There's more to life than this.
On Polyamoury:
a first born infant often reacts to a new sibling at it’s mother's body with extreme jealousy, intense feelings of rivalry and anger, and ultimately ownership. as adults we watch with sympathy, but do not expect the mother to put the newcomer away or keep her love for the new one hidden from the older child. we expect instead that the mother will reassure the first child she still loves and cares for them as well as assuring the child she loves and cares for the new baby also.
in comparison we have the relationship of adults:
the adult often reacts to a new person at it’s lover’s body with extreme jealousy, intense feelings of rivalry and anger, and ultimately ownership.we deem children’s emotions unreasonable and therefore not masters of the situation, but adult’s emotions reasonable and allowed to govern.as adults we expect these negative reactions to be adhered to rather than dealt with, by the love for another person being denied and a code of conduct to be obeyed. of all the complex and different emotions between people, we give jealousy, fear and insecurity priority over love and honest acceptance of our feelings, resulting in restrictive relationships that limit our capacity to love.
for someone to feel hurt by another it does not mean anyone has wronged anyone else. to openly accept feelings of jealousy and fear without asking or expecting another to restrict their behaviour forces us to be the possessors not of another, but of our own emotions. Then we can truly Love.
