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About Me

I was born in Houston, Texas, but have lived in Missouri for most of the past 46 years. My family lived all over southern Texas, New Orleans, Ft Smith, AR and suburbs and Tulsa and environs before we moved to St Joseph, MO in 1960. I've lived in Florida, California and Mississippi, but I have made Kansas City my homebase since 1974.I'm in a strictly monogamous relationship with my partner, Bill (since March of 1979). We not only came from societal and religious backgrounds that mandated monogamy, but we had both been in relationships that were all right, except our respective partners were not capable of being faithful. So monogamy was our only serious choice and it has not made our relationship boring or stale or whatever others find objectionable about monogamy. In fact, it has made us stronger, closer and able to face unfortunate events easier. I am very happy that our relationship shows that the conservative lie that all gay men are promiscuous and unable to sustain a lasting relationship is just a lot of BS. Not to judge, but we are what we are and we are proud of it.I am an unabashed liberal. I've generally supported the Democratic party. However, I think it is time for a real 3rd party in this country and a return to the populism that helped change society at the end of the 19th and beginning of the 20th centuries. The GOP seems bent on self-destructing and taking all of us with them. The Democrats seem to want to be the GOP, so they roll over and play dead whenever push comes to shove. I would like to see a legitimate, viable, well-funded liberal 3rd party with brilliant minds and hard workers able to overcome years of political stagnacy and corruption and bring real positive change here in the USA.I've attended college, but no degree. I guess there were too many other things to do. I do consider my self well-educated if not formally educated.I believe that the most important and powerful sense we have is our "sixth sense", which I consider the sense of humor. A sense of humor can carry you through when all you can see is despair and poverty, all you hear is the cries of the unfortunate, all you taste and smell is death and destruction and all you can feel is the cold dead fingers of fear enveloping you. I can literally find humor in anything and that does irritate some who think that I am unfeeling or sacriligious or politically incorrect or being flippant about important subjects, but I firmly believe that God has a great sense of humor--after all He made both giraffes and Jimmy Swaggart. In spiritual matters, I consider myself a Christian, though not at all the same type of Christian as my buddy Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, local favorite Fred Phelps and others of that ilk. My God is a God of love, mercy, grace and forgiveness, not vengeance and wrath. I also believe that we can take good from all religions.That, in a rather large nutshell, is a little about me. For my likes/dislikes, keep reading the profile.

