You don't need him. You need to be seen.
Do you cut the lining out of your bathing suit so your genitals show through?
Do you leave your fly or blouse open and pretend to hold conversations in glass telephone booths, standing so your clothes gap open with no underwear inside?
Do you jog without a bra or athletic supporter in order to attract sexual partners?
My answer to all the above is, Well, I do now!
I like Bedford Drive and the Format.