While attempting to traverse the winding and flowing ways of Power dynamic and control I have been pleasantly surprised by the depth in which I am learning about pain, accountability, intimacy, vulnerability, discipline and etiquette. Before I go into depth about all of these things I want to make one thing clear to you. This is MY subjective experience and insight. Insight based on my own perceptions, and cultivated through imperfect ways, and lots of unexpected learning opportunities.
I am the first person to tell people that I am not easy or perfect. I have high expectations of myself and those around me. My willingness to be experimental and learn from my shortcomings has made me into a woman of thought, purpose and absolute intent. It has also made me into a Domina who encourages you into darker areas, and pushes you to always perfect your desire to serve. As you travel along with me I will share with you what I am learning and what has been revealed to me through direct observation and reflected back to me through the eyes, and actions of others.
Learning requires rocks and road bumps. Anyone who tells you that a Dominant is not fallible is overly indulging in fantasy and is setting themselves up for disappointment. I have found that "mistakes" can lead to pleasant surprises and do not indicate failure but an opportunity to learn more. Honestly, who here really believes that Joseph W. Swan got the Light bulb right on the first try?
I have also found that it is through mistakes that the Dominant and the submissive can learn about grace and humility. Humility is what keeps us grounded, aware, and within the realm of reality. When I was a submissive I found that Humility (the absence of ego) was one of my greatest strengths and a means toward a sacred form of trust. From this trust came the ability to be fully present and subsequently improved the way in which I served my Dominant.
Recently A friend of mine said "Expose yourself, so that no one has anything else to say". Another friend said "You have a gift to make what you do accessible to those who don't even know where to start" This blog is the beginning of my imperfect, reflective, honest and progressively refining journey into what I feel is one of the most intimate, potent, and progressive of lifestyles. My intention from here on in is to take "The path less traveled by" and give to you the fantasy, the romance, and the reality of what you can indulge in while living your mundane life. My hope is that once you are done reading what I have experienced, then you will be inspired to have your own interlude, thus exposing yourself to something I may have encouraged you to see as ~not so scary~.
However, before we begin, do not assume that I am the standard. Even among Dominas I am a little different. I am one voice in the kaleidescope of Sadistic players and pain connoisseurs. Each one of us has an approach, a style, and a gift for one fetish or another in our play. I have met women who are Petite, clever, and dangerously feisty....and others who are serene, salt of the earth, and can penetrate you with their keen intellect. I have played with women who have pleasurable presentations, simple instructions and smooth transitions, and Voracious, erotic, demanding Domina's who will rip your obedience from you while they wrap you in velvet and latex. I read somewhere once that for every Sub there is a Domina...From the "working girl with a whip" to the "Dungeon owning femme of professional power play" I have found this to be profoundly true.
My personal style is one that is revealed strongly in my intimate title. To my submissive I am known as Governess Rosse and I take my title and what it implies seriously. I love to educate people and challenge them to reach beyond their status quo. My means of control are clear, direct and immutable. I indulge in humiliation play often, find great arousal from corporal, and have learned that task delegation is a useful tool for entertainment and discipline. I tend to be sensually driven but experienced as a edge player. When engaging my "meat" I look for what makes them tick, turns them on, and enables me to fully manipulate them. I am nurturing, intelligent, protective, and warmly sadistic. I do not like to linger in places of one extreme or another, because that liminality is one that often provokes fear.
BDSM is a lifestyle where one can work intimately with fear. This is precisely what drives me to participate and play. Fear to me is two fold. It brings the true nature of the individual to the for front and is an indication of where they are ignorant and/or lack complete experience. The majority of fears I wave witnessed in others have strong roots to self body image, and self confidence. Both of which can be addressed through exploration of ones ability to understand and withstand sensory stresses physically and mentally. Blend this exploration with eroticism (the expression and exploration of sexuality) and play (the ability to test and interact in an uninhibited way with ones impulses, instincts and environment) and what you have is a "controlled environment"(the scene) with unlimited potential for self exploration, and transformation. I have seen scenes that had the previously mentioned elements and have been forever effected by the beauty, art, and rawness of what was happening before me. The fact that it is possible for me to be part of providing this to others....is overwhelming. It is overwhelming because it is primal, natural, and at the core of all human beings. To experience these things is to experience what is fundamentally true about being alive and it's purpose.
Thank you for your support and hopefully your feedback *smile*The Madame RosseShould you want to speak to me in person, please call me on Niteflirt. It is easy to sign up, and arrange a call with me....http://www.niteflirt.com/TheMadameRosse.
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