was lowered, and my eyes were closed, I held my breath, and the last thought I had, Or wanted to have, Was someone finding me....much less saving me.No more did I trust,M...
Posted by MJ on Sun, 13 Aug 2006 03:06:00 PST

Forgive for Your Health ...

Forgiveness is good for you in fact, it may be the most selfishly selfless thing you can do. Study after study has found that forgiving those who have hurt us isn't weak it's actually one of the bes...
Posted by MJ on Wed, 09 Aug 2006 09:47:00 PST

Sexy is a matter of opinion ...

In defining sexy, there are no rules, only preferences. One man finds eyes to be a woman's most attractive physical quality while another considers her hips or waist the most appealing. Some women lik...
Posted by MJ on Fri, 04 Aug 2006 11:39:00 PST

Mixed Emotions ...

Silent heartLonely soulLooking for loveIn the midst of it allMy heart won't talkMy soul won't singOnly flies from anAngel's broken wingSorry feelingsOf thoughts and regretsOf past mistakes That I can'...
Posted by MJ on Tue, 01 Aug 2006 08:17:00 PST

10 Things All Singles Must Do ...

10 Things All Singles Must DoBy Amy SpencerHere's, a checklist of experiences to try before settling down:Travel aloneWhether you're trying to find your way through the Paris Metro or the London Under...
Posted by MJ on Sun, 23 Jul 2006 08:34:00 PST

I'm better prepared today ...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from hear...
Posted by MJ on Fri, 26 May 2006 06:02:00 PST