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bad idea, sally

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About Me

Twentysomething, dark-haired/dark-eyed, multiracial goofball. From a family of 5 and an extended family of who-knows-how-many. Ethnically indistinct, clinically depressed, sexually "deviant," terribly myopic, thoroughly areligious, brutally honest, highly opinionated, truly demented (at times). My dad is Nigerian, so I'm part African, which no one ever guesses by looking at me. (Which I like - I enjoy being racially amorphous. It fucks with people's stereotypes.) I love music. I love to read, sing, play guitar, hang out with kids, go places I've never been. I'm queer and, as an acquaintance of mine once said, I'm not interested in defending it. Sometimes I pretend I'm a rockstar. I'm a dog person. I enjoy Newcastle beer. I hate being cold. My favorite physical feature is my collarbones. I have a two-year plan to move to Austin, TX. I can often be found playing with my digital camera, in the pursuit of taking really stupid pictures. I have zero sense of direction and am guaranteed to get lost whenever I am even vaguely unaware of which way to go, which is why I'm madly in love with MapQuest. The only time I'll wear a dress is if I can wear it over pants. I'm not very girly, but I am a shoe whore. I talk too much; I'm working on being a better listener. I (usually) reject drama in favor of the rational approach. I like to sleep late whenever I can. The sexiest thing about me is the way I think, or sometimes the way I *don't* think. I sometimes wear funny hats. I'm a big fan of glasses (and by that I mean, the optical aids AND the things out of which you drink stuff). I'm sort of a commitment-phobe, having been in relationships that were not at ALL what love should be...but at the core of it all, I'll probably always be a hopeless romantic. I love kiwi fruit and cherries. And my friends like to call me Lisey.

My Interests

Music, first of all. I could (and will) talk about it forever and ever. I have three artists that I love to the point of it being a tiny obsession: the Indigo Girls, Melissa Ferrick, and Patty Griffin, which I guess makes me a "typical" folkie lesbian at heart. But I'll listen to anything at least once. I'm also fond of hip hop (love the Fugees, Lauryn Hill, Erykah Badu, Wyclef Jean, Common, Mr Lif, Mos Def, Outkast, even Tupac sometimes) and punk and rock and bluegrass and soul and blues and...well. You get the idea. My favorite form of entertainment is going to concerts, whether I know the performer or not. I can pretty much always be found doing something music-related...whether it's listening or playing/singing or going to shows.

Other interests? As follows...

Loud, spirited conversations in public places.

Full contact tackle frisbee in the sprinklers.

Public intoxication.

Experimenting with making alcoholic beverages.

Frozen fruity things such as strawberry ice cream and margaritas.

Anything shiny.

Silly photographs, preferably of my friends and myself in front of ridiculous signs.

General debauchery.

Austin, Texas, and all things pertaining thereto.

Bumperstickers and greeting cards.

Fishnet stockings.

Playing the guitar, or rather, pretending to.

Reading pretty much anything.

Artwork and collage and poetry, so I can pretend I'm artsy.

Dogs of any kind, especially mine! She's the cutest EVER.

Travel, anytime I have the money and can combine it with seeing friends.

I'll add more to this as I think of stuff to say.

I'd like to meet:

Bobert. I'd really like to meet the digital version of Bobert. (Sara, let's make a myspace page for Bobert.) Someone who fits at least five of the following categories to be the fourth wheel to my constant and unshakeable third-wheel-awkwardness: Bumpersticker addicts. Trashy breakfast candidates. Rollergirl wannabes. Those who make a habit of riding face down in the back seats of taxis everywhere. Those who aren't big on social graces and might slip on down to the oasis. Liberals. Rockstars. The uninhibited. People who could be classified as "lovably weird." Those who might save me a seat on the bus to Hell - cuz I sure ain't going to heaven if it's like the god squad says it is, and I want some company on the trip down. People who understand the weight of the truth, and the value of the occasional well-placed lie. The ever-growing cadre of hell-bent, whole-hog, knock-down, drag-out, road-weary, poster-stealing, t-shirt-wearing, concert-attending, autograph-getting, hard-drinking, weather-defying, picture-taking, give-groupies-a-bad-name, driving-hundreds-of-miles-don't-mean-shit-to-me-if-I-get-to- see-a-great-show, raging music addicts...like myself. (Oh, and? Your mom. Yeah, I said it.)

