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okielady

That's just who I am this week

About Me


My sister Kenna was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in August of 2007. She finished her chemotherapy treatments in January of 2008 and we are ecstatic to report that as of February 2008 she has been declared cancer free. Doctors will continue to frequently monitor her health, but for now, we are all enjoying a newfound zest for life!
There is no history of breast cancer specifically in my family (although there have been other cancers.) I encourage all women to have regular screenings, even if they don't think they are at risk. We didn't think my sister was at risk either.
We are not the victims of our destiny; we are the authors.
(as theorized by George Kelly)
I'm a New Yorker at heart and one day would like to live on the East Coast, but right now I'm concentrating my efforts on getting a degree. I have two awesome kids, an 18 year old boy and a 10 year old girl. I currently have a roommate I've known since high school. We haven't driven each other insane yet, but I'm doing my best!
I am an advocate for Gay Rights. I believe that all people should all be afforded the same civil rights, and these rights include (but certainly aren't limited to) state sanctioned marriage or civil unions; whichever terminology you prefer, the option to engage in it and all rights that come with it should be extended equally to every citizen of this country, gay, straight, bi, or otherwise. Advocating equal rights has become very important to me in recent years. I have close friends and family members who are members of the GLBT community, and I'm tired of seeing them treated as lesser people because of their sexual identity. I respect differing opinions as long as they respect mine, but I have no tolerance for hate speech or discrimination. If you can't get past that, you're in the wrong blog.
Freedom
My two dogs
tied to a tree
by a ten-foot leash
kept whining and howling for an hour
till I let them off.
Now they are lying quietly on the grass
a few feet further from the tree
and they haven't moved since I let them go.
Freedom may be
only an idea
but it's a matter of principle
even to a dog.
- Louis Dudek
Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?
- Ernest Gaines
The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.
- Friedrich Nietzsche

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My Interests

music, computers, comedy, writing, New York City, progressive change, human rights, PFLAG, HRC, Humanism

I'd like to meet:

People with a good sense of humor and the ability to use their brain power for good.

Sick Dancer - Mr Fantastic

Music:

I listen to just about everything, and my favorites can change from day to day. I usually change my profile song quite often to match what kind of mood I'm in.

Movies:

The Breakfast Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Donnie Darko, Threesome, The Opposite of Sex, Back to the Future, Stand by Me, The Shawshank Redemption, Pleasantville, Across the Universe, American Beauty, and too many more to answer

Television:

Queer as Folk, American Idol, The Biggest Loser, Friends, Roseanne, Three's Company, The L Word, VH-1, Comedy Central, The Sopranos, Will and Grace, Flavor of Love, Rock of Love, Ugly Betty, America's Next Top Model

Books:

Mostly biographies, and now textbooks for school. 50 Ways to Support Lesbian and Gay Equality, When I Knew, Mississippi Sissy, Is It a Choice? and other LGBT interest books.

Heroes:

My sister Kenna, John Lennon, Michael J. Fox, Angelina Jolie, Jeanne Manford

My Blog

Fun and Games in the ER

At about 11:00 tonight (well, technically last night) just as I was considering changing out of my clothes and going to bed, I got a phone call. Who would call me at 11:00 p.m.? Well when the phone ri...
Posted by okielady on Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:27:00 PST

Friday Five

1. What were some of the smells and tastes of your childhood?The smell of my grandma's loose face powder, dad's Old Spice, mom's Charlie, the strawberry scented spray we played with all the time, and ...
Posted by okielady on Fri, 23 May 2008 08:59:00 PST

Weird Dream!

I love dreaming, and this one was so funny and stupid that I had to blog about it. Some of you who are also my friends over at LJ may have already read this. Feel free to bypass. :)It began like a mov...
Posted by okielady on Sat, 05 Apr 2008 06:21:00 PST

Because Chris Told Me To...

How to play. Once you have been tagged, you have to write a blog with 10 weird, random things, facts, habbits or goals about yourself.At the end , you choose 10 people to be tagged listing their names...
Posted by okielady on Wed, 20 Feb 2008 07:38:00 PST

Okay, listen up people...

The person you decide to vote for is your personal choice. I'm not here to change anyone's mind about their choice, nor will I call you stupid or ignorant because of your political leanings. And I'm ...
Posted by okielady on Fri, 08 Feb 2008 08:12:00 PST

Perspective

Yesterday I was so sad because I had to give my cat away for reasons I won't get into here. Today I got a call from my roommate. His 18 month old niece passed away. Pretty harsh way to get a change in...
Posted by okielady on Mon, 07 Jan 2008 03:36:00 PST

Consider this for Christmas...

The Children's Center in Bethany, Oklahoma is a non-profit, full-care facility for special needs children. My friend Lisa's son Tyler lived there after an undiagnosed medical condition changed his lif...
Posted by okielady on Wed, 05 Dec 2007 07:42:00 PST

An open letter to the asshole who ripped me off

To whom it may concern:And you know who you are.I don't have much in my life. I am a single mom with one income. But I work my ass off so I can live in a decent neighborhood, keep my kids in a decent ...
Posted by okielady on Wed, 24 Oct 2007 10:12:00 PST

Hair today, gone tomorrow

My sister started losing her hair from the chemo. But she's not alone in this. 1. I have a very round head. 2. I don't at all mind being bald.3. The top of my head feels like velcro.4. It doesn't hel...
Posted by okielady on Sat, 13 Oct 2007 11:00:00 PST

Another update on my sister

So you know from previous blogs that my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer and that she had a lumpectomy. Well this past week we received news that the doctors believe it has spread to her liver....
Posted by okielady on Sat, 29 Sep 2007 02:01:00 PST