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The essence of a person is the nafs and not the physical body. Thus personality and behavior are referred to as the nafs. The Qur’an has described several states of nafs:
Al-nafs al Radhiyah- (The Contented Soul)
She beholds the system of the universe and loves its Creator. She enjoys the delights of truth in this universe and not the tyranny of falsehood, which is doomed to be removed and obliterated, because it is inherent in falsehood to vanish. A contended soul turns to God for everything wanted or done. God responds by accepting it and raising it to a higher status where its conformity with the wider universe is as harmonious as the beats of music.

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NOTE #1: ERYBODY GOT BUMPED FOR MICHAEL ERIC DYSON! THAT'S RIGHT!
NOTE #2: SEE MY BEAUTIFUL LITTLE COUSIN ON MY FRIENDS LIST? NO BOYS ALLOWED!! (SCRUBS, KNUCKLEHEADS, MEN OF LEGAL AGE, BOYS WITH PONYTAILS AND EARRINGS IN BOTH EARS, THIS MEANS YOU!
An Evening in April
One night in April, when the Chicago weather is still cool enough for us to wear winter coats, my son, Sekou, decides that he needs a snack from Walgreens. It’s almost ten o’clock, our curfew, but we have enough time to walk down the block to the store. I hide our crackers under the pillow, and we go downstairs and leave our room key at the front desk. At Walgreens, I buy Sekou some Twinkies. When we get out of the store, he looks around for a place to sit and eat. It’s too late and windy for us to walk far. “Let’s sit over there.” I point to a small metal fence surrounding the Walgreens parking lot. Sekou wrinkles his nose. “I don’t wanna sit there. The change man sits there.” Down the long stretch of West Lawrence Avenue, where we have lived for the last month, there are several shelters. Sekou is used to seeing people sit on the fence and ask for change as customers come out of the store. Most of the people he sees aren’t that old, but the way they slump over the fence, like rag dolls, and the strange bruised color of their eyes make them seem much older. At our building, “Salvation Army” is printed in neat blue letters on a white awning, and it almost looks like someone’s house. There are kids in white and blue school uniforms, just like Sekou, and babies in strollers with cute fat feet, and the word “lodge” is marked everywhere, on doors, linen, and all paperwork. Sekou passes the change men every morning on the bus as he rides to school, as they sit on the steps to their shelter or lounge on folding chairs in the parking lot. To him, the change men live in shelters. He does not.
radhiyah ayobami
Excerpt from my essay: An Evening in April
Twentysomething Essays by Twentysomething Writers Edited by Matt Kellogg and Jillian Quint (Random House $12.95)
here's a little from a good review on the austinist.com-
In terms of specific content, Radhiyah Ayobami's "An Evening in April" and Burlee Vang's "A Red Spoon for the Nameless" are two good reasons to give this book some attention. Both essays are elegant, understated, and powerful. Ayobami's piece artfully addresses the difficulties of parenting and the institutional tragedy of homelessness; Vang's essay explores the constraints of family on sexuality and personal expression.

My Blog

radhiyah goes to jail

so i got myself arrested. it happened at the housing office in brooklyn where i had been on and off for two days. i spoke to a caseworker and a supervisor and no one could help me. the supervisor t...
Posted by on Wed, 10 Jun 2009 08:51:00 GMT

live from the hood (just some thoughts)

it's walking up and down the boulevard or the avenue or the parkwaywith nowhere to sit but mcdonalds with the hard tables and plasticchairs that are taken up by homeless people or kids cutting school ...
Posted by on Thu, 26 Mar 2009 01:50:00 GMT

so i'm back on the upswing

i rememberwashing greens in my granmama's kitchen leaves floating in the waterlike wishes i madesplashing in creekson spring georgia dayswhen our voices looped over the branchesof peach trees like bir...
Posted by on Tue, 17 Feb 2009 22:57:00 GMT

this is what i feel like

today somebody depressed me and i was already depressed. two of myclose friends mothers passed in two weeks. neither of my friends ismarried or has children and i was thinking there was a link in thef...
Posted by on Thu, 29 Jan 2009 20:01:00 GMT

grandmothers / children

"i'm comin up (comin up jesus)on the rough sideof the mountain...and i'm doin my bestto make it there..."                        mahalia jacksonback in the nineties, when maury povich and some of thos...
Posted by on Tue, 09 Dec 2008 08:53:00 GMT

say YES

when i was training as a doula (childbirth assistant) a very great midwife, shafia monroe, who has been working for 30 years and is mama to seven children, gave me some of the most powerful advice i ...
Posted by on Wed, 03 Dec 2008 18:48:00 GMT

Summer of 31

i caught joy in my hands and refused to let it go. i went to the dance and the masjid. i went to minnesota with sixty dollars. i let my child away from home- WITHOUT ME. i discovered my calling- birth...
Posted by on Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:17:00 GMT

i am the jigaboo

can i help you?do you need me to find a larger size, a different color? do you need more napkins, more ketchup, more hotsauce? a smaller shoe size, a hotter biscuit, a tighter body?can i pick up ...
Posted by on Wed, 06 Aug 2008 06:20:00 GMT

Happy Fathers Day or Letter for my Pops

Greetings:   My name is Dr. Larry Pilgrim. I hold a Ph.D in Holistic Science, a Master's Degree in Urban Ministry from the New York Theological Seminary, and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology. I...
Posted by on Mon, 16 Jun 2008 22:08:00 GMT

you asked for it

yesterday my mother was complaining because she called a few of her friends and they didn't call her back. so i said, you need to associate with a new class of people. so she goes to church this morni...
Posted by on Sun, 27 Apr 2008 08:47:00 GMT