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mr. jaide

itsalexj

About Me

twenty-something transqueer guy, steadfast husboy of one debaucherous miz washington, a little superhero's superb step dad, a fierce musketeer, storm chaser's warm lap, inspired by and adoring The Jen, still growing, still learning, falling in love again and again, listening and listening some more, mesmorized by the daily, intrigued by religion, inspired by sex in plenty, living in extremes, freeing myself from self-destructive pride, making everyday interesting, pushing and shoving my inner child thru puberty, redefining gender, finding random recycled treasures, letting go of peter pan, visiting Jacque, chattering like a pubescent gerbil, building bridges,meditating on the art of sitting still, creating a role model, soothing my mind's racket balls, fighting ignorance with expanding vocabulary, drawing with metaphors, cultivating compassion, singing off-key, pounding out words, cleaning out closets, fighting ignorance, challenging thoughts, fostering some creativity
You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.
You cannot help small men by tearing down big men.
You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.
You cannot lift the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer.
You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatreds.
You cannot build character and courage by taking away a man's initiative and independence.
You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for themselves.
-William J. H. Boetcker
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My Interests

music that doesn't suck, campfire coffee and cherry wine, peace-keeping warriors, debating the un-debated, leading by example, gender revolutionaries, radical feminists, abstract religion, fierce women, eating vegetables for superpowers, thinking outside the box

I'd like to meet:



piss me off, make me laugh, inspire me, introduce issues, show me walls i can tear down, put pressure on my borders, expand my vocabulary, question my reality

When we rewrite the past, looking back with our current understanding, a meditation is always taking place.

COMMENTS... Dear Mr. Jaide,

Music:



piano man - billy joel
mmmm - laura izibor
vicious traditions - the veils
dirty knife - neko case
how we operate - gomez
sun comes up - john legend
the wild son - the veils
coffee shop - landon pigg
the gambler - kenny rogers
all that i want - the weepies
better days - sweatshop union
cheer me up thank you - new buffalo
the city - joe purdy
do i move you - nina simone
epitaph for my heart - the magnetic fields

Movies:



paid in full, EVERYTHING IS ILLUMINATED, death of a president, freedom writers, chocolat, a love song for bobby long, sybil, brother to brother, v for vendetta, half nelson, the good shepard, THIS REVOLUTION, beautiful boxer,their eyes were watching god, BLACK SNAKE MOAN, four brothers, the prestige, silent hill, constellation, the color purple, BLOOD DIAMOND, the pursuit of happiness, chasing amy, 13th warrior, snatch, CHILDREN OF MEN, the number 23

Television:


l-word, six feet under, queer as folk, grey's anatomy, house, e-channel junk food, paula deen's butter-obsessed creations

Books:

Whipping Girl: A transsexual woman on sexism and the scapegoating of feminity...Julia Serano
Stone Butch Blues...Leslie Feinberg
She's Not Here...Jennifer Boylan
Gender Outlaw...Kate Bornstein
As Nature Made Him: The boy who was raised as a girl...John Colapino
Becoming A Visible Man...Jamison Green

The Barn at the End of the World...Mary O'Reilly

Heroes:

the average jane/joe who has a small thought and uses it to change the world

My Blog

for the LOVE of mick...

Once you have been tagged, you have to write a blog with 10 weird things, facts, habits, or goals about yourself. At the end, choose 10 people to be tagged, listing their names. Don't forget to leave ...
Posted by mr. jaide on Thu, 28 Feb 2008 09:51:00 PST

another day

i felt the need to blog. to mark this fine moment that is just another day to anyone who does not live in the hoyt/washington/jaide house of mirrors. it's officially official - we all met a year ago t...
Posted by mr. jaide on Mon, 03 Dec 2007 05:07:00 PST

Jamison Green on Trans Day of Remembrance

BY JAMISON GREEN © 2007For nine years now we've been holding these events to remember our dead. I've been asked to speak tonight about the history of this event, and I want first to remind you that th...
Posted by mr. jaide on Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:53:00 PST

a sad example of why we NEED trans awareness

Following is a series of email communications between myself and the significant other of a transman. I am making it public for the purpose of increasing awareness, not to drag anyone thru the mud. I ...
Posted by mr. jaide on Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:38:00 PST

The offense of language

Almost everyone I meet these days and spend time with has the best of intentions. But even these best of intentions can be ignorant and disrespectful at times. They can be frustrating. They can get ti...
Posted by mr. jaide on Fri, 09 Nov 2007 05:50:00 PST

for the love of National Coming Out Day

I'm secure in my identity, be it age, wisdom, or ignorance, but I do keep one eye on the transgender and genderqueer communities. A piece of that is keeping up on current issues and events in the comm...
Posted by mr. jaide on Thu, 11 Oct 2007 06:22:00 PST

step one: admit that you are powerless

I am breaking my own vows atleast in so much as to say I have a love/hate relationship with myspace and it's opportunist position taking advantage of how little society wants face-to-face interac...
Posted by mr. jaide on Sun, 09 Sep 2007 11:39:00 PST

My best beginning comes with a clear ending

Pixilated words, digital images, slideshows and video  these pages are just self-inflicted memorials. Here within is the story of Alex, the ways he'd want to be known. His general stats and the pret...
Posted by mr. jaide on Thu, 19 Jul 2007 10:50:00 PST

things i've said and haven't

I've been meeting new people, treasure hunting everywhere, and seeing through new eyes. The new experiences have sometimes unexpectedly tickled random memories. I'm in a startling love that makes...
Posted by mr. jaide on Mon, 07 May 2007 05:24:00 PST

Touch Me Where I'm Rusty...

Artists who seek perfection in everything are those who cannot attain it in anything. - Eugene Delacroix And so there is a piece of Alex that can make a blade of grass into a vast plain with no visibl...
Posted by mr. jaide on Tue, 17 Apr 2007 11:48:00 PST