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NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
BUT NICE GIRLS NEVER GET THE CHANCETo the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong. This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood.This is for the girls who laugh loud and often, who are comfortable in shirts and sweats, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for the girls who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and screw up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds."This is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on.This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand . who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.This is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech, for the nights when you've returned home alone, for the nights when you've seen from across the room him leaning a little too close, or standing a little too near, or talking a little too softly for the girl he's with to be a random hookup.This is for the girls who have endured party after party in his presence, finally having realized that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. I honor you for the night his dog died or his grandmother died or his little brother crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had. This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep.This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment after you read more into a situation than he ever intended; this is for never realizing that when you choose friends, you seldom choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep. This is for the hugs you've received from your female friends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful and intelligent and amazing and loyal and truly worthy of a great guy.But What I just don't understand is...
Men sit and question and whine that girls are only attracted to the mean guys, the guys who berate them and belittle them and don't appreciate them and don't want them; who use them for sex and think of little else than where their next conquest will be made. Men complain that they never meet nice girls, girls who are genuinely interested and compelling, who are intelligent and sweet and smart and beautiful; men despair that no good women want to share in their lives, that girls play mind games, that girls love to keep them hanging.Yet, men, I ask you: if were you to meet one of these genuinely interested, thrillingly compelling, interesting and intelligent and sweet and beautiful and smart girls, would you give her your number and wait for her to call... and if you were to receive a call from her the next day and she, in her truthful, loyal, intelligent and straightforward nice girl fashion, were to tell you that she finds you intriguing and attractive and interesting and worth her time and perhaps material from which she could fashion a boyfriend, would you or would you not immediately call your friends to tell them of the "stalker chick" you'd met the night prior, who called you and wore her heart on her sleeve and told the truth? And would you, or would you not, refuse to make plans with her, speak with her, see her again, and once again return to the bar or club or party scene and search once more for this "nice girl" who you just cannot seem to find?Because therein lies the truth, guys: we nice girls are everywhere. But you're not looking for a nice girl. You're not looking for someone genuinely interested in your intermural basketball game, or your anatomy midterm grade, or that argument you keep having with your father; you're looking for a quick fix, a night when you can pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom you were using during it.Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congradulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race. So maybe it won't last forever. Maybe some of those guys in that race will turn in their running shoes and make their way to the concession stand where we're waiting.
Summer:
six flags a lot.
June 28th- Jonas Brothers at Six Flags
July 4th- duh.
July 6-13- California
July 28th- Warped Tour Chicago
August 1st- Warped Tour Cincinnati
August 3rd- Plain White T's and SECONDHAND SERENADE at Six Flags
August 9th- Aly and AJ at Six Flags(hahha)
August 10th- Reel Big Fish, Less Than Jake, and Streetlight at the Pageant
August 14th- Warped Tour ST. LOUIS!!!!!!!! actually it's Cory's 18th Birthday!!!
August 15th- Warped Tour KC (maybe)
((things will be added and deleted))
i'd do anything for
a couple boys you call BAMF!
pat and megan my favoritest best friends.
and my other family the ellerbes.
and of course my K.O. and my sky.
and my family of course, especially bobbi jo
my big brother adam, and anyone in the "LL crew" that i used to be my other family.
don't forget my FDI and my Dingledine boys.
well i'll do anything for pretty much anyone.
i care too much, i love too much,
i give too much and most of all i forgive too easy.
oh baby.
heres a hint, she doesnt have a car
or the time to be in love with me
that man.
jesse lacey.
conor oberst.
adam gardner.
pat dolphus.
megan abbott.
cory ellerbe.
kirstie ellerbe.
AND PEOPLE WHO HELP OTHERS JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN
THE ONES WHO EXPECT NOTHING IN RETURN