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Dakota aka Sunshine

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About Me

† Child of God †
I feel blessed in what life has given me. Have I had obstacles in my life? ABSOLUTELY!!! Who hasn’t!?! But every experience, good and bad, has molded me into who I am today. I FIRMLY believe there is a lessen to learn from everything – although we may not understand it or see it at the time, I think if you want to and look hard enough (perhaps down the road) you’ll see what positive may have came out of the perhaps ‘not-so-great’ situation. God has always used pain in my life to help me grow. As the saying go, "God reveals to heal." Often times it's just really understanding what he's trying to show us! So I often find myself praying and asking, "God, what are you trying to teach me? What am I suppose to be learning here? And please help me figure it out!" We can’t always control what happens to us in life, however the one thing we CAN always control is how we react to it; how we let it impact us. We can choose to dwell on the negative things in the past or the positive things in the past. (But we know, dwelling on the past is not right, according to God - Isaiah 43:18) We can choose to be a victim in life (poor me)…or be grateful for what we have. Whether we want to believe and/or accept it, we each control our own feelings and we can choose what we want to think of other people and/or situations. There was a quote I came across (on a bumper sticker of all places) that explains this point effectively. It said, “Remember YOU are responsible for creating your life by every THOUGHT, ACTION, and CHOICE. Choose well!” Another quote I really appreciate (from Albert Einstein) goes something like, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of Insanity.” To me this says, If you’re not happy with your life, change something, do something different, otherwise you are destine to get more of the same! Sometimes change can be scary, but sometimes thinking of things as being the same in a year from now can be even scarier! Typically change is a good thing, although it seems few choose to view it that way. Another quote I appreciate is, “Those who have low expectations deserve exactly what they get”. If you didn’t notice, I like quotes.Aside from my outlook on things in life...I'm a responsible, respectful, authentic, down to earth girl. I have my quirks (much like most people), aside from openly sharing my viewpoints/beliefs, I would say that it’s probably the way that I can be particular in the way I like things…I guess one could say I’m a little on the ‘anal retentive’ side. (i.e. I sometimes straighten things in the aisles when I’m shopping, I like labels to face forward in the cupboards/fridge, I like things to be stacked from short to tall, etc.) I’m just goofy that way I guess. I am open, honest, and forth coming about who I am and what I think. A trait that is probably my most envied and despised. Some are appreciative and love me for it while others probably wish I would just keep my thoughts to myself…I’m true to who I am and will say what I feel needs to be said. I’m not a ‘sweep it under the rug’ kind of gal. Please don’t misunderstand me, I’m not rude or trying to offend anyone, but I’m not the ‘quiet, keeps her thoughts to herself’ kind of girl either. I try to be as tactful and sensitive as possible when sharing my thoughts as I realize sometimes I’m delivering a message that may be difficult to hear. My intent is NEVER from a negative/hurtful approach, much to the opposite. Typically I’m trying to give positive feedback and have them look at something from another point of view. Unfortunately it’s not always perceived / received that way…so it’s something I continue to work on. It truly is my best attempt to speak truth in love (Eph 4:15). ♥I'm confident, but not conceded. Morals and values are important to me being from the Midwest. I'm an animal lover, especially dogs and cats-although I'm allergic to cats (and negative people)-did I mention I have a cat? Yeah, now that's love! I'm not into drugs or drama and have faith in GOD.
Your Love Life is Like Pretty Woman
"I want the fairy tale"
You believe that love is truly blind, unpredictable, and surprising. Two very different people can easily find true love.
At least, that is how it will happen when you marry a gorgeous billionaire someday ;-)
Your love style: Sensual and flirty
Your Hollywood Ending Will Be: Surprisingly happy What Movie Is Your Love Life Like?

My Interests

I'd like to meet:

Positive, honest, supportive, courteous, respectful, moral, authentic, caring, responsible people (who are drama & drug FREE) who share the same values as mine that will encourage and inspire me to be the BEST me I can be! Must like to laugh, have a sense of humor, and like to have fun too!

