SensuellMan

***INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA, (or ego-dystonic homophobia) usually refers to homophobia as a prejudice carried by homosexuals against themselves and others like them. It includes a discomfort with or disapproval of one..s own sexual orientation.Such a situation may cause extreme repression of homosexual desires. In other cases, a conscious internal struggle may occur for some time, often pitting deeply held religious or social beliefs against strong emotional desires and needs. This discordance often causes clinical depression, and the unusually high suicide rate among homosexual teenagers may be partly attributed to this phenomenon (the opinions and actions of others may also be a factor).Many people in this situation attempt to resolve it, at least for a period of time, through chastity. This is an attractive option because many belief systems are neutral or only mildly disapprove of, for example, homosexual feelings, but strongly disapprove of acting on those feelings. Advocates of the ex-gay movement believe that in addition to behavior, sexual orientation is a malleable attribute, and advocate attempting to change it (this is highly controversial, and some mental health professionals warn that such therapies have not been proven to be effective, and that they may be psychologically harmful).The label of internalized homophobia is sometimes applied to conscious or unconscious behaviors which an observer feels the need to promote or conform to the expectations of heteronormativity or heterosexism. This might include making assumptions about the gender of a person..s romantic partner, or about gender roles. Some also apply this label to LGBT persons who support "compromise" policies, such as those that find civil unions an acceptable alternative to same-sex marriage. Whether this is a tactical judgement call or the result of some kind of internal prejudice (whether in a cause-and-effect fashion, or definitionally) is a matter of some debate.Some claim (including Sigmund Freud in his psychoanalytic theory that some or most homophobes are repressed homosexuals, but this claim is highly controversial. The notion, however, suffers from a serious logical fallacy known as post hoc ergo propter hoc. In 1996, a controlled study of 64 heterosexual (by experience and self-reported orientation) men at the University of Georgia found the allegedly homophobic men (as measured by the Index of Homophobia considerably more likely to experience more erectile response when exposed to homoerotic images than non-homophobic men.However, the homophobic men also tended to report more negative emotions in response to those particular images (not sexual arousal), and the researchers noted that general anxiety has been shown to enhance erectile response. There was no significant difference in results on the Aggression Questionnaire. The group recommended further research. ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ___ ***AT THE CAFE ENTRANCE "Something they said beside me directed my attention toward the cafe entrance. And I saw the beautiful body that looked as if Eros had made it from his consummate experience--- joyfully modeling its symmetrical limbs; heightening sculpturally its stature; modeling the face with emotion and imparting by the touch of his hands a feeling on the brow, on the eyes, on the lips." --- Constantine P. Cavafy (1863---1933), a Greek poet who was open about his homosexuality. ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____ ***O! sweet, bare boy, bellyward on my bed, your lips are wet, and your eyes are hungry. I know why you moan and flex those cheeks, those full, ripe peaches: you crave a sensual connection. Yes, you always get what you want, O! sweet, bare boy, bellyward on my bed.