What do you wanna know? Do you really wanna know? Are you sure?
Have you ever heard people say Nobody is perfectly beautiful, Nobody is perfectly genius, Nobody is perfectly sexy and Nobody is perfectly good just because Nobody is so damned Perfect? I'm so fking tired of hearing people say these all the time!!!
I'm Nobody.
Dream a little dream or two. Heck, while I'm at it, why don't I ju$t go dream a big dream or three!
My husband ... he's been in hiding and Id like him to come out and give me a DIVORCE!!!!
It's about time anyway, he abandoned us and had a 17-year-old SLUT pregnant since I give birth to our son, so I just can't quite figure out why he won't give me a much awaited and needed divorce sooner ... but hey, if anyone of you in there knows anybody that goes by the name of James "JACK" DelNero, that's him...I'd like to make my peace and closure to this long overdue f*cked_up marriage.
And JACK, if you're reading this, PEACE Dude. I married you, didn't I? So I was also a nutcase (but NOT a LOSER .... far from it!!!). And we have a very beautiful and SMART son, JECKO, who is as stubborn as the two of us put together X 100, LOL. You are really missing a lot, but that is your choice. Anyway, let's be friends. Get to know Jecko ... you'll LOVE him, I PROMISE you that....
Parenting ensures one of the most difficult challenges this world has to offer, especially when it arises around the paradox of issue of attachment. Successful parenting is about loving our children, but most of us love them in a very attached way. On the other hand, it also requires that we let go of our children at the appropriate times, which means we must practice some level of non~attachment.
Many parents find this difficult because we love our children fiercely, more than we will ever love anyone, and this can cause us to overstep our bounds with them as their independence grows. Yet truly loving them requires that we set them free.
Attachment to outcome is perhaps the greatest obstacle on the parenting path, and the one that teaches us the most about the importance of practicing non~attachment.
I realized that my son is growing up and learning adult_things everyday just by the things he talks about.
One time, he came up to me and said: “Mommy you know what, when I grow up, I’m gonna have six kids, 5 boys and 1 girl. I’m going to work as a police_army_soldier, so that I can be able to protect you and my wife and kids. I want to be an Engineer so that I can build a big house for you…†– and he can’t and won’t stop talking about it.
Then it dawned on me, my son is growing up! He is thinking about grown-up things! He has a vision of who he wants to be and how his life will be when he grows up!
Soon enough, he will not be my baby young man anymore, but a grown-up adult capable of doing and deciding things on his own. This put a pinch of loneliness in my heart … but I have to accept it, he has to find his own way in this life.
He has to be strong enough to be able to face what life has to bring in his path. I, as his mother, have this responsibility, to equip him with wisdom and sensibility on how to get ahead in life. This strength I cannot give him if I will shelter him and protect him all the time.
I have to let him be exposed to life’s realities and harshness, but him knowing that I am and will always be behind him, beside him, before him … however and whichever he needs me to be.
We commonly perceive our children to be extensions of ourselves, imagining that we know what's best for them, but our children are people in their own right with their own paths to follow in this world. They may be called to move in directions we fear, don't respect, or don't understand, yet we must let them go.
This letting go happens gradually throughout our lives with our children until we finally honor them as fully grown adults who no longer require our guidance.
At this point, it is important that we treat them as peers who may or may not seek our input into their lives. This allows them, and us, to fully realize the greatest gift parents can offer their offspring – independence.
Letting go in any area of life requires a deep trust in the universe, in the overall meaning and purpose of existence.
Remembering that there is more to us and our children than meets the eye can help us practice nonattachment, even when we feel overwhelmed by concern and the desire to interfere.
We are all souls making our way in the world and making our way, ultimately, back to the same source. This can be our mantra as we let our children go in peace and confidence.
disclaimer: this is not, in any way, a claim for expertise in parenting. It is just an honest opinion due to personal experiences …. Peace!!
AARON LINES - It Takes A Man To Raise A Child
PAUL WELLER - You Do Something To Me
PAUL WELLER - I'm Gonna Make It Alright
PAUL WELLER - Brand New Start
PAUL WELLER - Wishing On A Star
PAUL WELLER - Wild Wood
The Style Council - You're The Best Thing
Snow Patrol - Chasing Cars
Five For Fighting - If God Made You
ADAM SANDLER - I Wanna Grow Old With You
SEAL - CRAZY
SEAL - LET ME ROLL
SEAL - LOVE'S DIVINE
Regine Velasquez - You Are My Song
Kelly Clarkson - Because of You
THE SPEAKS - Hold Your Head Up High
JONAH33 - Beautiful
STEVE HOLY - Good Morning Beautiful
JAMES BLUNT - You're Beautiful
AARON LINES - You Can't Hide Beautiful
Kenny Chesney - She Don't Know She's Beautiful
Christina Aguillera - Beautiful
Bette Middler - I'm Beautiful
Late Night Alumni - Beautiful
Portishead - Beautiful
INXS - Beautiful Girl
Maroon 5 - Beauty Queen
Ace of Base - It's a Beautiful Life
The Afters - Beautiful Love
Cold Play - Beautiful World
Annie Lennox - A Thousand Beautiful Things
Ashlee Simpson - Beautifully Broken
Jesse McCartney - Beautiful Soul
Shirley Basssey - He's Beautiful
Ziggy Marley - Beautiful Day
This Providence - My Beautiful Rescue
Beth Orton - Wild World
Beth Orton - Lean On Me
Elton John - Your Song
Dave Matthews - My Heart is Yours
Sheryl Crowe - Wildflower
Sheryl Crowe - Always On Your Side
Sheryl Crowe & Kid Rock - Picture
Sheryl Crowe - The First Cut Is The Deepest
Sheryl Crowe - Strong Enough
Sheryl Crowe - Good is Good
Sheryl Crowe - If It Makes You Happy
Sheryl Crowe - I'm A Bitch I'm A Lover
Sheryl Crowe - Angel
Sheryl Crowe - In Need
Shania Twain - You've Got A Way With Me
Shania Twain - You're Still The One
Shania Twain - From This Moment
Shania Twain - Don't
Sade - Mr. Wrong
Laura Pausini - One More Time
Creed - Torn
Creed - My Sacrifice
Creed - My Own Prison
Creed - What's This Life For
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PAUL WELLER - You Do Something To Me
Elton John - Your Song
The Style Council - You're The Best Thing
Snow Patrol - Chasing Cars
Van Morrison - Have I Told You Lately (performed by Rod Stewart)
Meatloaf - For Crying Out Loud
Harry Nilsson - Without You (performed by Clay Aiken)
Bryan Adams - Everything I Do
Labi Siffre - Something Inside So Strong
Meatloaf - Heaven Can Wait
Ally McBeal
Jumong
The Sopranos
Jewel in the Palace
When I find myself with quiet moments all my own, I follow my thoughts to a gentle space wrapped around you ...
Like a cloud cradling the Earth in perfect peace. I hope our lives together continues as it has .....
.... growing more deeply in love, growing in prosperity, and moving ever closer to realizing our dreams.
I love you, I'm in love with you ...
.... and if you're in love with me check this box - ?
I'm so happy you are in my life.
Is heroism for real? Or is it just another selfish ambition ... hmmm, food for thought....