Music:

This could go on forever, but here's a preliminary list of artists I am constantly listening to:

THE TOP 3:

  • Indigo Girls
  • Melissa Ferrick
  • Patty Griffin
  • THE REST OF 'EM

  • 1945
  • 4 Non Blondes
  • Ryan Adams
  • Aerosmith
  • Aesop Rock
  • Caroline Aiken
  • Alice in Chains
  • The Amity Front
  • Tori Amos
  • Antigone Rising
  • Fiona Apple
  • Joan Armatrading
  • The Arts & Sciences
  • Athens Boys Choir
  • Maya Azucena
  • Erykah Badu
  • Joan Baez
  • Devendra Banhart
  • The Be Good Tanyas
  • The Beatles
  • Bedouin Soundclash
  • David Berkeley
  • Sarah Bettens
  • Andrew Bird
  • Bitch & Animal
  • The Black Eyed Peas
  • Laura Blackley
  • Bonnie & Blythe
  • Laura Brino
  • Broken Social Scene
  • Jackson Browne
  • Burning Spear
  • The Butchies
  • Cake
  • Calexico/Iron & Wine
  • Nini Camps
  • Rachael Cantu
  • Carbon Leaf
  • Edie Carey
  • Brandi Carlile
  • Neko Case
  • Johnny & June Carter Cash
  • Roseanne Cash
  • Daisy Chapman
  • Charanga Cakewalk
  • Suzanna Choffel
  • Cibelle
  • Jason Collett
  • Common
  • Reeve Coobs/The Near Misses
  • Cordero
  • The Counting Crows
  • The Cowboy Junkies
  • Sheryl Crow
  • Catie Curtis
  • Miles Davis
  • Death Cab for Cutie
  • The Decemberists
  • Kris Delmhorst
  • Iris DeMent
  • Ani DiFranco
  • Dire Straits
  • The Ditty Bops
  • Do Make Say Think
  • The Dresden Dolls
  • Kevin Drew
  • Drums & Tuba
  • The Duhks
  • Antje Duvekot
  • Emily Easterly
  • Ana Egge
  • Eisley
  • Lauren Ellis
  • En Vogue
  • Ernie C. Ernst
  • Melissa Etheridge
  • Feist
  • Juliana Finch
  • Bela Fleck
  • Fleetwood Mac
  • Ruthie Foster
  • Michael Fracasso
  • Aretha Franklin
  • Frou-Frou
  • Lisa Germano
  • Thea Gilmore
  • Girlyman
  • Goo Goo Dolls
  • David Gray
  • The Greencards
  • Buddy Guy
  • Emily Haines
  • Herbie Hancock
  • Ben Harper
  • Corey Harris
  • Emmylou Harris
  • Jesse Harris
  • Sophie B. Hawkins
  • Imogen Heap
  • Lauryn Hill
  • Billie Holiday
  • John Lee Hooker
  • Danielle Howle (and the Tantrums)
  • The Innocence Mission
  • Iron & Wine
  • Wyclef Jean
  • Elton John/Bernie Taupin
  • Jack Johnson
  • Norah Jones
  • Rickie Lee Jones
  • K's Choice
  • Kid Beyond
  • The King's Singers
  • Carole King
  • Kaki King
  • Kristy Kruger
  • Talib Kweli
  • L.P.
  • Ladysmith Black Mambazo
  • Ray LaMontagne
  • Gill Landry
  • Brianna Lane
  • Cyndi Lauper
  • Le Tigre
  • Amos Lee
  • Sara Lee
  • Ginger Leigh
  • Les Nubians
  • Jenny Lewis (and the Watson Twins)
  • Toby Lightman
  • Limbeck
  • The Little Willies
  • Rachel Loy
  • Julie Loyd
  • Shelby Lynne
  • Michelle Malone
  • Margot & the Nuclear So-and-So's
  • Carolyn Mark
  • Bob Marley (and the Wailers)
  • Mars Arizona
  • Wynton Marsalis
  • Matchbox 20 (I hear you all laughing and I don't fucking CARE, Rob Thomas is my hetero crush)
  • Edwin McCain
  • Anne McCue
  • Colin McGrath
  • Gerard McHugh
  • Lori McKenna
  • Erin McKeown
  • Paul Melancon
  • Metric
  • M.I.A.
  • Amy Millan
  • Joni Mitchell
  • Modest Mouse
  • Van Morrison
  • Morrissey
  • Mos Def
  • The Moto Litas
  • Me'shell N'degeocello
  • The New Pornographers
  • Willie Nelson
  • Stevie Nicks
  • Nirvana
  • Heather Nova
  • Alix Olson
  • Beth Orton
  • Joan Osborne
  • Outkast
  • Pancho's Lament
  • Mieka Pauley
  • Kate Peterson
  • Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers
  • Liz Phair
  • Edith Piaf
  • Patrice Pike
  • P!nk
  • Pink Martini
  • Plumb
  • POE
  • The Pogues
  • Portishead
  • Cat Power
  • Prince
  • Public Enemy
  • Chris Pureka
  • Pushstart Wagon
  • Queen
  • Bonnie Raitt
  • Toshi Reagon
  • Red Hot Chili Peppers
  • The Red House Painters
  • REM
  • The Replacements
  • Rilo Kiley
  • Josh Ritter
  • Doria Roberts
  • Smokey Robinson & the Miracles
  • Rockwell Church
  • Kate Rusby
  • Katie Sawicki
  • Scarlatti Tilt
  • The Scissor Sisters
  • Jill Scott
  • Sam Shaber
  • Shakira (no, really. Listen to the stuff she sings in Spanish. It's amazing.)
  • Tupac Shakur
  • Michelle Shocked
  • Sia
  • Carly Simon
  • Paul Simon
  • Nina Simone
  • Siouxsie and the Banshees
  • Sleater-Kinney
  • Patti Smith
  • The Smiths
  • Snow Machine
  • SOLAS
  • Son Volt
  • Regina Spektor
  • Bruce Springsteen
  • The Staples Singers
  • Stars
  • Cat Stevens
  • Sufjan Stevens
  • Angie Stone
  • Ben Taylor
  • Chip Taylor & Carrie Rodriguez
  • James Taylor
  • Susan Tedeschi
  • Tegan & Sara
  • Ten Missing Days
  • Vienna Teng
  • Texas
  • The Thought Breakers
  • Three5Human
  • >
  • Toad the Wet Sprocket/Glen Phillips
  • Meghan Toohey
  • Sarah Vaughan
  • Laura Veirs
  • Kate Voegele
  • The Waifs
  • Martha Wainwright
  • Rufus Wainwright
  • Muddy Waters
  • The Weepies
  • Gillian Welch
  • The White Stripes
  • Chris Whitley
  • Wilco
  • Lucinda Williams
  • Stevie Wonder
  • Zero 7
  • Natalia Zukerman
  • ...like I said, I can go on for a while. (Gotta love CD Baby for feeding my music addiction: go check it out here. ) Hey, if you have any new people for me to get addicted to, I'm always open to hearing someone else.

    Movies:

    I admit it, I'm a fantasy junkie. I love, love, LOVE the X-Men movies, and lots of other comic book flicks as well (Batman Begins, the Spiderman movies, shoot, I even liked the Hulk movie). Harry Potter, of course - along with hundreds of millions of others. I wasn't so much a fan of the Lord of the Rings movies, although I love the books...but they were good entertainment. I also love a really good romantic comedy - like "When Harry Met Sally" or "Notting Hill," but my favorite kind of movies are the dramas. I'm kind of into the whole sad/dark thing, in case you can't tell. *wink*

    Television:

    There was a time when I was obsessed with a few select TV shows that I never missed. Now, not so much. But thank god for DVDs, so I can watch my fave shows all the time (without commercials! there IS a god, and she makes DVDs!). Shows I have loved: ER, The West Wing, The L Word, Mad About You, Scrubs, American Dreams, Grey's Anatomy, Six Feet Under, The Sopranos.

    Books:

  • "The Lovely Bones" - Alice Sebold.
  • "Me Talk Pretty One Day" - David Sedaris.
  • "Backlash" - Susan Faludi.
  • "Sophie's World" - Jostein Gaarder.
  • "White Oleander" - Janet Fitch.
  • "The Shipping News" - Annie Proulx.
  • "Death and the Maiden" - Ariel Dorfman.
  • "The Unvanquished" - William Faulkner.
  • "The Heart is a Lonely Hunter" - Carson McCullers.
  • "Song of Solomon" - Toni Morrison.
  • "Steps and Exes" - Laura Kalpakian.
  • "Blood Done Sign My Name" - Timothy B. Tyson
  • "The Hours" - Michael Cunningham.
  • "The Kite Runner" - Khaled Hosseini.
  • "An Anthropologist on Mars" - Oliver Sacks.
  • "Infections and Inequalities" - Paul Farmer.
  • "Angela's Ashes" - Frank McCourt.
  • "The Dancer Upstairs" - Nicholas Shakespeare.
  • "The Bell Jar" - Sylvia Plath.
  • Heroes:

    Amy Ray (songwriting divinity in human form, and such an elegant and passionate and committed person. If I could be like one person in the world, I'd want to be like Amy). Susan Faludi, because she writes the truth and refuses to back away from it. Dr. Paul Farmer (one of the most genuinely good people alive today). Aaron Sorkin (for being smart and funny and unashamedly liberal). Margaret Mead. Katharine Hepburn. Sylvia Plath. Again, I'm going to have to add to this as I think of people.

    My Blog

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:40:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Wed, 26 Mar 2008 12:04:00 PST

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    I recently discovered that it's the 25th anniversary of Thriller this year. And apparently that discovery has put me in an 80s mood. Videos I have watched on youtube in the past 24 hours:Thriller -- M...
    Posted by bad idea, sally on Wed, 12 Mar 2008 11:05:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Wed, 09 Jan 2008 08:01:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Sat, 15 Dec 2007 08:40:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Sat, 01 Dec 2007 09:14:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Tue, 16 Oct 2007 12:52:00 PST

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    I am resorting more and more to music to get me through this week...this month...this ridiculous period of wrenching drama that is as unmanageable as the Loch Ness Monster on crystal. And where do I ...
    Posted by bad idea, sally on Mon, 08 Oct 2007 09:11:00 PST

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    Posted by bad idea, sally on Wed, 19 Sep 2007 10:33:00 PST