BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE, DOMINANCE and SUBMISSION.
Warning!
Some adults may find this material offensive.
"BDSM" is an acronym of "B&D" (Bondage & Discipline), "D&S" (Dominance & Submission), and "S&M" (sadomasochism). "BDSM" refers to any or all of these things, and a lot of stuff besides.Tying up your lover is BDSM; so is flogging that person, or bossing that person around, or any of a thousand other things. BDSM is highly erotic, usually (though not always) involves sex or sexual tension; and is highly psychologically charged. One person (the "submissive") agrees to submit to another person (the "dominant"); or, alternately, one person agrees to receive some sort of sensation, such as spanking, from another.
Some people like to be submissive all the time, some people like to be dominant all the time; some people like to switch, being submissive one day and dominant the next.Many people practice some element of BDSM in their sexual lives without even being aware of it. They may think of "S&M" as "That sick stuff that people do with whips and cattle prods and stuff," yet still blindfold one another from time to time, or tie one another down and break out the whipped cream...All of these things are "BDSM.
" BDSM is not necessarily hardcore sadomasochism; it can be remarkably subtle and sensual and soft. Pinning your partner to the bed and running silk or ice cubes or rabbit fur over your lover's body qualifies as "BDSM" (specifically, of a variety called "sensation play").BDSM doesn't have to involve all of these.There are many people involved in BDSM who enjoy tying others up, or being tied up themselves, but who do not enjoy S&M--that is, they aren't interested in inflicting or receiving pain. Sometimes, one partner just ties up the other, as a form of foreplay. Similarly, there are many people who may like the psychological control they get from ordering their lovers to do things, but do not care for being physically restrained or tied, or for tying up their lovers.BDSM is as varied as the people who do it.Some people, love the aesthetic of an elaborate rope harness, or an elaborate form of bondage; others simply aren't interested in the bondage elements at all.
The key to all these different forms of BDSM, though, is the exchange of power. One person (the "bottom" or "submissive") is choosing to allow the other person (the "top" or "dominant") to have control over him or her in some way--perhaps by allowing the dominant to tie them up, perhaps by allowing the dominant to spank them, perhaps simply by doing whatever the dominant instructs them to.In particular, BDSM is NOT abuse!People who are practicing BDSM in any of its trillions of forms are doing it voluntarily, for fun. It's a way to explore. Everything that happens in a BDSM relationship is consensual; and believe it or not, it's not just about the dominant getting what he or she wants--it's more about the submissive getting what he or she wants.An abuser has no regard for the feelings, needs, or limits of the victim. A BDSM dominant is concerned above all else with the needs and desires of the submissive. Pretty straightforward, really.
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W/we are a BDSM community which partakes in Safe, Sane and Consensual behaviors. What is Safe,Sane and Consensual.
* Safe means that all participants have evaluated the risk of what they plan to do and find it acceptable, that the equipment to be used is in good condition and that they know how to use it (as in any sport).
* Sane, that all participants can understand the difference between fantasy and reality, and act accordingly. (It means that they are not insane, under the influence of alcohol or drugs or are somehow impaired to make decisions).
Actually, in our lives we extend this concept adding that the participants lives will not be at risk, and nobody will be hurt as severely as to require professional aid, or to leave permanent marks.
* Consensual, that, being all participants aware of what is going to happen, accept freely to participate. It also means that the consent can be retired at any time during the session by any of the participants.
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This site contains adult material focusing primarily on human sexuality and dynamics of bondage and the BDSM Lifestyle. You must be at least 18 years of age to enter this site!
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