Of course there has to be good chemistry. But I want a man with integrity. Someone with a kind heart, capable of being loyal and standing firm through thick and thin. I'm not dumb enough to expect that someone doesn't have baggage. But at least be willing to acknowledge it and work with iit. Anything that lasts is going to require work and forgiveness. I was married for 20 years. I want my next relationship to last a lot longer. Don't bother unless you have an inkling of what love is really about.