If you love someone and they don't love you back, then just accept the fact that they don't love you like you need to be loved, then pray for strength, bless them and move on. You deserve to have someone special who will love you for the beautfiul being that you are. Flaws and all. You need someone who sees your heart and soul and loves that heart and soul. They just aren't worth your while if they don't love you like you need to be loved. There are WAY too many women (and some men) who stay in abusive relationships for any number of reasons. But please think of your children and your pets instead of just yourself..
A friend sent me this and it's PERFECT!! This goes for women AND men! Thank you Lila.1.If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away...
2 If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay...
3 Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour...
4 Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache...
5 Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be...
6 Slower is better...
7 Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy...
8 If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends"...
9 A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend...
10 Don't settle...
11 If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is...
12 Don't stay because you think, "it will get better...
13 "You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better...
14 The only person you can control in a relationship is you...
15 Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women...
16 He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
17 Always have your own set of friends separate from his... 18 Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you...
19 If something bothers you, speak up...
20 Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later...
21 You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within...
22 Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job...
23 Do not make him into a quasi-god...
24 He is a man, nothing more nothing less...
25 Never let a man define who you are...
26 Never borrow someone else's man...
27 If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you...
28 A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you...
29 All men are NOT dogs...
30 You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street...
31 You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship! You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary!
32 Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right...
33 Make him miss you sometimes...when men always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted...
34 Never move into his mother's house! Never co-sign for a man...
35 Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others...
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another will rethink her choices, and another will prepare! They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them...and dont forget a man wrote this...
If you're going through a rough time with everyone around you, trust me, you're not alone. Just realize what is happening and why. We draw strength from eachother. Even if the world has turned its back on you. Write to me, or one of your friends who understands, but don't ever give up. You are not alone. And it is never an option to end your life.
The things that most appeal to me in the way of friends is a sense of humor, first and foremost, then spirituality, (not religiosity), but true spirituality. There's a huge difference! Then intelligence, and people who have an open mind about everything. I find it very dull & boring to have friends who are so stuck in their ways that they have no interest in discussing anything but what they think and believe and feel. Those type of people will argue with you to the point that it ends up hurting one or more people and that makes everyone uncomfortable. I also don't like to be told how to live my life. I used to be that way when I was younger and was all gung-ho about going to church. I was an annoying Christian. My heart was pure in that I only wanted my loved ones to be "saved", but loved ones found it annoying and I don't blame them, because I now find it annoying! lol!
I love to hear different thoughts and beliefs because it expands ones mind, as long as it is done in a fun and loving way that doesn't make everyones blood pressure rise through the roof! That is why I am so eclectic in everything. And that is why I enjoy friends who are eclectic. I also need to have friends who are sweet, sensitive and considerate towards me and towards other people.
I am an empath, so I pick up on little subtleties about people that others may not even notice. Sometimes it could be their secret thoughts (sorry), their not so secret thoughts, their body language, a certain look on their face or a glance at another person, like their mate, which indicates they're thinking "Oh brother!". Those things tell me a lot about a person. I tend to get moody or even depressed at times if I pick up on someone who is mean, selfish and self-centered. (Even if it is only in their thoughts.) Or if I feel like they are judging me or someone else, or not having a good time, I pick that up as well. I always try to make conversation to make them feel better, but if they persist on being crabby or whatever, I just quit talking to them, because I don't want them bringing me down.
To sit down with good friends and a cup of tea or coffee, or even a nice glass of wine, and have a good laugh, or start discussing fun and interesting things is the best way to spend my time in life! I could do that type of thing 24-7 with the right type of people around me! There's nothing better to me than good friends! I can do without a man, but I can‘t do without my good friends! I love nothing more in the world than helping people, also. if my friends, or even strangers are troubled and bummed out about life, they often come to me, becuase I love making them feel better about themselves if possible. I feel like I've lived about 20 different lives in this one life, so I have a lot of practical experience to offer if needed. Sometimes I think I should get paid though!! roflol!!
~~~~~~~I like to take time out each day to LAUGH!! Never lose your sense of humor, my dear friends, no matter how rough life gets! It's what will keep you SANE in a crazy world!! SMILE a lot, because people will wonder what you're up to!!
Just a little note to my friends here. I no longer have the same favorite friends posted. Each time the page is refreshed, my top friends change, because I love all of my friends and don't want to show favoritism. You’re ALL the best!!
Anyone who is trying to be a better person or who helps others.
But recently, the firefighters who came from all over to save our beautiful Ridge. Thank you isn't enough, but that's what's in my heart. God bless you all. You are true heroes!