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Kevin

Rode Gently and Put Up Dry...

About Me

First and foremost two things you need to know about me: I'm a follower of Christ ("Christian" has lost its meaning) and a dedicated father. As an extension of the former, I'll tell you that I teach an adult singles class at my church and am heavily involved with a local singles ministry. Furthermore, I am the creator and webmaster of a website dedicated to effective Christian single living, Finding Believers . So understand that I'm not just mentioning this as a side item, its a very integral part of my life.

After my dedication to Christ comes my love for my children. They are a priviledge in my life and I'm astounded God has placed them in my care (and their mom's too, but hey). I wish I got to spend more time with my daughter but she's 16 and has this new boyfriend who seems to enjoy sucking up all of her time. That's OK I suppose, but I hope she remembers that Dad is always here!

I've been divorced for almost 4 years now and I haven't dated anyone in over 3. It was an issue of responsibility, stress, and a general realization that happiness is not found in any relationship beyond the one with Christ. Oh, you can find happiness in a couple relationship but its certainly not necessary for a fulfilled life. So with that in mind, I've been throwing this thought around in my head: "Am I your type?" The answer: probably not.

I've reached a point in my life where I look back and see that I've got 2 children, was married for 14 years, and feel no big rush to jump into another relationship any time soon. I'm not lonely (I was after my divorce but that passed) and to tell you the truth, I see so many unhappy couples that it scares the poo out of me! Plus, I see so many broken people coming out of divorce (it comes with the territory when you are involved with singles) and so many others who rush back into bad relationships that I know I'm happy right where I am. Besides all that, I'm extremely picky because I can afford to be!

All of this just to say this: you can't find fulfillment in another person. Try all you want, but that person will not make you whole. And if you do mistakenly venture into life with that in mind, it hurts all the more when the relationship fails. If you haven't found fulfillment and wholeness in yourself (and if you are like me, in Christ) then relying on another person to complete you is faulty thinking. That is part of the reason I'm involved with singles: I want them to know that while earthly relationships can be good, they are not the final answer. Once you find that out and apply it in your life, you'll actually make a better partner when you do enter a relationship!

My Interests



Music, singing, computer-related stuff (uh, too much sometimes!), working out (just recently but I love it), spending time with my kids, singles ministry, reading fiction. Or rather listening to it...I've gotten lazy and they make all of my favorite books available on tape/CD/online.

I'd like to meet:

Well, let's see...I've already met Jesus (not in the flesh, so don't worry that I'm delusional) so I'm scouring my brain to figure out who else I'd like to meet. Hmmm, nope can't think of anyone specifically 'cause I'm not entirely certain that meeting any one particular person will affect me in a life changing way. I suppose I'm not a big believer in the ability of sports figures, actors, politicians, etc. to be any more special than you or I.

So I suppose I wouldn't mind meeting any one of you! Think about it: if I met some celebrity, I might shake their hand, get an autograph, and that would be the end of it. But if I met you, we might sit down and talk, become fast friends, and we'd both be better off for it. Umm, unless of course you have some serious mental issues that make you a menace to general sociey, then I guess all bets are off on actually making a positive impact in my life...but its worth a shot otherwise!

That's just another reason I am involved with singles in my church and community. Above I stated that I'm not too keen on an intimate relationship, but I never said I don't like to form new friendships! I'm a firm believer in the concept that you can't have too many (good) friends. I mean friends in the true manner of speaking though; I'm not referring to any persons who can be classified as "moochers", "needy people", "liars", "abusers", etc. Think about this definition of friend: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust. Note the "affection and trust" part - those are some key words! And here's another one - albeit odd and eyebrow raising -: Friendship is a type of interpersonal relationship that is found among humans and among animals with rich intelligence, such as the higher mammals and some birds. Individuals in a friendship relationship will seek out each other's company and exhibit mutually helping behavior. The second sentence gives some greater insight into true friendship as well.

I guess then that my response to the statement I'd Like to Meet is...

YOU!

Music:

Am I supposed to write the words to a song here? Haven't composed one lately. Oh, wait, I'm supposed to tell you what I like, eh? Mostly Christian music and all genres of it. Well, except possibly Christian bluegrass. Favorite groups/artists: Thousand Foot Krutch, Falling Up, Pillar, Building 429, Casting Crowns, MercyMe, Jadon Lavik, Brian Littrell, Caedmon's Call, Derek Webb, Chris Tomlin, Jeremy Camp, Kutless, Mark Schultz, Paul Wright, Relient K, Starfield, and several more (that's several already)! I also like 3 Doors Down, Incubus, Fuel, Tonic, Kansas, Chevelle and some others in the secular side of things!

Movies:

I like movies but I never get into them so much that I can tell you which ones I really liked! Kung Fu Hustle was kinda cool ;-p. I like comedies usually but really good suspense/thriller movies are second. When have we seen one of those lately? Mostly just blood, guts, and nudity. Not entertainment as I see it.

Television:

What's that?

Books:

Bible!

Then Wheel of Time series (Robert Jordan), Song of Ice and Fire series (George R.R. Martin), Shannara series (Terry Brooks), Chronicles of Thomas Covenant series (forgot the dudes name at the time of writing this lame thing).

Heroes:

Jesus...every one else seems pretty much equal to me, so why should they be my hero?

My Blog

My Celeb Lookalikes (yeah right)

Hehe, here's something funny. Ran into this site that takes your pic and tries to match it up to celebrities. According to the one I submitted, here's who I "most resemble" *snicker*: .Hey, note that ...
Posted by Kevin on Wed, 25 Oct 2006 05:12:00 PST

Spreading the Gospel...of Confusion?

Reprinted from my article at Finding Believers:I don't watch television too often. In fact, the TV sees more "play" when my kids are over then when I'm by myself. 99% of the time I'm tuned to channe...
Posted by Kevin on Tue, 11 Jul 2006 08:56:00 PST

Am I What's Wrong with This World?

Reprinted from my posting at Finding Believers:Those who know me well enough could tell you I often comment that Im easily inspired by music. OK, not all music - I'll admit secular music rarely does...
Posted by Kevin on Tue, 11 Jul 2006 08:31:00 PST