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Emma aka Em J

Men are like the stars. There are millions out there, but only one will make your dreams come true.

About Me


I am very much the realist. I believe I am more confident in who I am now than I have ever been before. I seem to know myself pretty well. I see my faults and accept them and I see the things I do well and continue to try and improve. I would like to think that I am forever changing and growing. Continuously bettering myself and shocking people. I do things because I want to do them not because other people think I should. I don't follow the crowd and I'm not easily pushed around. I don't disagree just to disagree. I disagree because I don't agree! I can be blunt, I can be shy, sometimes rude. I'm not bitchy but I can be a bitch. I can be sweet or sour. Push me and I'll push you back. Hurt my friends and you'll have me to answer to. I regret things I did in the past but I don't dwell on them. The more you are willing to forget and let go of the more others will too. You can't change what you did last year but you can be more in control next time the situation arises. Everything in life comes down to experience and with that age. I love to analyze things, comments, phrases, situations, body language and sometimes I'm guilty of over-thinking. I believe there is always more than meets they eye. So keep on looking.


I am very aware that I can be too honest. I like to lay my cards on the table. My timing isn't always perfect. If you believe something or think something should be said then go ahead and say it. Thats what its there for. It doesn't mean you're being rude or pushy, just honest and outspoken (like me). I believe that everyone should put more effort in to getting to know themselves. If you don't know who you are how can you expect anyone else to? I am a caring person, sometimes I care too much too soon and I get hurt but thats just me. Cant change who I am. I'm aware of my flaws and I'm not scared of other people seeing them. Flaws are what make us real, people can often relate to your flaws and more than likely will open up to you and share theirs with you. I know that I trust people too easily, that I can be a snappy cow but thats ok, just tell me I'm being a bitch and I'll stop! No one is perfect. I'm not scared of peoples opinions or hearing their side of the story. We are all entitled to one. It can be important to see all angles and look in from outside of the box. Take 5 minutes time out from being a frantic freak and breathe. You will be amazed how different everything looks. I like to do that when I'm working myself up about something.. I can generally admit when I'm wrong, I know, it doesn't happen often ;-). I am the typical sarcastic, smart arse pom. Generally speaking the sarcasm leaks out the more you get to know me. I'm light hearted and strong willed. I believe in never saying never and living each day as it comes. Not because it could be your last but because you will never get it back so do today what you can't do tomorrow. Everything does happen for a reason. It's then our job to figure out what the reason is. Life throws many things at people and we learn something different from each thing and take it with us on our adventures.

My Interests

Ive been in Australia since 2000. I was born in Doncaster, Yorkshire, England. I later moved to Belton in North Lincolnshire.. There are many things I wish I could have brought here with me, however I have found many things here I value just as much, if not more. Miss my family and love you to bits.

I'd like to meet:


If I could wish upon a star I would find Mr right for me. Someone with personality, interests, and a heart. I seem to know where to look for boys who think they are macho men. Really they are still kids. I want to be someone's lover, not their mother! I don't want to find another guy who turns in to an immature spoilt child when something doesn't go his way. I want a man who knows who he is, what he wants and is comfortable expressing it. A man who is himself around me when his mates are in the room. I don't really mind too much about his hair or his clothes just who he is. I want to have fun, party, be crazy, be cute, go out, stay in, try new things, find somewhere special and be comfortable being myself and knowing he accepts me for who I am. I you're out there, here I am :D


Good friends are hard to come across. Some are so hard to find that its important to hold them close once found, never let a good friendship slide. There will be times of sorrow times when you need to cry but other times will be so happy the sadness is left behind. There will be times you wish to forget and others you wish will never end but one thing you can be sure of is, is a true friend is a friend till the end. Dont judge me before you know me or from "he said, she said" Dont judge me by my actions, we are all capable of mistakes and stupid things. Dont judge me by my friends, I love them, if you knew them you would too and definately dont judge me by the people I know (you may not like them but if you dont know them how can you?) Dont judge me on what I wear or where I go. If you want to judge me get to know me first cause I guarantee Im not how, who or what you think. If you realise you dont like me for who I am you are more than welcome to your opinion. Until then shut up and put up. You cant dislike someone based on something you were told... People love to gossip. If you ask the person Im sure you'll get an answer closer to the truth. Dont disregard people as trash before you've given yourself chance to find out. Actions dont define a person their personality does. Just because someone does something you might not agree with doesnt make them a crap person

