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Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Amber Carwile. I am a young Christian woman who would do almost anything for the people I love. I love hanging out with friends and family. I also love to have fun. By having fun, I mean just sitting down with friends; laughing, playing games...simply hanging out (good, clean fun). I love to smile and laugh, and I love to make others smile and laugh. I am an only child. However, I have two best friends who are more like sisters than friends. We have been through so much together, and they have always been there for me. I hope that never changes. Their names are Summer and Katie.

I am also a SURVIVOR of childhood sexual abuse. I would do almost anything to protect innocent children from the pain I went through. I am very active in right to life and abuse awareness causes. I am currently attending school to get my degree in art (preferably web-design). My main dreams are to work with children and with abuse victims (victims of domestic violence, rape, etc...). Therefore, I plan on using my degree in art to help do webpages, and also art therapy for abuse prevention centers. I'm also currently trying to find a way to start a program in my area for adult survivors of sexual abuse and rape: a place to get together and talk and share.

I have been diagnosed with clinical depression and bi-polar disorder. I have recently been put into the hospital for a nervous breakdown and suicidal thoughts. Even though I'm doing better and I'm learning to trust in the Lord more, some days are better than others. I still get depressed, but with the support of my family and friends, and with the main support of God, I am doing so great. I'm enjoying life again, and I'm ready to start helping others. I hope to continue to get happier and stronger in my Christian faith each and every day. However, I still need constant prayers of my family and friends. If you want to know anything else about me, feel free to send me a message and ask.



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If A Child Lives With...
If a child lives with criticism,
He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
He learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
He learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
He learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
He learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
He learns to appreciate.
Look at the barn. Keep Staring. Do you see Him? Isn't He Wonderful?


My Interests

Things I Love: Christianity (God), reading, singing, shopping, computers, writing, helping others, children, hanging out with family and friends, movies, charity work, music, art/design, photography, mission work, laughing, board/card games, animals

Things I Hate: abuse (of all kinds), abortion, racism, hatred, medical injustice, lies, rumors, animal cruelty, pornography, criminal injustice (innocents convicted / guilty set free)

Link to National Sex Offender Registry



Do you know a child that is being abused...

For Help...Call 1-800-4-A-CHILD

THE BEGINNING IS THE MOST IMPORTANT

You know that the beginning is the most important part of any work, especially in the case of a young and tender thing; for that is the time at which the character is being formed and the desired impressions is more readily taken…Shall we just carelessly allow children to hear any casual tales which may be devised by casual persons, and to receive into their minds ideas for the most part the very opposite of those which we should wish them to have when they are grown up?

We cannot…Anything received into the mind at that age is likely to become indelible and unalterable; and therefore it is most important that the tales which the young first hear should be models of virtuous thoughts…

Then will our youth dwell in a land of health, amid fair sights and sounds, and receive the good in everything; and beauty, the effluence of fair works, shall flow into the eye and ear, like a health-giving breeze from a purer religion, and insensibly draw the soul from the earliest years into likeness and sympathy with the beauty of reason.

There can be no nobler training than that.

--PLATO’S Republic



I'd like to meet:

I want to use this as a way to keep in touch with old and new friends. I love to meet new people. When it comes to friends, I want to meet other people who are fighting the fight against abuse. I would also like to meet people who like to have a good time, and who can laugh alot; as well as someone who can make me laugh and who is there for me when I need them the most. My friends DON'T have to believe the same way I do, but they do have to be caring and considerate to others.



In a relationship, I am looking for someone who I can share my faith with. A Christian, who knows what he believes, and isn't afraid to share it with others. I want someone who will be there for me and who will be patient with me. I make several mistakes, and I need someone who will understand that. I want someone that won't go running away at the first sight of trouble; someone who will stick around and fight to save our relationship. I am a hopeless romantic, and I believe that someday I will find the guy God has planned for me. Until then, I'm going to be patient, and I'm not settling for any less.

On a celebrity level: the main people I want to meet would be Johnny Depp, Holly Marie Combs, Drew Fuller, Chris Daughtry, Keith Urban, Tom Welling, Alyssa Milano, Nickelback, Casting Crowns, and many many others. If their work has inspired me, I would love to meet them.



What To Watch Out For When Adults Are With Children

http://www.stopitnow.com

Have you ever seen someone playing with a child and felt uncomfortable with it? Maybe you thought, "I'm just over-reacting," or, "He/She doesn't really mean that." Don't ignore the behavior; learn how to ask more questions about what you have seen. The checklist below offers some warning signs.

Do you know an adult or older child who:

    Refuses to let a child set any of his or her own limits?Insists on hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling with or holding a child even when the child does not want this affection?Is overly interested in the sexuality of a particular child or teen (e.g., talks repeatedly about the child's developing body or interferes with normal teen dating)?Manages to get time alone or insists on time alone with a child with no interruptions?Spends most of his/her spare time with children and has little interest in spending time with someone their own age?Regularly offers to babysit many different children for free or takes children on overnight outings alone?Buys children expensive gifts or gives them money for no apparent reason?Frequently walks in on children/teens in the bathroom?Allows children or teens to consistently get away with inappropriate behaviors?

If you answered "yes" to some of these questions, talk to that person. If you are uncomfortable, but don't see these signs, be sure to trust your instincts and ask questions. For information and advice on how to talk to someone, please call the Stop It Now! Toll-Free Helpline at 1-888-PREVENT.



