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☆Dene☆,,

Won’t be your everything. Might be your one thing. Could be the right thing. Wouldn’t that thing

About Me


I am just an ordinary guy with an ordinary life.
I am the father of three really great kids.
I Love my children very much,
and no matter what I have done or will ever do,
I will always believe that they were my greatest achievement!
I take pride in considering myself a gentleman
and try to live by my own self code of honor.
I have hit many peaks and valleys in my life
and hope that there are still a few more peaks
and whole lot less valleys to come.
I am a deep thinker and often contemplate on the mysteries of life.
I really want to know:
Is there a God?
Is there life after death?
Is there life on other planets?
Will I ever find someone to Love?

When we honestly ask ourselves
which person in our lives means the most to us,
we often find that it is those who,
instead of giving much advise, solutions, or cures,
have chosen rather to share our pain
and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand.
The friend who can be silent
with us in a moment of despair and confusion,
who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement,
who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing
and face with us the reality of our powerlessness,
that is friend who cares!
Want to be my friend?
As for me:
I try to be as honest with people as I can.
I have a Love for Life and a Lust for learning
all that I can about this great big wonderful
world that we live in.
I believe that if a day goes by
that I didn't learn something new,
then that day was wasted.
I would like to think that I am a very unique person
and have often used the metaphor:
that I am like nobody and there is not anyone like me.
I operate Computer Doctors
and enjoy working on Computers.
I do system set-up, upgrades,
tune ups, software installation,
networking, virus-spyware-adware removal.
IF I CAN'T FIX IT...YOU DON'T PAY!
Message Me for estimates
And troubleshooting
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
If you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own. If you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, everyday, and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes!"
It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
It makes no difference if YOU are: North American, South American, European, African, Asian, Australian Or from anywhere in between, We are all of one world... EARTH! And one race... HUMAN! Of the People, By the People, For the People, We are the People.
~ Dene Whelchel ~
"Treat all men alike. Give them all the same law. Give them all an even chance to live and grow. All men were made by the same Great Spirit Chief. They are all brothers. The Earth is the mother of all people, and all people should have equal rights upon it... Let me be a free man, free to travel, free to stop, free to work, free to trade... where I choose my own teachers, free to follow the religion of my fathers, free to think and talk and act for myself, and I will obey every law, or submit to the penalty."
"Treat the Earth well It was not given to you by your parents, It was loaned to you by your children. We do not inherit the Earth from our Ancestors, We borrow it from our Children"
"When it comes time to die,
be not like those whose hearts
are filled with the fear of death,
so when their time comes they weep
and pray for a little more time to
live their lives over again in a different way.
Sing your death song, and die like a hero going home."
The traditional Cherokee Philosophy is that even the smallest drop of Cherokee Blood makes one a Cherokee.
There is no such thing as
"Part Cherokee" Either you're Cherokee or you're not. It isn't the quantity of Cherokee blood in your veins that is important, but the quality of it... your pride in it. I have seen full-bloods who have virtually no idea of the great legacy entrusted to their care. Yet,I have seen people with as little as 1/500th blood who inspire the spirits of their ancestors because they make being Cherokee a proud part of a their everyday life."

My Interests



Hold on to what is good even if its a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe even if it is a tree which stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do even if it is a long way from here.
Hold on to life even when it is easier letting go.
Hold on to my hand even when I have gone away from you Walk in beauty love and laughter

I'd like to meet:


This is a question that haunts me.
I guess that the only way to say it is by just being honest.
I am not looking for the perfect woman,
I am looking for a woman that is perfect for me.
I would be lying if I said that looks are unimportant.
But I do look much deeper than the outer shell of a person.
I would like to meet someone with a set of values that they will stand behind.
They do not have to totally agree with my own,
but it would be great if we could share our views on life, love or religion and agree to disagree on our own views and not let them stand between us.
I can be very opinionated at times and stand behind my views and beliefs.
But they are not written in stone.
I am adaptable and interchangeable.
When I am wrong, I will freely admit it.
But if I feel I am right I will stick to my guns.
I will make my point known and then can put it behind me and not dwell on something that I can not change.

Many people ask me why I am still single.
I can explain this in a nutshell.
I want my next relationship to be my last relationship!

