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Bud Tugley

I think you can see her kidneys!

About Me

Since you didn't ask but would like to know upfront, I am 5'11'' brown, fine (but a full head of) hair, blue eyes with long lashes and and a solid Celtic / cylindrical build of 195 pounds. (I am not a waify Emo boy.) I have lots of energy and diverse interests. I am comfortable and conversant in almost any situation. I am internally and externally aware. I am sensitive to presence and nuance. I love to dance like a fool, practice astanga yoga and I am a prospective step aerobics instructor. I hate pretension and materialism, but I enjoy little luxuries. I love snuggling for hours. I will gladly clothes shop with you and hold your purse, but don't ask me if your ass looks fat in those jeans if you don't want to hear an honest (but at least diplomatic) answer. I am an excellent shot (rifle and pistol) and enjoy post-impressionism art. Green party member. Masturbation is much better than sit coms (and I get two channels of T.V. reception and I don't get cable, so you figure it out). Avowed Metrosexual. I am not a conflict based person - I am a understanding, awareness, growth and resolution person. Vaudeville humor. No really; fart jokes are indeed funny. Candles are great. 'Happiness comes from being a part of things, not owning them.' Yea for languorous massages and foot rubs. Two Words: Dive Bars. Rare is the time my underwear does not coordinate with my outfit. I have a very dark and sick sense of humor along with silly whimsy and an adoration of puns. I am not a player or scammer. Fashionable is not merely a charge card and Nordstrom. I make really yummy slow smoked ribs. I am not uber cool nor do I aspire to be. Integrity. I am handsome and look best with some morphing form of facial hair. Cards and flowers are great things. I enjoy the sensual experience of using my body, reveling in it and unabashedly sweating profusely. I have a professional job and enjoy it immensely. I don't have cable. I am sick and twisted in an endearing sweet way. Presence. Friends and family are precious. I love to soak hot water and squeal at fireworks. Very Verbal. Every woman I have ever dated's mother loved me (they don't see my dark twisted edges). I have been told I naturally pull Buddhist concepts out my ass; however, while that is my bent, I am not that "crunchy." All of my personalities generally get along well with each other. Sex is a sublime pleasure, expression, art and celebration that should be explored and savored. Acceptance. While I have a dozen suits, I am more comfortable in Dickies and a wife beater. I am a public radio member and junkie. I have made my own beer but love PBR and a good Syrah (usually not together). I revile consumer debt. 'Life is a banquet and most poor bastards are starving to death.' -Auntie Mame

My Interests

I have a ton of interests, but here is a smattering: Step Aerobics (and cross-training), Astanga Yoga, Dive Bars, Museums, Plays, Dancing, Movies, Books, NPR, Wine, Dining (hole in the walls to "fine dining"), Hiking/Camping, Travel (local and international), Burning Man, Puns, Shopping, Tasteless Humor (and yes, I am probably more foul than you and my humor will offend you at times).

I'd like to meet:

I am open to all sorts of friends that are fun, funky, accepting and diverse yet dependable and loyal with integrity.In terms of women and dating, I don't 'settle.'It would be nice to find some women who have a lot of my values, sensitivities, desires and character. Women who could keep up with me literally and figuratively. Women of great intelligence, independence, strength, diversity, energy; "sexpositive" ("vanilla" is only for cooking and candles for me), sensual, non-judgmental, silly and with great integrity. You know, women who have a clue, a life and seize the power of being diverse, thinking, evolving women without being arrogant about it. I don't need 'fixing' and either do you. Women who don't want to settle down just because they are tired of being ****ed over by 'bad boys' (that they still lust after).

Music:

Genres include: 80s, Rock (all kinds), techno, house, hip-hop, rap, house, opera, classical, hoochie step/club remixes and club music and yes, country too!

Movies:

Just a sampling:, Airplane, Clerks, Ordinary People, Lola Rennt (Run Lola Run), Spinal Tap, KB's Hamlet, The Usual Suspects, The Princess Bride, American Beauty, Hedwig & the Angry Inch, Roger & Me (comedy), Fight Club (documentary), Fantasia, Kingpin, Harold & Maude, Bladerunner, Non-'Hotel Porn' (sometimes for 'inspiration,' but mostly for MST3K value), Ferris Bueller's Day Off, The Shawshank Redemption, Happiness, Help!, The Matrix (the first one, you know, the documentary), Musicals, any campy 50s-80s movie.

Books:

I have so many favorites and so much yet to read, however here is a short list of SOME: Les Miserables, The Source, To Brooklyn with Love, Creepy Suzie, Now We Are Six, The Grapes of Wrath, Love in the Time of Cholera, The Name of the Rose, A Natural History of the Senses, Skinny Legs and All, The OED (on my credenza in my office and yes, I do use it for work), The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex