JOE

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I would like to say is, "WELCOME MYSPACE ADDICTS". My name is Joe and I am a Single man with a Child on the way...I grew up in the city of El Monte and thank god I didn't become a gang member, drug addict, in jail, or worst of all, DEAD...Despite of my appearance, "I AM THE PERFECT EXAMPLE OF NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER". The only reason why I say that is b/c yes I do have the look of a homeboy and yes I have alot of tattoo's...but I am a 26 year old man who have never tried and I repeat...Never tried Drugs or Alcohol in my life...I do not know how it feels to be High or Drunk or anything for that matter...I never tried any Drug, Alcohol, or Liqour known to mankind...I have 3 more brothers which I love very much and I am not ashame to express my feelings for my family...I have an identicle twin and his name is Abraham, a.k.a. Abey...My other 2 brothers are named Mark and Michael...I have nieces and nephews who I love as much as my own...I know when the time comes when my child is here, I will make a great father and be there for him/her for everyday of his/her life...I wanted to mention that I could be moody most of the time, but that's just me...but deep down inside, I have a really big heart and the people who know me already knows that...They also know that I am a very picky eater, lol...So if I ever go out with anybody, then I am sorry for my eating habits...My taste buds never mattured, lmao...well, if you have any other questions about wanting to know me, then just asked...I Thank you for taking the time on reading about me and take care of yourself, peace.
GOLDEN RULES FOR FiNDiNG YOUR LiFE PARTNERWhen it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct",there' s a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again:"You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone...you need alot more!!!"Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose?Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2) you can grow apart.50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" ; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions.Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your Significant other. What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc. .How do they treat their parents and siblings?Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything...Can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.Another perspective....There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance....It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.PAY ATTENTION.... Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG ARE: 1. TRUST 2. COMMUNICATION 3. INTIMACY 4. A SENSE OF HUMOR 5. SHARING TASKS 6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN 7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes) 8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS 9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE 10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENTIf these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace it.Happiness keeps You Sweet, Trials keep You Strong, Sorrows keep You Human, Failures keep You Humble, Success keeps You Glowing, but Only God keeps You Going!"In search for me, I discovered truth. In search for truth, I discovered love and in search for love, discovered God. In God, I have found everything.""Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals."