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On Being Romantic & GayBeing romantic and gay means breaking a commonly held stereotype: that all gay guys are solely after lust.I do not pride myself on being romantic. Certainly, it has done more harm to me than good. I've been down the road of promiscuity, though—I think most of us have (or will)—but that just isn't my direction anymore. I'm at the opposite extreme.When I see an attractive guy, my mind doesn't automatically think SEX! Rather, my thoughts jump to what it'd be like if we were in love. What it'd be like to receive flowers from him. Or hear him tell me how much he loves me.Dangerous territory? I think so.Don't get me wrong—I love sex just as much as the next guy. Gay or straight. In fact, sex is a HUGE deal for me. When I'm with someone I really love, I become a nymphomaniac real quick.Oh wow. Sorry. That was a little more information than you probably wanted to know.But the point remains. I love sex. It's not the first thing that pops into my mind.I guess I'm just a little girl.Like an elementary schoolgirl playing house, I often forget that not everyone's after what I'm in it for. Most of the guys I've met are after what the gay world is famous for: hookups.I've had my share of hookups and I guess you might say I've broken a couple hearts, so I'm not oblivious to what's going on around me. But that doesn't erase the fact that my mind seizes romance when an attractive person hits on me—regardless of what they're really after. And this isn't a good thing. Whether I'm in-tuned to the fact that they're after just a one-night stand or not, my romantic fantasies set the mood for how I'm going to treat this personI'll be extra sweet. And I'll try to be a little sexier, though I usually end up just looking stupid. I'll do these things to tell this person I like them. In turn, they'll take my actions as an indication that I'm interested. And I am!Just not interested in what they want me for.Unfortunately, many gay men buy into the stereotypes they so admonish. Many expect that if you're attractive and attracted, the bed is the next logical step.So I've gotten to the point that whenever someone I like hits on me, I make sure to tell them that my intentions aren't sexual. And while this sometimes scares potentially great guys away, I'd rather not have them screaming at me or forcing themselves on me when they find out later what's really going on.Beyond GayThis goes far beyond the gay world, though. Many women and men, gay and straight, feel the same way. We are members of an incredibly passionate group. When we're attracted to or paired with folks on the opposite end of things, our hearts are broken.But we are not weak. Although our passions can overpower rationale, we live the life of extreme bliss and detrimental heartbreak. True romance rarely affords mediocrity.I hope you'll stick around to talk more about romance with me, as it is without question my favorite topic. stripes layout @ HOT FreeLayouts.com MyHotComments