I got a long list of things I'm specifically looking for, but in a nutshell, Communication, Intelligence and honesty are important to me in about that order. If you can't carry on a good conversation about whatever, I don't care how hot you are. I'd be lying if I said looks don't matter to me, but they are not the most important thing. You don't have to be a 10, (Not many people are anyway). I think a lot of different women are attractive for a number of different reasons...everyone has somewhere that they shine. Common interest, obviously are a plus, but some differences make things interesting too. I should also mention that I lead a polyamorous lifestyle. If you don't know what that means, look up polyamory on Wikipedia. You must do this before messaging me. And finally a mind is like a parachute, it works best when it's open.