Music:

Movies:

I love being random at times. Others I love to be organized. I can be laid back. Other times completely stressed out and up-tight. Weekends at home are beautiful especially if I have someone to snuggle with. Partying until 7am is fantastic.I love to dance until I cant feel my feet! I love going to the movies and standing around for half an hour deciding which movie to see and then contemplating "popcorn" or "choc top". DVD nights with the family or with the girls are also something I love to do. Eat M&M's and gummy snakes. Sleeping in on Sundays but making the most of my days off in the week. Rugging up in winter is the best. I enjoy curling up by the fire and toasting marshmallows. In summer I love to walk along the beach at night when everyone has gone home. Its still warm but its so peaceful and quiet.

Television:

Queer as Folk, Bad Girls, No Angles, Eastenders, Coronation Street, Emmerdale, Sex and the City, Love My Way, Oprah, Life begins, Futurama, Tyra Banks Show, The Ellen Degeneres Show, Nip/Tuck, Greys Anatomy, Green Wing, Wild On E, SVU, CSI, That 70's Show, All Saints, Simpsons, Family Guy, Doctor 90210, The Swan, CSI, SVU, Girls of the Playboy mansion, Pimp my ride, MTV cribs, [V], Simpsons...

Heroes:

The many people that have touched me with their words, courage or experience. You don't have to know a person personally to respect their story or life. I class heroes as people who have over come something extreme whether emotional or physical in life. Someone who respects other people and who is true to themselves always. Someone who speaks their mind and stands by their beliefs but can also respect those of others without feeling threatened or weakened. You don't have to create miracles to be heroic. You simply need to live heroically.

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Questionaire - About Me

Name:Emma, Em, EmJ, MnMBirthdate:15 March 1988Birthplace:DRI - Doncaster Royal Infermary, Yorkshire. EnglandCurrent Location:My Mummy and Daddys house.Eye Color:Blue/greenHair Color:Naturally blonde b...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Mon, 11 Aug 2008 10:35:00 PST

My Fabulous Friends

So, I've finally laid out my life in front of my eyes and Its so much better than I thought it was.Im so comfortable, so happy and so lucky. I knew, know and have recently met some fantastic people. I...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Fri, 08 Aug 2008 01:04:00 PST

paranoia

Im beginning to think that we attract what we concentrate and focus our attention on what we dont want. the more i realise what i dont want the more often i am confronted by it. the more i say im not ...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:58:00 PST

Thinking alot

Why do women judge how much they are valued by men by how many times they call or how many messages they send? Why are we happier when we get these messages and choose not to reply? Is this because we...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Fri, 20 Jun 2008 04:40:00 PST

Bottled up pissed off-ness!

I have learnt something about myself in the past few days! I can be forgiving, when I want to be, I can be kind, thoughtful, sharing, oppinionated and down to earth. Most of these things I am everyda...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Fri, 25 Apr 2008 02:14:00 PST

Devo this week : (

What a week. My dog was put down, he attacked one of my other dogs and hurt him badly. My mum had to pull him off and open his mouth to get the little one free. Not the first time he's lashed out and ...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Fri, 18 Apr 2008 07:24:00 PST

Lepoards Can Change Their Spots

I was just thinking about actions and doings of people, and myself and I couldnt help but question what makes us, us?I dont think that our actions make us who or what we are. Sometimes people are name...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:50:00 PST

Be oppinionated!

If you dont agree or believe in something, don’t say you do. We were given oppinions and the right to use them to do just that. Dont agree with something if you dont agree. You dont need to be r...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Mon, 31 Mar 2008 03:25:00 PST

Being in a click

I can quite openly say that I used to believe in Quantity and not Quality. This sadly was what I thought about having friends. Im embarrassed to say it but I think you should tell the truth about thin...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Sun, 30 Mar 2008 04:04:00 PST

Society Circles

The way i see society BullshitterstoFeederstoStirrerstoFriendsBullshitters being the people known for making up random stories about pretty much everyone and anyone who tickles their fancy. Feeders ar...
Posted by Emma aka Em J on Sun, 30 Mar 2008 03:45:00 PST