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My Wonderful Friends and Family

Summer

Sherry

Katie

Angela

Chris

Nick

Melissa

Michelle

Jedidiah

Patrick

Gary

Kara

Bryne

Jon

Jen

Stacy

Aaron

Vickie

Ashley

Logan

Faith

Michael

Jeff

Jennifer

Megan

Teresa

Devin

Audrey

Lauren

Ashley

Perecia

Danyel

Jane

Jenna

Carie

Candace

Marie

Julie

Laura

Beverly

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Music:

Genre: Christian, Rock, Country, Rap, R & B, Easy Listening

Artist: Jason Michael Carroll, The Calling / Alex Band, Daughtry, Michael Bublé, Third Day, Keith Urban, Nickelback, OneRepublic, Dishwalla, Will Smith, Shakira, Toby Keith, Martina McBride, Black Eyed Peas, Casting Crowns, Sugarland, Carrie Underwood, Newsong, Mercy Me, Johnny Cash, Rise Against


Movies:

The Pursuit of Happyness, The Notebook, Pirates of the Carribbean, The Ultimate Gift, An Unfinished Life, Spiderman, The Fantastic Four, A Walk to Remember, Titanic, What's Love Got To Do With It, Just Like Heaven, Sweet Home Alabama, Coyote Ugly, Where the Heart Is, Broken Bridges, Finding Nemo, The Fast and the Furious


Television:

First on my list of favorite tv shows would be Charmed. The reason I love this show so much is because of the family aspects and the fact that they help others. I also enjoy watching Smallville, Gilmore Girls, Veronica Mars, and many of the older shows, such as I Love Lucy, Who's The Boss, and Three's Company. I love shows that have to do with family, friends and things that matter most in this world.


Books:

I love to read. I have been reading anything I can get my hands on since I was old enough to sit up straight. I also love to write. In fact, I'm currently attempting to write a Christian novel about a girl who was sexual abused as a child.
My favorite book to read, of course would be The Bible (preferably the book of James). I also love to read "Redeeming Love" by Francine Rivers. It's the type of book that you could read over and over, and never get tired of it. It has such a good lesson behind it. I can relate to the main character in so many ways.
Another good book(s) that I recommend would be the Dave Pelzer trilogy ("A Child Called 'It'"). I also enjoy anything by Nicholas Sparks, Mary Higgins Clark, and Karen Kingsbury.

Check Out These Books
♥ Women Healing from Abuse
♥ Understanding Child Abuse and Neglect
♥ Keep Showing Up
♥ Why Does He Do That
♥ The Verbally Abusive Relationship
♥ Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse
♥ A Child Called 'It'
Art/Design

I am an art major, with an emphasis in graphic design. I love anything to do with art and design, especially graphic design. There are certain aspects of art that I am not great at, but I love it all. I love the creativity and the expression of it. Everyone is different with their art, and that is the beauty of it. My favorite artists are Thomas Kinkade (painter) and Kim Anderson (photographer).


Heroes:

My main hero would have to be my Lord and Savior (Jesus Christ). He has brought me through so much. I don't believe I'd be alive if it wasn't for Him. When it comes my time to meet him face to face, I pray that I will be prepared.

My mom would have to be next. She has done so much for me and she has always been there. She has never given up on me and she lets me know EVERYDAY how special I am, and how much she loves me. For that, I am truly blessed and thankful.

Some other heroes of mine would be my grandfather ("Papa" Laws), my friends (you know who you are), my church family, and everyone that is trying to make this world a better place for others to live.



My Blog

My Dad Just Called Me....

It's 6:22 A.M. right now and my dad has just woke me out of a much needed sleep. I was thinking something was horribly wrong when I picked up, but all he called to say was that he loved me. He is...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Mon, 03 Dec 2007 04:38:00 PST

The Week From Hell

This past week has officially been the week from hell. It started getting bad around Tuesday, when I had surgery. I had a couple spots removed from my back, and 3 spots frozen off my hands. Well I was...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Mon, 26 Nov 2007 06:38:00 PST

Movie Review: The Ultimate Gift

Check out this video: The Ultimate Gift Trailer Add to My Profile | More Videos "The Ultimate Gift" is officially my favorite movie ever. It is full of emotion, truth and love. It's an exc...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Mon, 19 Nov 2007 09:17:00 PST

Saying Goodbye and Finally at Peace (Part 2)

So.....I've said goodbye to my father ever being the man I WANTED him to be (notice I didn't say need). I never needed his love. I needed love, but not necessarily his. I always have had, and will alw...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Thu, 08 Nov 2007 07:14:00 PST

Saying Goodbye and Finally At Peace

I've finally gotten over not having my dad. I have been thinking alot, and as all of you know, I was having a real difficult time saying goodbye...because I wanted him to be the father I needed. Well....
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Wed, 07 Nov 2007 08:35:00 PST

I Want to Scream

I feel like total crap lately. It seems like everything I do at work isn't good enough. Everytime I take one step forward, something seems to push me 100 steps back. I've been doing so good lately......
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Sat, 03 Nov 2007 09:40:00 PST

"The Golden Compass"

I have just done some research on the new children's movie that is coming out this December. Please click on the following link, and read the article about this movie. The Golden Compass I do not beli...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Thu, 01 Nov 2007 06:27:00 PST

Healthcare and Insurance -- Only After Making Money

My number one pet peeve is how the insurance companies treat all of the "little people". It's not just the insurance companies, but all of the healthcare industries. They don't care anything abou...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Wed, 31 Oct 2007 03:12:00 PST

Coming Out of the Darkness

Coming Out of the Darkness              The darkness was surrounding her. She couldn't see anything. The fear was overcoming her; fear of not bei...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Fri, 26 Oct 2007 10:29:00 PST

Falling Apart

I just received the below message from my dad and his wife.... THIS IS FROM YOUR DAD...HE SAYS THAT HE LOVES YOU AND HE ALWAYS WILL.. BUT HIS SISTERS LOVE HIM AND HE WILL ALWAYS LOVE THEM. HE HAD TO ...
Posted by Abuse*Survivor on Mon, 22 Oct 2007 11:18:00 PST