A work in progress 1/10/2007.06/2007 Lets see... I am gay, and finally have come to terms with it. I recently read a article trying to encourage the idea of homosexuality as a gift, but in the end we are all people. We are as flawed as every other brand of sexuality. Our sexuality is not a curse, nor a gift.Accepting the idea of gay or any brand sexuality as a gift, promotes a deleterious viewpoint. That's only purpose is to act as a counter-weight to the harsh views society has imposed on any nontraditional sexuality. Rather than helping to promote integration between different brands of sexuality, it promotes identity building based on "popular culture" and all the while disregarding and displacing those of us who do not conform to that culture. Stating that gays are a community solely based on the idea that we are attracted to a specific sex is hardly adhesive. We cheat and lie with complete disregard of our partners, we have "preferences" that are loaded with racist undertones and we are biased based on visual appearance. Our love can be clingy or shallow. Our abilities to listen and empathize with others vary from exceptional to deplorable. These examples along with many other can also be applied to any other brand of sexuality not only homosexuals.The truth of the matter is, our only binding factor is what we are NOT,and we are not the accepted image of society, The epitome or the culmination of heterosexuality. As incongruous as our image may be I believe it is near impossible for heterosexuals to live up to their own.As a result, I believe we all need work on what we are without the stereotypical undertones, rather than continuing to apotheosize the discriminatory methods of defining ourselves based on inviolable images. No one is perfectJust my two cents... Nuff said.:
