A whole wide range of them, to be sure!: Chastity Belts, harnesses, suspension, total rubber enclosure, metal restraint devices, electro stimulation, vacuum excitation, transvestism, immobilization, sensory deprivation ... and then, having as many of the above happen all at the same time.
I'm interested in chatting and IM-ing with those who hold the same general sets of interests I do, and if the circumstances work for us both, eventually meeting them face to face. Although I like to connect with others in the scene with similar interests, I also want to discover other areas of mutual interest beyond it and so our conversations are not uni-dimensional. Folks who are intelligent, can write and communicate clearly, are obviously attractive to me.
Music that I can understand the words to, and perhaps sing along with. Oldies and goldies, British military band music, the pipes and drums, Rogers & Hammerstien/Hart musicals, C&W (not that whiney stuff), ELO, Boney M, some mnodern stuff. I cannot stand 'rap' (if I need to get yelled at and preached at - I'll go have a traffic accident), grundge ... it's NOT music, it's a trvesty. Very loud, so-called, techno/industrial music is intolerable.
Action type movies, British comedies, thrillers, properly done animation such as Shrek, Robots, etc. Sci-Fi, good situational drams, reality based tales, war movies
Educational TV, such as Discovery Channel, biography channel, Arts & Entertainment, music specials, the occasional sit com, most British origin shows.
Good science fiction, history, how things work books, biographies, thrillers, well written S&M books ... more to follow.
Folks who have really been there and done that. No TRUE heroes for me but folks I admire are Lee Iacoca, General Schwartzkopff, Condoleeza Rice, Oprah, Madonna, Clint Eastwood, Winston Churchill, Maggie Thatcher ... others to follow.