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Paola

I am here for Friends and Networking

About Me

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The classic ex-shy, straight-out-of-a-Smiths-lyric teenager who basically just waited to become 18 and finish school so she could leave her hometown and never go back if not on random Christmas days, the moment I started to live alone on the other side of the country I decided to snap out of it by becoming extremely visible (as a Goth) and extremely opinionated (as myself). However, mine is so clearly a persona, in the theatrical sense, that sometimes I am still amazed when I hear that somebody said they really thought I was born this jaded and cynical and cocksure. I keep thinking I have "EX-SHY" written all over me. Evidently it worked rather well.
I don't have many values, as in political, ecological, or other, but believe in loyalty between people and in interactions in general. I am a keen observer of the behaviour and interaction of human beings (as opposed to when I was a lonely teenager and studied the theory of human beings from the masters of literature), and after so many years I think I have developed a couple of laws that hardly fail. So if I sound cynical to you I may have good reasons.
Usually placid and resilient to life's nastiest attacks, I have been told I look like I can control Universal Chaos easily but I freak out if a twig of rosemary blocks my path; I took it as a compliment and a really acute sum of me.
I am a sucker for a good laugh, my humour is not always understood immediately by people but it is never malevolent (oh well, there may be exceptions in my intentions). My humour has no problem living and thriving in the UK, it's applying it in Italy that gives some problems...
I can't live without: my make-up bag, an Internet connection and soy milk.
I always had friends who were younger than I was, it's a constant of my life in any new town I go. Being the oldest person everywhere keeps me young (or at least it keeps me FROM thinking I could now be a wrinkly 38-years-old and a slave to her statistical 1.4 children: THAT is HELL).

My Interests

'80s, 80s music, antiques, asian food, asian movies, aubrey beardsley, badtz maru, baklava, baudelaire, black, blitz, books, burne-jones, combat boots, corsets, , edward gorey, eighties, eyeliner, falafel, fashion (dior, costume national, olivier theyskens, vivienne westwood, alessandro de benedetti et al), glam, goth, gothic, indian food, indian movies, italian food, italy, japan, japanese food, jewelry, languages, little britain, lomo, london, make-up, maxfield parrish, milan, museums, new romantic, new wave, old cities, origami, pazienza, photography, poetry, rubens, shakespeare, sushi, thai food, the mighty boosh, the office, the young ones, translation, trieste, vermeer, victoriana, vinyl. And of course.......

I'd like to meet:

I'd like to meet quality. Tout court.
Witty, stylish Anglophiles (this is why my whole page is in English; if you're the person for me you'll understand, regardless if you live in Hoxton or in San Pasquale), a sense of humour, quick repartees.

Italian machos don't exist in my planet (also, I don't exist in theirs; they don't know what to do with me, literally).
Of course they must have my same tastes in music and art, and, although I admit this is the most difficult bit, be dogmatic David Sylvian fans.

Expats to Italy are welcome. I've been an expat (not to the UK) and found the experience unexpectedly difficult, so I can listen patiently to your complaints.

Oh, and I'd like to meet people whose idea of de-stressing is a relaxing break.... in London. East London and Soho-The City, not those sissy places west of Covent Garden.

One prayer: if you want to be added, please send me an introductory message too, because sometimes I get the strangest requests from people who are clearly a thousand miles away from what I describe as my tastes or inclinations here. Thank you.
Also, I feel at liberty to refuse ANYONE who didn't read up to this point, and therefore sends a friend request without a message. I'm not here to collect 70,125 friends, thank you.

Music:

Bauhaus, Bel Canto, Blitz, Blixa, Cocteau Twins, CCCP+CSI, Bowie, Sylvian, Dead Can Dance, Diaframma, Duran Duran (first album only!), Dogs, Einstuerzende Neubauten, old electroclash and some old drum'n'bass, I am X, most Gothic classics which everybody knows by default, Goodnight Electric, Japan, Joy Division, Massimo Volume, Massive Attack, New Romantic, New Wave, Nick Cave, Orbital, Pulp, Sakamoto, Scott Walker, The Smiths, WRM etc etc....

I (rarely...) write for www.indiescene.it and I do some promotion for The Butterfly Collectors

I'm a Goth that basically switched to the Light Side after too many years of pretentious, plodding and derivative 100% Gothic music. Halfway between dark and indie, you could call me a Dindie.

Movies:

Romantic: In the mood for love, Brief encounter, Stairway to Heaven, The anniversary party, Adele H, Lost in translation, Sur mes levres, Les dames du Bois de Boulogne, Derek Jarman's Edward II, Moulin Rouge, Le conseguenze dell'Amore, Ferro 3. Humour: Withnail and I, 24-hour party people, Zoolander, This is Spinal Tap, Still Crazy, Harold and Maude, El dìa de la bestia, Ed Wood, Clerks, La Capagira, Frankenstein Junior (Where wolf????). Drama: Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence, Gohatto, Hana-bi, Zatoichi, La decima vittima, A matter of life and death, All about Eve, Abre los ojos, Trainspotting, Audition, Alfie, The naked civil servant, Party monster, De vierde mann, De ontdekking van de hemel...

