Women and/or men who have children, but are struggling emotionally; women and/or men who've suffered the loss of a child, whether purposefully or not; women who have an unwanted pregnancy or are thinking about abortion; and, women who've had an abortion.
You feel a great deal of stress, pressure, guilt, anxiety and depression--and you 'just' want to talk to someone. You feel that there's just no other way out.
You may've already made your decision. No matter what thoughts, ideas or fears you're struggling with, or what the situation is in your life--before you act on them, talk to me. I will listen.
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I WAS MOLESTED. BEATEN. DRUGGED. ALMOST DIED FROM EATING DISSORDERS. AND A TEEN RUN-A-WAY.
Disclaimer-My intent of posting this story is to share my personal experiences of what I've been through in order to reach out and help other people, and to let them know where I have been, and where I am today--to let people know that, with God, you 'can' make it! And most importantly, that God will 'not' leave you nor forsake you, even during your darkest, lonliest hours..and during your most terrible, difficult times. Not to make my parents, or anyone else for that matter, look bad.
I did not have an easy life as a teenager. I will admit, I was very rebellious.
It started with the obsession with my body...and wanting to be thin. I went from 133 pounds at 5'7 to 67 pounds, and shrunk to 5'4 (osteoperosis). Luckily, because I stopped the eating dissorder behaviors, I went back to 5'7. I was young enough at the time to reverse osteoperosis by vitamins and healthy eating. I didn't even menstruate anymore as a result of my starvation!
My entire teenage years were awful. They were nothing but eating dissorders--where would I throw up? how would I throw up? how could I avoid eating? what would I eat? when would I eat? how much did I weigh today? Etc. Some mornings I didn't have the strength to walk to the bathroom and had to crawl. I remember looking like a skeleton with skin stretched over it. The doctor's told my parents I probably would not make it another year. I was seventeen.
I was hospitalized twice--and the second time, I had to stay in the heart section first, (before beign admitted into the EDU (Eating Dissorders Unit) on a heart monitor, because my electrolytes were dangerously low. My heart could've stopped. I didn't care. I was rebellious. I was invincible. I wanted to be thin. Thin=Pretty. I almost died. I had a heart attack and did not know it. The EKG picked it up. I was also told that, as a result, I would never be able to have any children. I have nearly four now!
During this time, I ran away to Florida. I left school one day with my friend Heather, and we took off. I was drugged by some people who told me I was taking tylenol. It was something they called "silly" pills. I have no clue what it was. All I know is that I was a vegetable. I could see and hear, but not move or respond. These people were beating the hell out of me. They blacked my eyes, fractured my nose, ripped out hair...everything. I was terrorized inside of a body that did not work at that moment. Finally, I remember I could walk..but I only remember flashes of faces and things.
Somehow, I was at the police station. Then we were in a run-a-way shelter. My parents were almost to Florida to pick us up, but we escaped out of a roll out window. My parents were devastated. That night, we were nearly raped (molested) by a group of guys. The next day, we called the operator on a payphone and somehow found my parents through the operator. We told them who we were. There were signs of us all over the place in Ohio and Florida.
We returned home safely. The closer we got to home, the angrier my parents became for what I had done.
Finally, when I turned 18, I became homeless. I was a part time cashier at a department store up the street. I didn't have much money. I had nowhere to go. So I moved around with different people in very bad areas every few days..sometimes, every few weeks. It was a nightmare! I had to take the bus to and from work, and remember having nothing to wear but battered old jeans with holes in them and paint stains..and nasty old torn up sweat shirts.
My shoes were canvas with holes, and I had no socks and no underpants. I remember waiting on the bus in winter with only these things on, and an old, worn out jacket. I remember being so cold that I could not feel my own feet, begging God for some hospitable person to offer me a ride so I wouldn't have to freeze. I always feel so sorry, today, for people sitting at the bus stop in winter. I did have a preacher come up to me once, and I was so cold, I lisetened to everything he said and I prayed with him..and people were staring at me like I was crazy (it was a Third and Main Streets in downtown dayton..very bad area!) He offered me a ride. I was pale, purplish and shivering. I accepted..although he could've been a murderer for all I knew. But he was fine, and he helped me. I got lucky!