AS FOR MEN: I could go on and on about this (I suppose we all could - let's just say I know what I want) I've got 3 non-negotiables: 1) Must HAVE/WANT a relationship with God (HAVE being FAR preferred - of Christian faith), 2) Must WANT to get married, 3) Must WANT to have children (and not have any already). I'm not into casual dating, so if you're just "looking for a good time" you need not apply as I'm not interested. I tend to gravitate to tall men (6'+ preferred), with baby faces and a strong jaw line. Someone who...can express themselves and is comfortable in doing so...is affectionate, both in words and touch...is strongly attracted & drawn to me; who desires me. Someone who will be proud of me and appreciate me...is probably described as being "deep"...if you're known as being a "simple guy"...I'm probably not interested, as I enjoy intelligent conversation, healthy debate, and someone who has some passion...and can appreciate and enjoys the depth to me. Honesty is HUGE for me, so if you're not 100% honest at all times, I'm also not interested. Someone who...is in touch with their emotions, that is capable and comfortable with being vulnerable, so we can have a heartfelt relationship & understanding...but not overly sensitive, as I'd like them to be emotionally stronger than I am...is capable of resolving and dealing with confrontation/conflict (let's be honest, true relationships require the REPAIR aspect if they are going to last)...is compassionate and is able to empathize...has a good work-life balance, but has a higher priority with family first...is responsible in their life choices. Someone who likes to laugh, have fun, smile, and dance! As I said, I could go on and on...but I think that's quite a bit for now. (I know a perfect man/woman does not exist, however I do believe in compatibility and similar values; I don't feel there is any harm in knowing and expressing what you're looking for in a significant other.)

My Blog

Boundaries in Dating ~ Making Dating Work

We are to speak the truth in love to each other (Ephesians 4:15), taking responsibility to protect love by confronting problems.When you are clear about your values, preferences, and morals, you solve...
Posted by on Wed, 14 Jan 2009 20:02:00 GMT

The Purpose Driven Life ~ Character Building, Maturing, & Humility

I've finished the book "The Purpose Driven Life ~ What On Earth Am I Here For?" by Rick Warren, and HIGHLY recommend it!  Below are some additional excerpts that really spoke to me that I wanted...
Posted by on Tue, 02 Dec 2008 03:04:00 GMT

AMAZING ~ The Power of Prayer!!!

This is INCREDIBLE! I was at church today, and the Teaching Pastor, Chad Moore, shared the following with us regarding surveys done on Marriages and Divorce rates: * One out of every 2 non-belie...
Posted by on Mon, 24 Nov 2008 04:12:00 GMT

The Purpose Driven Life ~ How we Grow

Friends:  I would like to share with you some excerpts from another great chapter in this book.  I HIGHLY recommend this book for all! The Purpose Driven Life by Rick WarrenA Synopsis How ...
Posted by on Sat, 25 Oct 2008 17:31:00 GMT

The Purpose Driven Life ~ Restoring Broken Fellowship (i.e. relationships, friendships, etc.)

So here's the summary of chapter 20 of The Purpose Driven Life--What On Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren).  It really touched me personally and gave me a sense of urgency to restore broken rel...
Posted by on Mon, 20 Oct 2008 06:19:00 GMT

The Purpose Driven Life ~ Cultivating Community (fellowship, companionship, friendship)

I read another chapter (19) in The Purpose Driven Life--What On Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren).  It really inspired me personally and I once again felt compelled to share it with all of you...
Posted by on Mon, 20 Oct 2008 05:23:00 GMT

What am I hiding? To heal you have to deal!

A couple weeks ago I was privileged to hear yet another great lesson at Sun Valley.  I felt what I can only presume is God encouraging me to share this message.  ..:namespace prefix = o ns =...
Posted by on Fri, 17 Oct 2008 22:01:00 GMT

Love is a Choice

Brent was thinking and feeling what thousands of husbands have thought and felt through the years. Unfortunately, Brent had never made the distinction between stage one and stage two of romantic love....
Posted by on Thu, 16 Oct 2008 07:48:00 GMT

The Purpose Drivin Life ~ What Matters Most

Please take some time to click on the link below to enjoy the synopsis of a chapter in a book I'm reading ("The Purpose Driven Life--What On Earth Am I Here For?" by Rick Warren).I really en...
Posted by on Tue, 14 Oct 2008 21:38:00 GMT

How Can I Get Through To You?

Hey Friends!..:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />   I read this book by Terrence Real called:  HOW CAN I GET THROUGH TO YOU?  (Closing the Intimacy G...
Posted by on Tue, 07 Oct 2008 02:28:00 GMT