A "Getting to Know You" Survey
The Basics
Name:: Ray
Birthdate:: 9/19/47
Birthplace:: Houston, TX
Current Location:: Kansas City, MO
Eye Color:: Brown
Hair Color:: Brown
Height:: 6'2"
Your webpage:: www.myspace.com/rayhawkins
Are you taken?: For the past 29 years
Are you a virgin?: Hardly
How many & what kind of pets do you have?: 4 wonderful cats
What's your job?: Lab assistant
What's your Dream Job?: Writer
Who is your best friend?: My partner, Bill
What instruments do you play?: None, unfortunately
What are your hobbies?: Travel, camping, antiques, theatre
What are your goals?: To get through life without selling out
Would you ever sky dive or bungee jump?: Would love to sky dive
What kind of books and/or magazines do you read?: Just about anything you put in front of me
How would do describe yourself?: Forever young and adventuresome
What is a topic you wish you knew more about?: Medieval history
What do you daydream about?: Living self-sufficiently, financially independent
What are your religious/spiritual beliefs?: Christian/Unity
List 3 Things You Would Change About Yourself:
One:: Lose weight
Two:: Get my college degree
Three:: Learn to play the piano
Either / Or
Shy or Outgoing?: Kinda shy at first
Spender or Saver?: Spender, unfortunately
Truth or Dare?: Truth
Books or Movies?: Books, I suppose. There's more of them and you can read them anywhere
Romantic Comedy or Action Adventure?: Action Adventure
Cats or Dogs?: Cats
Mountain or Beach?: Mountain
Sweet or Salty?: Sweet
Do You...
Smoke?: Not any more
Drink?: Rarely
Get annoyed easily?: Not really
Like to travel?: Would go nonstop if I could
Like to drive fast?: When I have the right music on
Sing well?: Hardly
Want kids?: Got plenty of nephews and nieces
-----What would you name a boy?: David or Heath
-----What would you name a girl?: Emily or Lee
Have You Ever...
Performed on stage? In what?: Several times in plays
Been in a car accident?: Yep
Been out of the country? Where?: Yes. Canada, UK, France, Italy, Switzerland
What Is...
The last CD you bought?: I think it was Diana Ross' "I Love You"
The last movie you saw in the theater?: "Sweeney Todd"
The last movie you rented?: Can't remember--a comedy I think
Your greatest fear?: Losing Bill
Your greatest strength?: My faith in God and myself
Your greatest weakness?: Food
Your happiest memory?: My first 10 years in Kansas City
Your Favorite...
Movie:: Lots, but I'll say "Romeo and Juliet" 1968
TV Show:: Desperate Housewives
Actor:: Living-Johnny Depp Dead-Laurence Olivier
Actress:: Living-Susan Sarandon Dead-Katherine Hepburn
Food:: Good old fashioned American southern cooking
Drink:: Iced tea or a good Cabernet Sauvignon
Color:: Green
Scent:: That wonderful smell at sunrise in the country
Season & WHY:: Fall--the weather is nice, the colors are spectacular and I get really mellow
Day of the week & WHY:: Sunday, kicking back with family and friends
Store:: Harrod's in London--it's fantastic
Quote:: "What a long strange trip it's been. . ." Grateful Dead "Truckin'"
What Do You Think About...
Abortion:: Should be a woman's choice and the government should stay out of it
Homosexuality:: It's fabulous, if you're gay. If not, at least try to learn about what we have to put up with.
God:: Our Creator, the Source of all that is good
Jesus:: The risen Son of God, our Saviour and a great teacher
Satan:: Lucifer, the fallen. Most of what is believed about him has been created to scare people.
Heaven:: Exists within, as Jesus said
Hell:: Is being completely cut off from God's love. It is not a place of fire and torture
Miracles:: Happen everyday. Checked your circulatory system lately? Or birth. Or a flower.
Astrology:: Has its uses. In the right hands can be very accurate
War:: Seems to be mankind's natural state. Why not try peace for a change?
Ghosts:: Seen them, I think. Must exist, but exactly why and how I don't know.
Reincarnation:: Compelling evidence for its existence. Inclined to believe that I have lived before.
Karma:: Is one of the great immutable laws of the universe
Luck:: You generally make your own luck.
Aliens:: Too many people have seen them for them to be ficticious. Maybe interdimensional instead of interstellar.
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Faerie: Aren't you a cute little flying person? Faeries are earth spirits. They live among each element completely hidden. They have cousins called Pixies. Pixies however, are very mischevious. They enjoy tormenting other creatures for fun. Little pranksters.. I hope you never meet one. Pixies have a bad reputation for finding a creature and clinging to them until death. Faeries can be somewhat close to a Pixie, but mostly they are loving, playful, and carry with them a child-like enthusiasm for life. Hide among the pedals of a Daisy, you are a Faerie.

Faerie

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Angel

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Dragon

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You Are Austin
A little bit country, a little bit rock and roll.
You're totally weird and very proud of it.
Artistic and freaky, you still seem to fit in... in your own strange way.
Famous Austin residents: Lance Armstrong, Sandra Bullock, Andy Roddick What American City Are You?

My Interests

I have a wide range of interests and likes, maybe it's intellectual curiosity or maybe it's just ADD. I'm interested in movies, theatre, music, poetry, literature from the classic to the current best sellers, history, politics, TV, cooking, camping, hiking, traveling, astronomy, paleontology, nature studies, anthropology, cryptozoology, philosophy (though I can't fathom existentialism--it's just foreign to my nature), metaphysics, spirituality and the occult. I like just driving aimlessly seeing where you end up, rainy cool days in the summer and warm sunny days in the winter, the color green, Daffy Duck (my alter ego), salad bars, the number 3, home cooking, cats and wolves(well, all animals, really), the feeling of a job well done, complete solitude once in awhile to get centered (usually accomplished by going camping), big cities full of adventure, little towns full of peace and quiet, getting to know people, a good debate and chocolate.

