But first....Rilke talks about the importance of perfecting ones solitude in order to love:Love is at first not anything that means merging, giving over, and uniting with another, it is a high inducement to the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become a world for himself for another’s sake, it is a great, exacting claim upon him, something that chooses him out and calls him to vast things.Rainer Maria Rilke