There was this one couple I stayed with, and I was their personal slave. They took all of my paycheck, and left me with $10 for food and soap to clean their dishes and their floors. I had no key to their place, and so I had wait outside in the freezing rain sometimes for hours. They had no washer and dryer, and I had no money for a laundro-mat, so I had to do my laundry in the bathtub. I remember begging my parents to let me come back home to no avail.
This same woman also played some tricks on me. She was very jealous of me. One time, she looked at me and smiled so kindly, handing me a lunch sack. I had to work as a cashier by day and also painted the store at night for extra money. I was grateful toward her as she said she had made me this lunch for when I went on break in the middle of the night. I didn't even look at it because I was just happy to have food, and warmly surprised by her kindness.
That night, on my lunch break, after sitting on a hard, cold floor painting, I took my lunch and quickly opened up the bag only to find a peanut butter and mayonnaise sandwich made on moldy, stale white bread. I had nothing to eat now. And so I stole a peanut butter snickers candy bar from the store. I felt guilty, because they trusted me. But I was hungry.
The other trick she played on me was setting my clock one hour ahead so that I awoke in the morning thinking I was late for work. I threw my clothes on, rushed out, and waited on the bus in tears. I was going to lose my job, I was sure of it! I was in a very, very bad area. But a man pulled over and gave me a ride on his motorcycle. I accepted. I was scared. What if he killed me or something? But I got lucky, and he didn't. I was an hour early to work and had to sit in the empty parking lot that morning by myself waiting on the people to open the store because the woman did that to me..made me think I was late!
I don't like to go to the towns I had to stay in while I was homeless. They give me bad feelings..bad memories.
I also remember a time when I lived in Miamisburg, OH. The place I stayed had fleas bad and I was always being eaten alive by fleas..bites everywhere from head to toe! Contstantly! It was awful! I remember my ankle swelled up for no reason and it was because of a spider bite or something. I had to limp through downtown Miamisburg because my lower leg was swollen out huge..it was very painful. My whole leg stung. I went to a doctor's office but they refused me and told me to walk to the hospital, which was far away. I was in pain!
I made a few calls, but had absolutely no one to take me to a doctor's office or hospital. And so I had to limp all of the way to the hospital with a swollen, beyond sore leg, in agony. They gave me some sort of a shot and sent me on my way.
I will never forget those days. They haunt me. I've even had flashbacks about them. However, I look up to my heavenly father and give thanks for where I was then, and where I am now.
So, as you go forth in your day, and you are wanting this, and you are wanting that...remember to give thanks to God for the little things, like the roof over your head...and the shoes and socks on your feet. Don't complain about the things you do not have. Rather, praise God for the things that you do have. Because you never know what other people must suffer and endure, and how good your life really is.
My parents and I have a good relationship now and they help me out a lot with things. We all go through hard times, but with prayer and with faith, we can come out okay in the end!
That teenage girl, she's still here inside. She's hurt, and she remembers, yes--all too well. But she's come a long way!
Christina
SITE DEDICATION
"This site is dedicated to Mikell & Keylee Silverman, who greatly inspired me. Also, I dedicate this site to all infants and children who have been abused, or are being abused, in any fashion; and to those who've lost their lives as a result. And to all unborn babies who have no voice because they can not speak or be seen. May none of these children die in vain. Amen!"
WHY I AM HERE
I am a 34 year old mom with three children, and one on the way.
I want to say that I very much so hate crimes performed against children of any kind. I hate to see families destroyed, and for people to unnecessarily suffer. That is why I am here...to make a difference and to help stop the crimes performed against children.
I want to help families, and to help women realize that they are not alone or helpless; and to try and lend them a hand, easing them out of their depression.
If I could save the life of even one child, and/or prevent a child from suffering horribly--from abuse, neglect, torture, and even death--and save one parent or caregiver from making the biggest mistake they've ever made; and by so doing, saving them from having to live with that guilt, depression and mistake for the rest of their lives...then I've done what God has set me out to do. And for that, I am thankful beyond what I can even describe with mere words.
