getting people to eat good food, having dinner parties, traveling (but not too far or I get scared), hanging out on the couch and watching t.v. with my man (gotta love the "couple's weight"), eating at places I can't afford and listening to sad songs on the subway and crying to make other passengers uncomfortable.
people that aren't jerks
(in no particular order)matt pond pa, jeff buckley, joni mitchell, nick drake, gillian welch and david rawlings, patty griffin, the red house painters, joanna newsome, greg brown, death cab for cutie, prince (old stuff), emmylou harris, shelby lynn, ryan adams, csny, led zepplin, stephen stills, ray lamontagne, guided by voices, iron and wine, john coltrane, lucinda williams, miles davis, astrud gilberto, josh rouse, m. ward, my morning jacket, the velvet underground, gil scott heron, pavement, peter gabriel, kate bush, p.j. harvey (especially dry and rid of me) the postal service, ricki lee jones, ben folds, jenny lewis and the watson twins, bright eyes, the rolling stones, the smashing pumpkins (for gish and siamese dream) nirvana, bruce springsteen, sufjan stevens, tori amos (little earthquakes) van morrison, wilco, yo la tengo, tom waits, nina simone, billy holiday, lauryn hill and all old school kalamazoo rock (overman, twitch, thought industry, knee deep shag, table, dykehouse, blue dahlia and even the ol' verve pipe!)
(not necessarily in this order) the graduate, harold and maude, to kill a mockingbird, annie hall, the shining, apocalypse now, the bicycle thief, st.elmo's fire, sixteen candles, happiness, citizen kane, one flew over the cuckoo's nest, taxi driver, the deer hunter, 8 1/2, breaking the waves, dreams, the sweet hereafter, trainspotting, heavenly creatures, magnolia, wild at heart, chaplin (for robert downey jr's performance) rushmore, rosemary's baby, desparately seeking susan.
six feet under, america's next top model, lost, big love, sopranos, intervention, family business......
the wind up bird chronicle, sexus, nexus and plexus, everything is illuminated, i know this much is true, catcher in the rye, anything by mary gaitskill.....especially bad behavior, poems and things by derek henderson and derek pollard, white teeth, the story of the eye, the poisonwood bible, anything carson mccullers, all tim o'brien novels, the corrections, all plays by tennessee williams, on the road, one flew over the cuckoo's nest, running with scissors, the scarlet letter, the hotel new hampshire, all e.e. cummings, me talk pretty one day, the hearbreaking work of a staggering genius, the theater and it's double, any edna st. vincent millay.....to name a few.
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