I believe some people enter into relationships/marriages with a short term mentality, there are other's who have long term ideals but with no idea of how to achieve them. Some people suffer from low self esteem and enjoy the excitement of the chase. Some people over a period of time simpy get "bored" after the honeymoon stage ends; which it does in EVERY relationship. If we knowingly allow boredom to start, we have nobody to blame for it but ourselves. Unfortunately if we're not being a good partner, there are others standing in line, or waiting in the wings, or crouched in the bushes waiting to pounce. This reaction of boredom is primal, biological, and has nothing whatsoever to do with love or the lack thereof, and if we're not giving our partner a reason to enjoy being with us, somebody else is or soon will be giving them a reason to enjoy being with him/her. Period. There are lots of early warning signs because there are many potential pitfalls in committed relationships. Being able to identify the pitfalls and warning signs are a simple matter of knowing what it really takes to make a relationship work, which in turn takes knowing what your partner needs and wants from both you and the relationship. This requires knowing how to communicate effectively, which is a lot more complex than simply marrying someone who speaks the same language.I believe we need to look at ourselves while avoiding denial for the cause of the problems in our own lives. If someone cheats on us, why did we allow ourselves to become blind in the 1st place? What warning signs did we miss or avoid because we kept our blinders on? People claim that communication is a key factor in great relationships - but I never hear anyone explain what that type of communication is. How about really learning who our partner's are? Someone told me once that this is the true definition of In-to-me-see!
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