My friends, there are other choices...and many of them. And there are people who can greatly help you. Let's not suffer the children. Let's not suffer ourselves either. If you hurt or kill a child...you will go to prison. If you hurt or kill a child...you will feel that pain, in some fashion, for the rest of your life. You, too, will suffer. We all have to answer for everything that we do in due time...whether here in this world, or before God.
Is that the road you want to choose? Because you don't have to choose that road. You can choose the less traveled road...and get to a higher, better place.
As a side note, it isn't just women who struggle--there are also men who are parents who struggle, and/or get depressed. Men who need help or someone to talk to are welcome here as well. We have men available here to help other men who are dealing with stress in relation to their children and families.
This is all 100% free and confidential. You will never be asked for any personal information. We are only here to offer support and help where we can. God bless you!
THE HAND OF HOPE--A MUST READ!
THE TINY HAND OF HOPE
A picture began circulating in November. It should be "The Picture of the Year," or perhaps, "Picture of the Decade." It won't be. In fact, unless you obtained a copy of the paper, you probably will never see it. The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by a surgeon named Joseph Bruner.
The Hand of Hope/Famous Photo
The baby was diagnosed with spina bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother's womb. Little Samuel's mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta. She knew of Dr. Bruner's remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.
During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. During the surgery on little Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed, hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon's finger.
Baby Samuel
The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity. The editors titled the picture, "Hand of Hope." The text explaining the picture begins, "The tiny hand of 21-week-old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother's uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life."
Little Samuel's mother said they "wept for days" when they saw the picture.
She said, "The photo reminds us my pregnancy isn't about disability or an illness, it's about a little person" "The Hand" of the fetus. You can see the actual picture, and it is awesome--incredible.
Pass it on--the world needs to see this one.
Four Month Old "Baby" In the Womb
Dear Mommy,
Mommy, I am only 8 inches long, but I have all my organs. I love the sound of your voice. Every time I hear it, I wave my arms and legs. The sound of your heart beat is my favorite lullaby.
month 2
Mommy, today I learned how to suck my thumb. If you could see me, you could definitely tell that I am a baby. I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though. It is so nice and warm in here.
month 3
You know what Mommy, I'm a girl!! I hope that makes you happy. I always want you to be happy. I don't like it when you cry. You sound so sad. It makes me sad too, and I cry with you even though you can't hear me.
month 4
Mommy, my hair is starting to grow. It is very short and fine, but I will have a lot of it. I spend a lot of my time exercising. I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes, and stretch my arms and legs. I am becoming quite good at it too.
month 5
You went to the doctor today. Mommy, he lied to you. He said that I'm not a baby. I am a baby Mommy, your baby. I think and feel. Mommy, what's abortion?
month 6
I can hear that doctor again. I don't like him. He seems cold and heartless. Something is intruding my home. The doctor called it a needle. Mommy what is it? It burns! Please make him stop! I can't get away from it! Mommy!! HELP me!!
month 7
Mommy, I am okay. I am in Jesus's arms. He is holding me. He told me about abortion. Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just--
One more heart that was stopped. Two more eyes that will never see. Two more hands that will never touch. Two more legs that will never run. One more mouth that will never speak. Repost this if you have a heart and are aganist Abortion!
My Prayer
Dear Heavenly Father,
I pray for the family, Lord, that they know You and grow in You. I pray for all of the children in this world that you reach down and touch them in a special way, and cover them with your wonderful protection and mercy. May angels catch them should they fall, and guard them at all times. When they lie down to sleep, may their sleep be peacful and may you speak to them in their dreams. May you speak to their parents, and/or caregivers, of your love and peacfulness and may they depend upon your for their strength and support in raising their little gifts from above. May parents begin to see that no matter how hard, children are truly a precious gift from You. I pray that you will reach out and touch men and women, no matter whey they are right now, Lord, who have commited crimes against children, and speak wisdom, forgiveness, and compassion upon them. And I pray they shall be used by you to help other children and other people who have performed unspeakable acts upon children, as they have, in order to save those people, and their families, from the same dreadful mistakes, and the same dreadful pain. And those children and infants who've lost their lives already, Lord, I pray they shall not die in vain. But that hundreds--thousands--shall be saved as a result. Thank you Lord. This I pray, in the Your name. Amen.
