Ficus

As for the rest...I'm happily married and have a fabulous career that I love - probably a bit too much if I'm honest with myself. I'm a trained chef but moved into catering management 3 years ago. I also work very closely with a fantastic charity called KidsCharities UK. Infact, I'm in the process of publishing a cookbook to raise money for them, and more specifically to raise money to build specialised cancer treatment units for young people.

I am very interested in politics and am considering going back to University to study political science. I don't believe for a second that I could ever be a politician, but I am fascinated with the whole thing.

I really enjoy television and have a list as long as my arm of my favourite shows. At the moment I am really into Two & a Half Men and My Name is Earl. I think the latter is absolutely brilliant - I like tv shows & films that have a moral and My Name is Earl definitely fits the bill.

It's a simple life for me, but still waters run deep.

PLEASE READ BELOW BEFORE SENDING ME A FRIEND REQUEST

I joined myspace to meet new people with similar interests. I've since learned that the collection of friends is an obsession with a lot of the people on myspace with very little to do with actually forming real friendships. Sadly, I too have fallen into the trap of collecting friends egged on by my husband who in a short time has collected over 1100. Even still, I do review the profiles of everyone who sends me a friend request because I am looking for people with whom I share similar interests to befriend. So, for lack of a better term, here is my criteria for the friends I add.

1.) I am a 41 year old professional. I have very little in common with most people under the age of 21. There are exceptions but for the most part I am not likely to add anyone under the age of 21 unless there is some indication on their profile that they are able to sustain a meaningful conversation.

2.) I have no interest in adding people who know how to spell properly but insist on adopting a cutesy spelling of relatively easy to spell words. For example, 'sending u sum luv'. YOU is a simple 3 letter word. SOME and LOVE are each only four letters. If you're so lazy that you have to abbreviate words that are already only a few letters then I am not likely to add you. This again is another reason why I am not likely to add anyone under 21.

3.) If you've got more flesh showing than covered, I am not likely to add you. I am not remotely interested in any girl who thinks the way to attract friends is by flashing her tits & ass. If that's the best you can come up with you're probably not very smart and unable to have an intelligent conversation. This again is another reason why I am not likely to add anyone under 21.

4.) In a continuation of number 3, if your profile lists your occupation as model, I am not likely to add you. Just because you got one of your friends to take a picture of you half naked in some silly pose with you sucking on your finger it doesnt mean you're a model. If you can show me your latest Calvin Klein ad, then we'll talk. For this reason I am unlikely to add anyone under 21.

5.) If you are so wrapped up in some boyfriend or girlfriend that you can't stop going on about how wonderful they are, I probably won't add you. I'm happily married & love my husband to bits but why would you care about that? My relationship with my husband is my business. So should your relationship be with your boyfriend or girlfriend. And for most teenagers the boy or girlfriend youre singing the praises of one minute will not be the same one you're worshipping next week. So keep it to yourself, I'm not interested. For this reason, I am not likely to add anyone under 21.

6.) Swearing - now, I personally swear quite a bit. But I do it when its appropriate, like when I'm angry or frustrated. I don't just swear for the sake of it. If there's an over and inappropriate use of foul language on your profile then I am not likely to add you. Again, another reason why I am not likely to add anyone under 21. Of course, if you're under 18 and there's any foul language on your site there is no way I'd add you! Who do you think you are? Do you think it makes you an adult just because you swear? If you want to impress people then learn to speak properly. Until then, go wash your mouth out with soap.

7.) Adding on to the previous points if your myspace name is something like 'Susie luvs Billy' or 'porn princess' or 'go fuk urself' then I probably won't add you. When I see names like that before I even look at the persons profile I can pretty much guess their age. For this reason I am not likely to add anyone under 21.

8.) If I can't read your profile (because you're under 16) or if you haven't put enough about yourself on your profile for me to decide if we have anything in common, I will not add you.

9.) Music - I have a varied taste in music but I tend not to like bands in particular but rather certain songs. I'm not that into music to be perfectly honest, I can take it or leave it. Basically, if I don't know the words and can't sing along I'm not interested. However, I absolutely despise hip hop, trance, rap and country western music. So if you are severely interested in any one of those genres, then I am not likely to add you. For this reason I am not likely to add you if you are under 21.

OK, so who will I add? I like people who care about the world - politics, religion, the environment...I'm not a 'tree hugging hippie' or a vegetarian but I have no problems befriending people with different views on important issues. To me, it doesn't matter so much what you believe as long as you believe in something and understand why you believe it.

If you are creative and funny I will probably add you. I have a fairly stressful job and work long hours, so when I'm at home I like a bit of escapism. I'm friends with a leather couch. It makes me laugh and it makes me wonder what sort of creative person can put themselves in the role of an inanimate object - brilliant!

I would also like to mention for those of you who may think I've got some sort of problem with under 21's that my number one friend is 18. He's my friend because he cares about the world, is very intelligent and can carry on a meaningful conversation...and he makes me laugh.

So there you have it. I am sorry if I've offended anyone. That wasn't my intention. But this is my space and I have the right to chose the people I want to be friends with and thought it only fair that if I deny you, you understand why.

Your Five Factor Personality Profile
Extroversion:
You have low extroversion.
You are quiet and reserved in most social situations.
A low key, laid back lifestyle is important to you.
You tend to bond slowly, over time, with one or two people.
Conscientiousness:
You have high conscientiousness.
Intelligent and reliable, you tend to succeed in life.
Most things in your life are organized and planned well.
But you borderline on being a total perfectionist.
Agreeableness:
You have high agreeableness.
You are easy to get along with, and you value harmony highly.
Helpful and generous, you are willing to compromise with almost anyone.
You give people the benefit of the doubt and don't mind giving someone a second chance.
Neuroticism:
You have low neuroticism.
You are very emotionally stable and mentally together.
Only the greatest setbacks upset you, and you bounce back quickly.
Overall, you are typically calm and relaxed - making others feel secure.
Openness to experience:
Your openness to new experiences is high.
In life, you tend to be an early adopter of all new things and ideas.
You'll try almost anything interesting, and you're constantly pushing your own limits.
A great connoisseir of art and beauty, you can find the positive side of almost anything. The Five Factor Personality Test
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