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My name is Ms. Desiree', MISTRESS to you! I am a Lifestyle Dominatrix living in the awful state of Maine. There is not much to do this far north so thank heavens there are some kinky people. I have been blessed with a partner who shares My perverse sense of adventure, but I was not always so fortunate. For over a decade I worked as a Professional Dominatrix. I have definitely met some interesting people into a variety of activities, some of which I share an interest, some I will never grasp. As all things do, the age of the ProDomme has ended. I am grateful that I am no longer a part of that circus as it has become so polluted with those who don't have a clue, however it has afforded Me ample opportunity to consider both views of the BDSM community. An interest in bondage began very young, when I discovered bondage magazines under My father's bed. Eventually a fascination for sado-masochistic behavior developed, but it took many years for comprehend what it all means and even more for Me to be comfortable enough to talk about it. Even though BDSM is not the deep dark secret it once was, society finds most of what I like to do unacceptable! Truthfully I don't give a f**k what society says, I do exactly what I want to do, how I want to do it, when I want to. Since you are here, I will assume you feel the same way, We/we have common interests and that you are not another stalker hell bent on showing Me the error of My ways.Some people would refer to My behavior as engaging in BDSM, (Bondage, discipline, sadomasochism) There are many ways to label My slightly deviant interests / activities, I like to keep it simple, I call it D/s (Dominant / submissive).
I'm Dominant, you're submissive. As long as you never forget that, you'll be all right. Although My interests are often labeled bizarre by mainstream society, I can't even force Myself to be concerned with whether or not I have their approval. Fuck society, as a general rule society is not that social anyway. The desire for Dominance or submission (D/s) would appear to be inborn (rather like homosexuality, or addictive behavior). Paradoxes abound in D/s; it is a "Wonderland" of twisted meanings and odd reactions. I certainly wasn't born knowing all there is to know about BDSM, if fact, for many years I didn't even have a name for My darkest desires. Much of it can only be intuited, not logically described. It is extremely difficult to explain to one who has not experienced it. For Myself, I tend to enjoy scenes that involve elements of corporal punishment, bondage, and sadistic sexual torture. Consensual of course. I enjoy truly bizarre and dramatic complicated role play scenarios I frequently refer to My scenes as My "Perverse Theatre of the Mind." Know that I always practice safe, sane, consensual activities with the utmost respect for those lucky enough to be invited to scene with Me. The only way for you to feel at harmony with yourself is to look deeper into that image of yourself that you hold and be in touch with it. There is not a single human being that is so conveniently simple that S/he can be explained as the sum of two or three elements. It is not unusual for each of us to have individual likes / dislikes, hopes for the future, goals and aspirations, as well as a unique attitude regarding a personal life. If you feel an overwhelming need to judge others, why don't you start with yourself. Many people do not admit to or understand the excitement they feel when presented with visual information that involves their particular fetish. Society has most likely given them a message somehow that having interests, such as wearing women's panties is wrong. I strongly disagree. In My opinion, it is not wrong as long as it causes NO harm to another individual. Fetish or BDSM play should always be safe, sane and consensual. There can be No other way. On the Internet you will be presented with a multitude of opportunities to learn about yourself, explore your fetish interests and gain the confidence to try something a little different. Even if you claim to have No fetish interests, at least you have learned something here about those that do. I recommend you keep an open mind. Just do not make the unfortunate mistake of assuming that the whole world will share in your new found interests. Be selective in who you contact. Agree to respect the wishes / desires of those you do contact. Do not act like a moron if you find someone you want to do a scene with and they do not share your interests. Most importantly, treat everyone you meet in the same manner you would like to be treated.Fantasy role play is a healthy, exciting way to explore your fantasies with someone you trust. People in the fetish / BDSM community have learned to be open about their fantasies and enjoy that exploration. They are not sick, twisted individual as society sometimes portrays them. On the contrary, they are very much in touch with their feelings and in complete control. The most important thing to understand, and the one most often misunderstood, is that BDSM IS NOT ABUSIVE. The people who do these things, do them because they DESIRE them; and will not proceed without the consent of both parties. Their partners are very precious to them, and they care deeply about causing them harm. This is what separates BDSM from battering, in an abusive relationship, the victim has no say in her/his treatment. There is no SSC involved. The only choice s/he may have (and that often is a difficult one) is to leave. On the contrary, a BDSM relationship usually is usually one of closeness, a depth of caring and communication, that is unusual in "vanilla" partners. They routinely expose their innermost selves to one another; they must in order to experience the rewards to their fullest. Some even refer to it as a "psychic connection" It takes years to build up this level of trust and communication. Link to Me Mistress Desiree' - Executive of Erotic Fantasy - Welcome to My Perverse Theater of the Mind