I'd like to meet:

We'd like to meet other gay couples or singles who respect our bond of monogamy. Being e-pals seems to have replaced being pen pals, so we'd enjoy folks with similar likes and interests.Of those folks who are living, I would like to meet Johnny Depp, Paul McCartney, Ram Dass, Stephen King, Hank Aaron, Bono, Sting, the Dalai Lama, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, Steven Spielberg, Joan Baez, Jane Fonda, Tim Burton, Willie Mays, Buffy Ste Marie, the surviving members of Monty Python, Ellen DeGeneres, Dane Cook, Peter Jackson, John Waters, Martin Scorsese, George Lucas and several others. Historically, I would like to have met Jesus Christ, George Carlin, the Buddha, Paul Newman, Leonardo da Vinci, Lenny Bruce, Vincent Van Gogh, Henry VIII, Martin Luther and Martin Luther King, Bette Davis, Joan of Arc, Saladin, Richard the Lion Hearted, Richard III, Julius Caesar, Napoleon, Wellington, Lord Byron, Thomas Jefferson, Mark Twain, Michaelangelo, Benjamin Franklin, John and Abigail Adams, Abraham Lincoln, Laurence Olivier, Shakespeare, John Barrymore, Percy Shelley and Mary Shelley, Tallulah Bankhead, Katherine Hepburn, Laurence Olivier, John Keats, Queens Victoria and Elizabeth I, Abraham Lincoln, Captain Cook, Franklin, Eleanor and Theodore Roosevelt, Plato, Socrates, Pope John XXIII, Princess Diana, Mother Teresa, Charles Dickens, Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Agatha Christie, John Lennon, Alexander the Great, George Harrison, William Blake, Bodicca, Hadrian, Akhenaten and at least a hundred others that don't spring immediately to mind.

Music:

My musical tastes are kinda varied, but not all encompassing. I find very little to recommend in "new" country or rap, unless it is either funny or has a serious message to it. However, since I do remember when "Rock Around the Clock" came out, my first love is good old rock n roll. Especially the rock from the 50's thru the 70's. Of course, good rock is good rock, no matter what the decade. I do like a bit of the old country and western genre, more now than when I was a kid, people such as Hank Williams Sr, Patsy Cline, Marty Robbins, Eddie Arnold, Dolly Parton, Kitty Wells, Johnny Cash, the Carter Family, etc. I really enjoy most classical, folk, blues, new age, bluegrass, swing and most jazz (KC or otherwise), real gospel (ie Mahalia Jackson, etc), some "new" Christian music, especially Fernando Ortega, real Latin music like I grew up with in Texas, and my regional favorite, zydeco. . .just can't help but tap your toes to it. Favorite performers/groups include the Beatles (of course)as a group and as solo artists, the Stones, Bob Seger, Pink Floyd, Streisand, the Doors, Linda Rondstadt, the Yardbirds, Paul Revere and the Raiders (a much maligned and overlooked group), Leadbelly, Bruce Springsteen, Eric Clapton, the Mothers of Invention, the Moody Blues, the Who, Bessie Smith, Judy Garland, the Kinks, Dean Martin, James Brown, Billy Holiday, the Andrews Sisters, Glenn Miller, Lou Reed and the Velvet Underground, Billy Joel, Tommy Dorsey, Edith Piaf, Robert Johnson, Charlie Parker, the Flaming Lips, Elton John, Rufus Wainwright, the Beach Boys, Duke Ellington, Joan Baez, Bob Dylan, Donna Summer, the Ramones, Kitaro, Frank Sinatra, Josh Groban, Eric Burdon and the Animals, Leonard Cohen, David Bowie, the Grateful Dead (see my headline), REM, Nirvana, Green Day, Miles Davis, Curved Air, Diana Ross and the Supremes, Count Basie, the Sex Pistols, Louis Armstrong, Smokey Robinson, Leo Kottke, Carly Simon, Joni Mitchell, Bing Crosby, Stevie Wonder, Queen, Yo-Yo Ma, Michael Buble, Buffy Ste Marie, Phil Ochs, Aretha Franklin, Marvin Gaye, Elvis Presley (early stuff) and Costello, Ella Fitzgerald, Perry Como. . .and so many more, including several operatic stars and conductors and "classical" composers by the score (no pun intended).

Movies:

I like movies of all kinds: comedies, musicals, dramas, sci fi, off the wall, or are different, examples such as "Sweeney Todd," the Bourne trilogy, "Ferris Bueller's Day Off," "Monty Python's Life of Brian," "Kung Fu Hustle," "American Beauty," "Citizen Kane," "Bringing Up Baby," "The Wizard of Oz," "Moulin Rouge," "Gone With the Wind," "A Christmas Carol aka 'Scrooge' (1951)," "Chicago," "The Maltese Falcon," "Casablanca," "Oliver!," "A Clockwork Orange," "Wuthering Heights," (1939) the Spiderman series (my favorite superhero movies--sorry Chris, your Superman series is second now), animated movies, Chaplin, Lloyd, Keaton and other silent geniuses both comedic and tragic, and anything promising grand special effects, from "2001," "The Ring Trilogy," to "Star Wars." I also really enjoy horror/thriller type films, even really bad ones (unless they are REALLY, REALLY bad). However, even some of those are just a hoot--think "Plan Nine From Outer Space." I enjoy a good foreign film, especially one that promises to be from another Bergman or Kurosawa or Truffaut. While I like to think of myself as a discerning critic, I also know that not all movie making aspires to be high art and that certain movies have to be enjoyed just for the entertainment, no matter how low or crass, they provide. I laughed my ass off at things like "Dude, Where's My Car?," "American Pie," and "Superbad." That being said, some of the most Godawful movies are those that have pretension to high art and end up being too painful to watch unless you are really, really high. And some of the best are little films with no pretension that somehow, for some reason become classics, such as the movies produced by Val Lewton in the 1940's. But I'm a true romantic so my two favorite movies are "Brokeback Mountain" and "Romeo and Juliet," the 1968 version with Olivia Hussey and Leonard Whiting.

Television:

I really enjoy "Lost" and "Desperate Housewives," "30 Rock," "Ugly Betty," "My Name is Earl," "How I Met Your Mother" "SNL," "Brothers and Sisters," "MadTV," "Scrubs," "The New Adventures of the Old Christine," "Heroes," "The Office," "Two and a Half Men," "The Family Guy," "American Dad", "Robot Chicken," "The Daily Show," "The Colbert Report," "The Simpsons," "South Park," "Real Time with Bill Maher," "The Whitest Kids U Know," and my newest two addictions, "Sordid Lives" and "True Blood." In the recent past, "Rome," "Arrested Development," "Will & Grace," "Six Feet Under," "Frasier," "Friends," and "8 Simple Rules." And the grand old classics such as "I Love Lucy," "Monty Python's Flying Circus," "Cheers," "MASH," "Laugh-In," "The Carol Burnett Show," etc. I like to watch Cartoon Network, Comedy Central, Discovery, History, the BBC, the SciFi Channel, National Geographic, Learning, Travel, TCM, AMC, HGTV, HBO and PBS channels. I wish there were more sketch comedy shows on, but TV is cyclical, so I imagine they will pop up again. I really don't like so-called reality shows. Nothing personal, I just find them rather boring.

Books:

I generally like nonfiction better than fiction. The best current nonfiction book that I can recommend is "A Complaint Free World," by Will Bowen. It is a wonderful book about the power of positive thought and how it can change you and the world. Fiction I enjoy includes the great old classics by authors such as Shakespeare, Rabelais, Dickens, Twain, Lewis Carroll, the Romantic and pre-Raphaelite poets such as Lord Byron (one of my true heroes), Blake, Keats, Shelley and Rossetti, poets such as Poe, Rimbaud, Baudelaire, Dickinson and Whitman and 20th and 21st century authors such as Studs Terkel, William Buckley, Conan Doyle, Ezra Pound, T S Eliot, Dorothy Parker, Edna St Vincent Millay, Gertrude Stein, Faulkner, Steinbeck, Frank Yerby, William Burroughs, Allen Ginsberg, early Tom Wolfe, Shirley Jackson, Agatha Christie, Gore Vidal, Saul Bellow and James Michener, Stephen King and J.R.R. Tolkien. Books that have stuck with me for various reasons include "The Wind in the Willows," "The Princess Bride," "Gone With the Wind," the Ring trilogy, "Tom Sawyer," most of Shakespeare's plays, Byron, Keats, Shelley, Blake, Poe, Whitman and Dickinson's poetry, "Wuthering Heights," "Dune," "The Stand," "Call of the Wild," "Innocents Abroad," "It Can't Happen Here," "A Tree Grows in Brooklyn," "A Confederacy of Dunces," "Be Here Now," "The Foxes of Harrow," "All Quiet on the Western Front," and the Bible.