Television:

British comedy: Little Britain, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, The Office, The Young Ones, The Mighty Boosh, Look Around You, Absolute Power, The Smoking Room, classic Python, that Jeeves & Wooster series starring Fry and Laurie, and I recently got my hands on a lot of obscure old Steve Coogan and Lucas&Walliams DVDs, stuff from before they were famous, probably quickly rehashed by the Beeb in an attempt to make some quick quid. Am addicted to the BBC, and suffer because I can only get BBC Prime here in Italy, and it just won't do.

Books:

All the classics of English and French XIX century literature which I can't be bothered to mention in a huge list here but you understood; Baudelaire, Edward Gorey, Elisabeth Bishop (The art of Losing is so hard to master...), Hanif Kureishi, John Donne, Quentin Crisp, some comics, Stephen Fry (not half crafty for a comedian!), Toby Litt (I actually wanted to translate his books into Italian, sniffle; but at least he's in my Friends!)

Heroes:

Disclaimer: my "heroes" are decidedly tongue-in-cheek. Don't have a cow, people. Aubrey Beardsley, Takeshi Kitano, Simon Napier-Bell, Tony Wilson (....damn....), Quentin Crisp, William Shakespeare. You don't go very far with this, I admit.

My Blog

meme da domenica sera

1. DOV'ERI STAMATTINA ALLE 6.30?sul divano col mio amico Castigo a spettegolare a tabula rasa su fatti e personaggi di Trieste bevendo succo di frutta e a non credere che una certa persona di Verona s...
Posted by Paola on Mon, 29 Oct 2007 06:37:00 PST

ALLES WIEDER OFFEN

Oh Blixa,when will you become a poet? You reached Rilke levels long ago, you're quite a Schiller now when you make an effort (the album opens with this fantastic tirade:Was soll ich jetzt mit euch, ih...
Posted by Paola on Fri, 26 Oct 2007 11:50:00 PST

stumbling upon so-bad-theyre-good movies

How irritating. I was just zapping pointlessly when I stumbled upon the opening credits of a movie I'd never heard about, THE PASSION OF DARKLY NOON. (here's the trailer, but you won't see much intere...
Posted by Paola on Fri, 26 Oct 2007 07:02:00 PST

Nightmares, and the way they improve life.

I was recently talking with a foreign colleague (yes, sometimes even translators break down and try to communicate, in short bursts followed by weeks of embarrassment on their part) who was saying tha...
Posted by Paola on Thu, 18 Oct 2007 06:25:00 PST

Don’t mess with the Missionary Man... now you can though.

Ok, this has been a kink of mine forever; when I see those young Mormons who are sent around the world to preach, and they are invariably terribly young, and fit, and healthy, and doe-eyed, and prim a...
Posted by Paola on Sun, 07 Oct 2007 04:19:00 PST

a test about BOOKS! Gosh!

These are the top 106 books most often marked as "unread" by LibraryThing's users (as of today). Make red what you've read, italicize those you started but couldn't finish, and make blue what you coul...
Posted by Paola on Fri, 05 Oct 2007 11:23:00 PST

Sylvian, before it gets eaten by a million CRAP bulletins about parties.

A fire in the forest + GhostsBefore the Bullfight
Posted by Paola on Tue, 02 Oct 2007 11:08:00 PST

FREELANCERS: dont you fucking HATE it.........

........when you land a big job which seems OK, and IMMEDIATELY, within two days, you get offered a bigger and better-paid job and you have to refuse it because you're too busy with the first one?????...
Posted by Paola on Tue, 02 Oct 2007 05:32:00 PST

un test che mi porge opportunità di sarcasmo su un piatto dargento.

1. DA QUANTA GENTE E' COMPOSTA LA TUA TOP?ho la top 40, sono una persona sociale io.2. CHI SONO I PIU' IMPORTANTI NELLA TUA VITA (REALE, NON MYSPACEIANA)?assolutamente Giorgio (anche per le ore di vol...
Posted by Paola on Fri, 28 Sep 2007 05:11:00 PST

I AM X. Iniziamo a fare una cosina fatta bene.

..> I AM X. Iniziamo a fare una cosina fatta bene. a TUTTI piace I AM X. anche agli insospettabili. Il suo essere deliziosamente fuori da ogni trend lo rende piacevole a tutti.però il suo managem...
Posted by Paola on Fri, 21 Sep 2007 11:18:00 PST