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41DERFUL

I wanna be the one you point to and say yeah that's her!

About Me

Hmmm...."me" cannot be summed up in one paragraph but I'll try!Creative, passionate, focused when I want to be, witty and charming....just a few words that would describe me.41 yrs old- YES THAT IS CORRECT- and proud of it! Born in Philadelphia, grew up in Oakland and now LA is the place I call home. Born to a teenage mother who struggled to keep shoes on my feet and an absentee father who broke my mom's heart. Raised by a family who to this day gives me nothing but unconditional love no matter what I do!I am not perfect....nor do I strive to achieve something that cannot be attained (perfection). We all come with flaws...and as Mary J belts out- "take me as I am or have nothing at all" In order to truly know me- you must understand my journey. All that I've been through, the mistakes I've made, the challenges I've faced, the disappointments I've had, the hurts I've caused- all those experiences have helped shape & mold me into the woman I am becoming. I have not always been the perfect daughter, the best friend or girlfriend....but I am at a point in my life where I am striving to be a better individual every day.Almost 7 years ago I moved to LA to pursue a career in music. My group had a record deal on the table, very little money in our pockets and no plan B in case the deal didn't work out. Lo and behold the deal fell through! My singing partner moved back to the Bay and I made a decision to stick it out. My story is no different than countless others who move here with big dreams and stars in thier eyes. Living in LA has had it's challenges- it was not easy at all- I struggled. But through it all God showed me what I was made of- determined, strong & resilient. And I'd have it no other way. No longer having dreams of being the next recording star but the passion will always be there. Occassionally I write hooks & do vocals with some local producers and would love to continue to do so.I've always enjoyed the creative process of writing songs and now I've taken that and re-focused my creativity into writing fiction & poetry. Currently I'm working on my first book of poetry and it's in the works to have it published real soon.From the outside looking in my life may not look like much to some but it's my life and I love it! When I'm not at work I'm writing, writing and writing. And when I'm not writing I'm spending time with my friends or traveling. (just recently traveled to Hawaii & Mazatlan) Truly I feel as if my life is just beginning....and I plan on savoring each moment. Each day that we're given is one that we'll never get back-so you must enjoy every moment you have. I know that I am- and I plan on becoming the hottest 41 year old besides Halle Berry and Janet Jackson that is! WATCH OUT!Welcome to my world.......
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My Interests

READING..I LOVE TO READ (fiction is one of my favorite genres), COOKING AND TRAVELING...

I'd like to meet:

Maya Angelou, Nikki Giovanni, Russell Simmons and Oprah.-Myspace has provided me the opportunity to reconnect with alot of old friends and make some new ones.I'm not here to find a man. LOL I'd just like to meet people who are not full of shit or drama. UNPRETENTIOUS PEOPLE (do they really exist in LA?) people who are simple, uncomplicated, funny, driven, creative.One of the few videos I've been in..... this is comediennes Red Grant & Shawn Harris' spoof of Busta Rhymes "Pass the Courvouisier" titled "Pass the Scope that Way". About 2 minutes into the video- you'll see me under the table with Shawn & Red. It was a fun experience!View All Friends | View Blog | Add Comment

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Music:

a few new favorites.....ADELE, NATASHA BEDINGFIELD,DUFFY AND ESTHERO AMEL LARRIEUX, VIVIAN GREENE, RACHELLE FERRELL, BRIAN MCKNIGHT, ANTHONY HAMILTON, A FINE FRENZY, EVANESCENCE, MILES LONG, BILLIE HOLIDAY, PHYLLIS HYMAN, YOULANDA ADAMS, PRINCE & MARY MARY just 2 name a select few....

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Movies:

USUAL SUSPECTS, CRASH, COLOR PURPLE & KAMA SUTRA
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Television:

Curb Your Enthusiasm, Tavis Smiley, Real Time with Bill Maher, Prison Break , Grey's Anatomy, The Wire, Nip/Tuck, Noah's Arc, The L Word, The Closer, Monk, The Food Network and I love Clean House w/Niecy Nash.

Books:

THE ALCHEMIST, THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE AND ANYTHING WRITTEN BY ERIC JEROME DICKEY

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Heroes:

Jesus, my mother and my grandmother.

My Blog

WHY ARE YOU SINGLE?

So this blog comes after getting asked so many times why I am still single. My usual response is it's by choice or by circumstance and most of the time it's both.....not that there's anything wro...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Tue, 08 Jul 2008 01:20:00 PST

words........

  .. Healing occurs when you see no value in pain.....   A certain amount of pain is inevitable....but suffering is optional......   Your body & everything in the world are bu...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Sun, 06 Jul 2008 11:52:00 PST

MY BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL

From the color of my skin, to the texture of my hair to the length of my strands, to the breadth of my smile To the stride of my gait, to the span of my arms, to the depth of my bosom to the curve ...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:41:00 PST

NEVER LOSE WHO YOU ARE

I WAS READING MY HOROSCOPE THIS MORNING (OH SHUT IT- ALOT OF U DO 2.....SO BE QUIET)    ANYWAY...THIS IS WHAT IT HAD TO SAY.... The new relationships your life should not be just romance-rel...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Fri, 27 Jun 2008 11:13:00 PST

FUNNY

It's funny....how I don't care like I used to Your tired ways don't make me sick and tired anymore I've come to realize your trifling nature is so opposite to human nature That it doesn't bother me ...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Sat, 28 Jun 2008 08:08:00 PST

NATIONAL HIV TESTING WEEK FREE June 23rd- June 28th

Although this week is being used to promote awareness you can get tested at any time at any number of free clinics around the county..... It's better to know your status than to walk around not knowin...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Thu, 26 Jun 2008 09:19:00 PST

WHERE ARE YOU IN MY LIFE?

Everyone can't be in your Front Row. Life is like a theater, so choose your audience carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a FRONT ROW seat in our lives. There are som...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Mon, 23 Jun 2008 03:34:00 PST

A Black American - Smokey Robinson

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHEA7Kgm6pg SAY IT LOUD....I'M BLACK AND I'M PROUD!...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:57:00 PST

DADDY DEAREST

OPEN LETTER TO MY FATHER Daddy Dearest......  Today they say let's not forget about the fathers...... Well father dear what about the children u forgot....... Me, Junior, Kim, Tony and now E...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Sun, 15 Jun 2008 09:22:00 PST

SOULMATE- Part 2

So a few nights ago I was laying on the couch watching an episode of The Bachelorette. And the Bachelorette was on a date with one of her suitors and at the conclusion of the date she had arranged for...
Posted by 41DERFUL on Thu, 12 Jun 2008 07:35:00 PST