Heroes:

My Parents and Siblings, Jesus Christ, Lord Byron, Will Bowen, George Carlin, Ellen DeGeneres, Chris and Dana Reeve, Thomas Jefferson, Theodore, Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt, Martin Luther King, some of the Kennedy's, several religious leaders throughout history, the Chicago 7, John Lennon, Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, Jane Fonda, Pope John XXIII, Abraham Lincoln, Cesar Chavez, Rosa Parks, George Washington Carver, Leonardo daVinci, Louis Pastuer, William Shakespeare, Abigail Adams, Jimmy Carter, Willie Mays, Buck O'Neill, Paul Newman, Robert Redford, Crazy Horse, Galileo, Emma Goldman, Mary Harris "Mother" Jones, Madame Curie, Chief Joseph, Woodie Guthrie, Sitting Bull, personal friends Julie Abbott, Manny Gordon, Dennis Coots, Brenda Boyle, David Thomas, Robert Hoenike, Vickie Clingan, Debbie Bohnsack, David Snuffer, Sallie Seymour, Kelsey Beshears, Floyd Richardson, Carl W Wolf, Debbie Glenn, Tim Burton (my ex-brother-in-law, not the director), Pam Piccinini and Pam McMullin, my Top 40 MySpace friends and whoever discovered how to make chocolate edible.
You are a Hippie
You are a total hippie. While you may not wear birks or smell of incense, you have the soul of a hippie.
You don't trust authority, and you do as you please. You're willing to take a stand, even when what you believe isn't popular.
You like to experiment with ideas, lifestyles, and different subcultures.
You always gravitate toward what's radical and subversive. Normal, mainstream culture doesn't really resonate with you. Are You a Hippie?

My Blog

CHILDREN OF THE NIGHT

CHILDREN OF THE NIGHT As I was driving home from work around 2:30 AM the other day, I heard a coyote howl. At least, I thought it was a coyote. There are plenty of them in the metro area a...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Mon, 13 Oct 2008 12:55:00 PST

Why are there so many singles?

As you may have noted on my page, I am a member of a group called Monogamous M4M. I did this because I am a great believer in the power of monogamy and because Bill and I are in a monogamous rel...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Sat, 04 Oct 2008 04:18:00 PST

Age is catching up with me

For some time I have felt comforted by the fact that although I am getting older, physically I am not aging as rapidly as I am chronologically. Well, that's changed. I don't know if it's 3...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Sat, 27 Sep 2008 02:18:00 PST

ON TURNING 61 GASP

Well, folks, I did it. I turned 61 on Sept 19, 2008. I can hardly believe it. When I was a teen-ager, I fixated upon one of my heroes, Lord Byron, the Romantic poet, and I was sure I...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Sat, 20 Sep 2008 11:37:00 PST

"Back in My Day . . ."

Today at work I heard a fellow younger than me give some advice to an even younger coworker. The fellow started off "Back in my day. . ." That phrase sets my teeth on edge. When I was youn...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Tue, 22 Apr 2008 05:11:00 PST

Youve Got A Friend

A few days ago, one of my friends on here posted a blog in which he posed a good question (heavily paraphrased): Does the Internet and social networks like MySpace make meeting people easi...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Thu, 27 Mar 2008 05:33:00 PST

How to make your relationship last

Well, folks, as you saw by my bulletin, Bill and I have reached another milestone. Thursday, March 6, is our 29th anniversary. As you know from my profile page, we are totally monogam...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Tue, 04 Mar 2008 03:55:00 PST

I Applaud "The Kids"

Yesterday, a MySpace friend posted a bulletin in which he said that he and his companion were verbally harrassed for being gay. Since the harrassers were drunk, it could have turned ugly, but th...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Fri, 29 Feb 2008 03:23:00 PST

Musings about Valentines Day

One of my MySpace friends sent a bulletin that basically said that since he was single, Valentine's Day is just another day. That simple little bulletin just about broke my heart. To think...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Thu, 14 Feb 2008 10:59:00 PST

Peace be with you, Heath

It's kind of hard for me to write this, but it is cathartic, I know. When I wrote of James Brown's death, I was writing of a pioneer in what we call soul music, who left an indelible mark on mus...
Posted by Ray/Wolfwalk on Wed, 23 Jan 2008 12:53:00 PST