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A time comes in your life when you finally get it....When in the midst of
all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the
voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on.And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to
subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.This is your awakening.You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to
change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the
next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince or Princess Charming,
and you are not Cinderella. And that in the real world there aren't always
fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter), and that any guarantee
of "happily ever after" must begin with you....and in the process a sense of
serenity is born - acceptance. You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are.....and that's OK.
They are entitled to their own views and opinions.You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the
process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.You stop bitching and blaming other people for the things they did to you,
or didn't do for you, and you learn that the only thing you can really count
on is the unexpected.You learn that people don't always say what they mean, or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it's not
always about you.So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself, and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.You stop judging and pointing finger, and you begin to accept people....you
can't change them. They are what they are....and overlook their shortcomings and human frailties.... and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness and moving on.You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained
into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed
about.....how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop, what you should drive how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, what person you should be with, how old they should be, how much money they should make, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage and the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view, and you
begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.You learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to
discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have
bought into to begin with, and in the process you learn to go with your
instincts. The gut knows.You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is
power and glory in creating and contributing. And you stop maneuvering
through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated
ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation
upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything; it's not your job to save the
world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing.You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, the importance of
setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and
that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how
much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.
You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more
lovable or important because of the man or woman on your arm, or the child that bears your name.You learn to look at the relationships as they really are and not as you
would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and
outcomes.You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love....and you
learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms just to
make you happy.And you learn that alone does not mean lonely....And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10, or 6 feet tall, and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing
things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlements
are perfectly OK....and that is your right to want things and to ask for the
things that you want....and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love,
kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less. And you
allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with their
touch....and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care
for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking
more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue
diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you can take more
time to rest. And just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So
you take more time to laugh and to play.You learn....that for the most part, in life you get what you believe you
deserve....and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that
wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it
happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you
need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can
do it all alone and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron
of all time, FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your
fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it. To give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms.And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a
cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't
always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to
personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to
answer your prayer. It's just life happening.And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state-the Ego. You learn
that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understoodand redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and tobuild bridges instead of walls.You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted. Things that millions of people upon the earth can only
dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a
long hot shower.Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself, and you
make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever "settle"
for less than your heart's desire.And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open
to every wonderful possibility.Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
