You!YOUR SOUL MATE BY BISHOP T. D. JAKESTurn in your Bible to Psalm 65:4 (the New King James Bible). It says, "Blessed is the man you choose and causes to approach you. That he may dwell in your courts and shall be satisfied with the goodness of your house"Pastor T. D. Jakes made a statement once that was morbid but SO true! He said that when choosing a mate, you need to ask yourself whether or not that person is the one you would want to hold your hand as you are lowering your parents' bodies into the grave for the last time. That is serious. Meditate on that for a few seconds. Your entire perspective is term. Is what you are searching for in a mate should be based on that one question.Are you dating? Think about your boy/girlfriend. Is he (she) seriously the one you would want holding your hands during the darkest hours of your life?Look even deeper. Is your present boy/girlfriend the type who would offer you assistance during the time of grief?Unbelievably, there are numerous men (women) out here who offer absolutely NO comfort to hurting women (men). And no, it does not matter whether they are married to those women (men) or not! I wish you could see some of the personal letters this site receives from married people.Yes, some of them are happy, praise God! However, the ones who are not happy are miserable. There are no in between. Either you are happy in a marriage or you are not.There are married women (men) writing saying their husbands (wives) never show authentic affection towards them, never offer expressions of love for them. That is real. Because it is so real, God desires that women (men) are exceptionally careful when choosing a mate. Notice I did not say that women (men) should FIND a mate! I said, "Choose." There is a huge difference.Turn in your Bible to Proverbs 18:22. It says "that He who finds a wife finds a good thing" Interpretation: MEN find women. Women should not be out trying to find a man! HOWEVER, once found, the woman can then choose to be with the man or to wait to be found by a different man.WHAT TO LOOK FOR WHEN CHOOSING A MATE: Proverbs 20:6 states, Who can find a faithful man? The fact that the question is asked is indicative of the fact that there are not many faithful men out there. However, there is good news. The good news is that