A NEW BEGINNING!
You thought I would fail in the midst of adversity.....Pass my torch and beg for mercy....
But my vision of success reaches far beyond measure......So I welcome A few bumps to appreciate MY treasure...
Cause each day I face is a chance for opportunity....And because I'm in God's favor that "Knock" is nothing new to me....
So this year I vow to leave the past behind me....Start a New Beginning to discover the "TRUE" woman inside of me...
Cause it's only Then, when you put your past in perspective....
That the path to your future molds that image in your reflection...
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Love is...
Most of the people I know confuse love with possession. It’s easy to see why; it’s built into the fundamental assumptions of our culture. “You’re mine,†says the popular song, “and we belong together.†Hardly anyone stops to question the sentiment.
As soon as we feel love, we immediately attempt to possess. We speak confidently of my boyfriend, my wife, my child, my parent. We feel justified in holding expectations about those people. We consider that perfectly reasonable.
Why? Because all our concepts of love ultimately derive from romantic love—and romantic love is furiously, frantically possessive. We want to be with our lover, to have them to ourselves, to feel their eyes on us, to consume their minds and bodies...to possess them.
So strongly do we equate love with possession that we may even feel if someone doesn’t want to possess us, they don’t really love us. Yet I would argue that what we call romantic love is not love at all. It’s a kind of emotional storm, an overpowering, thrilling attraction—but it isn’t love.
Because real love isn’t possessive. It can’t be. We’d all agree that love involves giving, not taking. Yet the desire to possess actually springs from the lover’s own need—the need for approval from the beloved, for support from a parent, for straight A’s from a child, for status, for financial security—for something. A possessive lover is overly focused on what he’s getting, not what he’s giving. The lover may dignify his dependency with the name love, but it’s a lie. How can you really love somebody when you’re dependent on them for things you need? That isn’t love, that’s just manipulation to keep the needed stuff coming your way. Robert Palmer sings about being “addicted to love,†but nobody really is. People are addicted to their needs.
And love isn’t the same as need. It just isn’t. Of course, a loving relationship will produce interdependencies. But all too often, the pleasure of freely giving changes to a fear of possibly not getting. It’s just that this person—your husband, your girlfriend, your child— is suddenly so important to you. You worry about what’s going to happen. What they’re going to do. And at that moment, love stops.
People sometimes wonder if they’re feeling real love. These same people never wonder if they’re sexually aroused, or sad. Then what’s the problem about recognizing love? Most often, because they’re sensing a conflict: they’re feeling the depth of their need, not the heights of their love.
There are ways to know real love. It feels calm. It’s steady, and it can easily last a lifetime. It’s nourishing—people grow under its influence. They become who they really are, and not what someone expects them to be. Real love isn’t blind; on the contrary, people feel understood, accepted for who they really are. It’s healing. People recover.
So whenever you hear that love is blind, or love can’t last, or love is destructive, you can be sure that you’re hearing a description of lust, or desire, or need. And it’s an accurate description, because needs really are transient and destructive.
But love is something else entirely. An emotion of deep caring that asks nothing in return, an emotion that is fulfilling without any expectation at all, is so rare that most people in our society can’t imagine it. They can’t imagine feeling it, or receiving it. They may even come to believe it doesn’t exist. But it does.
.....And it’s the best thing there is.
TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF - The Survey
Name: Diana
Birthday: July 26th
Birthplace: Ghana
Current Location: Pomona, NY
Eye Color: Brown
Hair Color: Black
Height: 5'8"
Right Handed or Left Handed: right handed
Your Heritage: black american
The Shoes You Wore Today: black pumps
Your Weakness: chocolate
Your Fears: snakes, anything that can run faster than me, dying before my time, Transvestites...
Your Perfect Pizza: one with no calories
Goal You Would Like To Achieve This Year: Buy a house
Your Most Overused Phrase On an instant messenger: lmao
Thoughts First Waking Up: awww maaannnnn! It's 5 o'clock already???
Your Best Physical Feature: i'll let you tell me
Your Bedtime: 11 pm
Your Most Missed Memory: being with my friends in high school
Pepsi or Coke: Coke please
MacDonalds or Burger King: which ever one's closer
Single or Group Dates: single
Lipton Ice Tea or Nestea: neither. ewww!
Chocolate or Vanilla: Chocolate baby
Cappuccino or Coffee: Frappaccino
Do you Smoke: no
Do you Swear: f-ck yea!
Do you Sing: do i sing? (yes.) can i sing? (no)
Do you Shower Daily: should this even be a question? of course i shower daily!
Have you Been in Love: close but no cigar
Do you want to go to College: been there, done that
Do you want to get Married: of course
Do you belive in yourself: absolutely
Do you get Motion Sickness: only when at sea, which in not often
Do you think you are Attractive: yes
Are you a Health Freak: lol. no
Do you get along with your Parents: for the most part, yes
Do you like Thunderstorms: oh no
Do you play an Instrument: a little piano
In the past month have you Drank Alcohol: yep
In the past month have you Smoked: nope
In the past month have you been on Drugs: hell to da naw
In the past month have you gone on a Date: yes
In the past month have you gone to a Mall: yes
In the past month have you eaten a box of Oreos: no
In the past month have you eaten Sushi: nope
In the past month have you been on Stage: nah
In the past month have you been Dumped: negative
In the past month have you gone Skinny Dipping: next question please
In the past month have you Stolen Anything: no
Ever been Drunk: yes and I learned my lesson
Ever been called a Tease: once, but I wasn't trying to be one
Ever been Beaten up: no...lol
Ever Shoplifted: in 6th grade i think, won't try that again any time soon
How do you want to Die: peacefully
What do you want to be when you Grow Up: me!
What country would you most like to Visit: Greece
In a Boy/Girl..
Favourite Eye Color: whatever makes his eyes stand out
Favourite Hair Color: same as above
Short or Long Hair: don't matter
Height: at least a good 3 or 4 inches taller than me
Weight: well distributed
Best Clothing Style: laid back
Number of Drugs I have taken: none
Number of CDs I own: ??
Number of Piercings: minimal
Number of Tattoos: one
Number of things in my Past I Regret: ???
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