I have lived a full life, I have shared many wonderful memories with many different people in my lifetime.
I have been around the block more than once and sown my wild oats more than I care to admit.
But all this has led me to who I am today!
I am a father, brother, papaw, uncle, friend!
These things alone make me a very enriched man,
But there is certainly something missing...could it be you?

I am like the fabled Knight in shining armor, whose lifelong quest has been to find the Lady of his dreams.
A Lady that wants to be Loved and can give Love too.
I will not promise things that I can not give... But will give all that I can!
I want to share my life, my Love, my dreams with someone that I can grow old with.
Are you the "Lady" that is willing to take a chance and let this lonely old "Knight" have the next dance?

People come into your life for a
Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
When you know which one it is,
you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, its REAL! But only for a Season!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid
emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person
and put what you have learned to use in all other
relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were
a Reason,
a Season
or a Lifetime.

Music:



Movies:

I won't ask for your heart,
I won't ask for your hope,
I won't ask for your faith,
I won't ask for your soul,
I won't ask for your word,
I won't ask for your hand,
I won't ask for your promise,
I won't ask for a future,
I won't ask for your mind.
What I will ask for, however,
is that you just grant me some time.

Books:


"The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident."
Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special. Don't set your goals by what other people deem important.Only you know what is best for you. Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless.Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each other.Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love.The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.Don't dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose.Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you're going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way

Heroes:



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My Blog

Passions Flames

A touch, soft and tender.A whisper, full of desireA gasp of sweet surrenderAs passion fuels the fireNo words spoken between themNo promises to be keptNo lies being told tonightNo looking back - no reg...
Posted by Dene,, on Thu, 11 Oct 2007 11:50:00 PST

The Journey

The journey begins,one tentative step,must take the first,perhaps one million left.But I'll take them all,it's the least I can do,if I know that this journeyshall bring me to you.You, that lake,all da...
Posted by Dene,, on Sun, 07 Oct 2007 09:05:00 PST

Atop The Hill

Beneath a floodof red and goldatop a purple hillrests a secretin the lavenderthat isn't mine to telland I see you there,atop that crest,relaxed, as if at home,and I wait in silencefor that biding trap...
Posted by Dene,, on Thu, 04 Oct 2007 11:25:00 PST

Dinner for One

Devotion and Ardor,Theatrics and Hate,show up for dinner,but Love?She's running late.Patience is drunkand Envy just laughswhile Truth tipsthe wineand fills Hope's crystal glass.Wish Love would hurry.T...
Posted by Dene,, on Sun, 30 Sep 2007 11:22:00 PST

Too Late

You was angry at mebecause Inever waited.You wouldn't keep up.Far too slow.Too sedated.So you let me go,and you enviedmy paceas you satand you restedand stayed safein your placeand it wasn't untilI dr...
Posted by Dene,, on Sun, 30 Sep 2007 10:56:00 PST

What I know about love

What I know about love.Nothing. I know nothing at all about love. There. Done.Ok, ok. Wait. That's not entirely correct. I know about loving my family. I know about loving a cold soda on a ridiculousl...
Posted by Dene,, on Fri, 28 Sep 2007 02:30:00 PST

Response to Fans of my Blog

A little something from my emails:"Why not, just once, write about what you want for the future&instead of the disappointments of the past?""You say you have no hopes or dreams. I know, that you know,...
Posted by Dene,, on Fri, 28 Sep 2007 04:36:00 PST

You Have To Believe

You have to believeBelieve in your heart that something wonderful is about to happenLove your life Believe in your own powers and your own potential and in your own innate goodness Wake every morning ...
Posted by Dene,, on Sun, 23 Sep 2007 11:59:00 PST

Do You Believe?

Look into your heart and tell me what you seeAm I on your mind; are you thinking of meDo you wake in the night and let out a sighDo you whisper my name and wonder whyI can't be there with you tonightW...
Posted by Dene,, on Sun, 23 Sep 2007 11:30:00 PST

Tonight

In the light of a sun beamSqueezing your body tightBut for all I see as I daydreamI know I'll get tenfold tonightRunning my palms across your breastAs you tremble and bite your lipFeeling your hands u...
Posted by Dene,, on Sat, 22 Sep 2007 10:30:00 PST