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..In the United States atleast once every 15 seconds a woman is battered, showing that there are atleast 4 womem who are murdered daily. Last year about 3.9 million women were living/married to someone who was physically abusive. 20.7 million women are verbally/emotionally abused, and although 95% of abussers are men, there are roughly 835,000 out of 2.3 million men that are battered yearly.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. How many times have you heard "I just need one more chance", "I promise I will change", "Please don't leave me, I can't do this on my own", "I will die without you", "It was only once it will never happin again, I swear", "I had a really rough day and I didn't mean to take it out on you", "Your my everything without you I'm nothing". These are things some people have to hear on a regual basis. True love has no excuses for harm, because true love doesn't hurt.
Has your spouse ever abused you, verbally or mentally, and did something to try and make it better. Buy you flowers, Take you out for dinner, Take you out for a romantic night, Cry to you about how much they love you and how they can't believe they've done what they've done. But how many flowers and dinners does it take to get back your respect. When someone abuses you in any aspect, they take a part of you, and untill you put an end to it they will keep taking untill there is nothing left to take.
Take it from someone who has been there. I know its hard to let go of someone you love, but love should be a mutual feeling. Can you really love someone who can watch you hurt everyday, and spend countless hours watching you cry yourself to shivers, and not even care. Not even make an effort to change.
I know what its like, I've been there, I spent everynight fighting with the man I thought was my everything, crying myself sick, ignoring all my friends and family memebers who were watching me die on the inside. I'm no different then any one of you, I put on a fake smile from day to day and let my heart and soul wither to nothing but memories. Yet there is two sides to every story, there is never a perfect man or women. I fought back, I yelled, I screamed, I was no different then any other person. Untill I got tired of the abuse, tired of the cheating and lying. When you turn into someone you don't want to be its time to let go. And let me be the first to say it is NEVER easy to move on, because once you love someone who hurts you, there is a part of your heart that is afraid to love again. I've moved on from my abusive relationship and now probably have one of the best relationships in my entire life, but even to this day it is still hard for me. Sometimes I push away from love, sometimes you will be the happiest person in the world and you will immediatly go into a depression, that is your sheild; everytime you push away, everytime your afraid to love it's your sheild from being hurt again. And when you do move .. an abusive relationship, if the person you are with understands when you don't want to be held or told that they love you, you know that person understands and is willing to except your past and do whatever you can to help you not forget but maybe build new memories to help overlap the hurt. Always keep in mind If someone can not handle you at your worst, they dont deserve you at your best.
Do you ever feel like you CANT leave the person your with, no matter how abusive they are? Do you ever feel like if you do leave them no one else will ever want you? More importantly are you Afraid to leave your abusive spouse? We mentioned earlier that 4 women are murdered daily due to abuse, lets not add onto that number, instead lets put a stop to abuse. Always remember its Never To Late.
Everytime I hear of a women or man who has been abused by there spouse there is a part of my heart that reaches out to that person, there's so much we want to do to help stop abuse but at the same time we feel so useless. Does it bother you when people say you can do better, or you deserve better. Many of you are probably saying yes. Although we may know we do not deserve what we are going through, you can not chose who you love, and when you love someone a part of you will always love them. But instead of loving someone who hurts us lets open our eyes as well as our hearts, we have to do what we can for the best or ourselfs sometimes. It may be hard to open our hearts to a new love, but in the long run it's harder to stay with a lover who could careless about your happiness and well being.
Everything disscussed here is completly confidential, feel free to remain annonymous. Lets talk, lets help put an end to violence and abuse in the United States. And remember, we've all been there. Lets help one another pull through all the rough nights, every tear we can prevent from falling is another part of your heart and soul your getting back.
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