MY NAME IS CHRIS
My name is Chris
I am three,
My eyes are swollen
I cannot see,
I must be stupid
I must be bad,
What else could have made
My daddy so mad?
I wish I were better
I wish I weren't ugly,
Then maybe my mommy
Would still want to hug me.
I can't do a wrong
I can't speak at all
Or else I'm locked up
All the day long.
When I'm awake,
I'm all alone
The house is dark
My folks aren't home
When my mommy does come home
I'll try and be nice,
So maybe I'll just get
One whipping tonight.
I just heard a car
My daddy is back
From the all night bar.
I hear him curse
My name is called
I press myself
Against the wall.
I try to hide
From his evil eyes
I'm so afraid now
I'm starting to cry!
He finds me weeping
Calls me ugly words,
He says it's my fault
He suffers at work.
He slaps and hits me
And yells at me more,
I finally get free
And run to the door!
He's already locked it
And I start to bawl,
He takes me and throws me
Against the hard wall.
I fall to the floor
With my bones nearly broken,
And my daddy continues
With more bad words spoken.
"I'm sorry!", I scream
But its now much to late-
His face has been twisted
Into a unimaginable shape.
The hurt and the pain!
Again and again-
O please God, have mercy!
O please let it end!
And he finally stops
And heads for the door
While I lay there motionless,
Sprawled on the floor.
My name is Chris
I am only three,
Tonight my daddy,
Murdered me.
(Sad enough, this story is actually true for millions of children because things like this, and even worse, happen everyday. Stand up and make a difference!)
A LETTER FROM HEAVEN
By Christina
I am so warm and safe and content here inside of your cozy womb, mommy. I can hear your voice and feel the vibrations of your kind words. Her voice, it comforts me and brings a smile to my face, like beautiful music. You must do a lot of walking, because I'm always being rocked back and forth inside of here, and it puts me to sleep.
I heard you crying last night. I heard you talking to someone named Jesus, asking Him to forgive you for what you were going to do. I wonder what you are going to do. I wanted to give you a big kiss and make you feel all better. But I'll do that when you me someday soon! I can't wait! I'll bet you're real soft and pretty.
Mommy, you haven't been moving as much today. I'm not sure why. So I haven't slept. I keep hearing this man's voice, and I can feel something hard pushing in on me. I feel scared, and I have a really bad feeling about this place you're at.
I feel like I could go to sleep, but what is this hard thing ramming into my body? Frantically, I try to move away from it, but it comes after me. What is this? I'm terriifed! It hurts! Mommy? Aren't you going to protect me? I'm your baby, please help me! I'm in so much pain now, and I can't seem to move away from that hard thing jamming into me anymore. What has happened to my safe, dark, warm home? It's been invaded by a monster!
After that, I don't remember much. I remember feeling a really unbearable pain that I can't describe and then, suddenly, there was a big bright man with golden hair and wings who was holding me. I like this big bright man--he feels safe, holds me close and has a smile on his face.
Oh, and guess what mommy? I met that man Jesus you were talking to the other night. He sure is nice! The man who called himself and angel took me to another man. But this man was even brighter and he talked, too. His voice was soft, and warm and he said to me, "Don't be afraid my little child. You are safe. This is your home now." And He said His name was Jesus.
But mommy, I have to tell you...although it's wonderful here..you were heaven to me. I wanted to hear your heavenly voice and feel your arms wrapped around me tight. I wanted to feel your warm, soft breast against my cheek and your loving kisses. I would've been a good baby, honest I would've. Why didn't you want to hold me and love me, too, mommy? I cried when that evil monster came after me inside of you, and I suffered horribly, mommy. And all I wanted was for you to hold me, protect me and save me from that monster!
I thought you were taking me to a doctor, because I heard you call him a doctor. I also thought I heard you say once when you were talking to grandma that doctor's save lives...not take lives!
Maybe someday you will find me here in heaven with Jesus and you will hold me and love me. Jesus said I might see you again, but that depends upon your life decisions regarding Him. So mommy, make sure you come to heaven and follow His directions to get here so that I can feel you hold me and be with you again.
I love you mommy. I only wish I could've told you that someday in person.
Love,
Your Baby
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