so just get over it! ::whomp whomp::
. nv iedbabygrl .
i wanna be remembered as the girl who always smyled ..
&' could brighten up anyone's day ..
.. even if she couldn't brighten up her own .
part of knowing where you're going ..
.. is knowing where you came from.
many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. to handle yourself, use your head. to handle others, use your heart. anger is only one letter short of danger. if someone betrays you once, it is their fault; if they betray you twice, it is your fault. great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. one who loses money loses much; one who loses a friend, loses much more; one who loses faith, loses all. beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. learn from the mistakes of others, you can't live long enough to make them all yourself.
- anonymous
our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. it is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. we ask ourselves, who am i to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? actually, who are you not to be? you are a child of god. your playing small does not serve the world. there's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. we are all meant to shine, as children do. we are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. it's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people the permission to do the same. as we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
- coach carter
the only condition to love, is to love without condition.
- unknown
talent is hitting the target no one else can hit.. genius is hitting the target no one else can see.
- arthur schopenhauer
you can't tell a grl you love her .. are you stupid!? words can't express your love.. you gotta prove it.
if a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. if he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. stop making excuses for a man & his behavior. allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. slower is better. never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. if a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". a friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. don't settle. if you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. don't stay because you think "it will get better". you'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. the only person you can control in a relationship is you. maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. if something bothers you, speak up. never let a man know everything. he will use it against you later. you cannot change a man's behavior. change comes from within. don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are. do not make him into a quasi-god. he is a man .. nothing more, nothing less. never let a man define who you are. never borrow someone else's man. if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. a man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you. all men are not dogs. you should not be the one doing all the bending. compromise is a two-way street. you need time to heal between relationships. there is nothing cute about baggage. deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. you should never look for someone to complete you. a relationship consists of two whole individuals, look for someone complimentary .. not supplementary. dating is fun, even if he doesn't turn out to be mr. right. make him miss you sometimes. when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted. don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. keep him in your radar but get to know others. share this with other women & men just so they know. you'll make someone smile, another rethink his/her choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.
- oprah winfrey
Is it love, or a mutual strangulation society?
Story HighlightsSome love songs are more fairy tale than real life
If you can't live without lover -- get therapy
One person can't be everything to another person
(Oprah.com) -- In a folktale that has been retold for centuries in many variations (one of which is Shakespeare's "King Lear"), an elderly king asks his three daughters how much they love him. The two older sisters deliver flowery speeches of filial adoration, but the youngest says only "I love you as meat loves salt."
Believing the fantasies described in love songs can be unhealthy.
The king, insulted by this homely simile, banishes the youngest daughter and divides his kingdom between the older two, who promptly kick him out on his royal heinie.
He seeks refuge in the very house where his third daughter is working as a scullery maid. Recognizing her father, the daughter asks the cook to prepare his meal without salt. The king eats a few tasteless mouthfuls, then bursts into tears. "All along," he cries, "it was my youngest daughter who really loved me!"
The daughter reveals herself and all ends happily (except in "King Lear," where pretty much everybody dies).
Each of the following five statements is the polar opposite of what most Americans see as loving commitment. But these are "meat loves salt" commitments, as necessary as they are unconventional. Only if you and your beloved can honestly say them to each other is your relationship likely to thrive.
Want an honest and long lasting relationship? Make sure you and your partner can recite these five statements.
I can live without you, no problem
"I can't live," wails the singer, "if living is without you." The emotion that fuels this kind of relationship isn't love; it's desperation. It can feel romantic at first, but over time it invariably fails to meet either partner's needs. Don't Miss
If this is how you feel, don't start dating. Start therapy. Counseling can teach you how to get your needs met by the only person responsible for them: you. "I can live without you" is an assurance that sets the stage for real love.
My love for you will definitely change
Most human beings seem innately averse to change. Once we've established some measure of comfort or stability, we want to nail it in place so that there's no possibility of loss. Unfortunately, this is another promise that is more likely to scuttle a relationship than shore it up.
The reason is that everything -- and everyone -- is constantly changing. We age, grow, learn, get sick, get well, gain weight, lose weight, find new interests and drop old ones. Many people fear that if their love is free to change, it will vanish. The opposite is true. A love that is allowed to adapt to new circumstances is virtually indestructible.
You're not everything I need
I'm a big fan of sexual monogamy, but I'm puzzled by lovers who claim that their romantic partner is the only person they need in their lives or that time together is the only activity necessary for emotional fulfillment. Humans are designed to live in groups, explore ideas, and constantly learn new skills.
Trying to get all this input from one person is like trying to get a full range of vitamins by eating only ice cream. When a couple believes "We must fulfill all of each other's needs, each becomes exhausted by the effort to be all things to the other and neither can develop fully as an individual.
Sacrificing all our individual needs doesn't strengthen a relationship. Mutually supporting each other's personal growth does.
I won't always hold you close
There's a thin line between a romantic statement like "I love you so much, I want to share my life with you until death do us part" and the lunatic-fringe anthem "I love you so much that if you try to leave me, I'll kill you."
People who say such things love others the way spiders love flies; they love to capture them, wrap them in immobilizing fetters, and drain nourishment out of them at peckish moments. This is not the kind of love you want.
The way you can tell real love from spider love is simple: Possessiveness and exploitation involve controlling the loved one, whereas true love is based on setting the beloved free to make his or her own choices.
You and I aren't one
Perhaps you are neither a spider nor a fly, but a chameleon who morphs to match the one you love. Or you may date chameleons, choosing partners who conform to your personality. Either way, you're not in a healthy relationship. In fact, you're not in a relationship at all.
If you're living by the "We are one" ideal, it's high time you found out how terrific love for two can be. Follow your heart in a direction your partner wouldn't go. Dare to explore your differences. Agree to disagree. If you're accustomed to disappearing, this will allow you to see that you can be loved as you really are. If you tend to dominate, you'll find out how interesting it is to love an actual person rather than a human mirror.
By Martha Beck from "O, The Oprah Magazine," March 2002
the deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt & pain.
we think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving.
forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool
that will support you & honor you,
even in the most extreme circumstance.
the weak can never forgive.
forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
i forgive.
- miss anonymous
don't argue with fools. because people from a distance can't tell who's who.
what most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things, instead of using people and loving things.
hold the person that you love closely,
if they're next to you.
the one you love,
not the person
that'll simply have sex with you.
appreciate them to the fullest extent,
and then beyond.
'cuz you never really know what you got,
until it's gone ..
time waits for no man
not fate, it's all planned
hold tight to your love
'cuz you never know ..
- immortal technique
bow chicka wow wow .. GOTTEM! =)