First of all...I'm Real. I'm a real person with real thoughts and feelings. As such I'm entitled to the same ups and downs as all the rest of the REAL people. Generally my UP days seriously out number my DOWN days...But sometimes that's not the case.
Second...I'm married. I know that...my wife(Minion Of Nyx) knows that...and now you know that. I've been married for over 11 years to my LOVELY wife(Minion Of Nyx) . We have had some rough times, but that has only made us closer and more able to deal with the world at large. The one thing that has helped us keep it together is communication. We talk about everything. My wife(Minion Of Nyx) knows what's in my head and in my heart (sometimes before I do). Unless you specifically request it, consider it known to both of us. One more thing on this matter...She knows I am in the lifestyle because WE are in the lifestyle...TOGETHER!
Third...I tell the truth. Nobody likes the truth, but I tell it anyways. I expect to be told the truth. Sometimes I don't like the truth, but in the end, that's all we will be left with.
Fourth...My trust is a privilege! Most people will start with that privilege in my world. Those that use it well will be rewarded with a strong and caring friendship (and perhaps more). Those who abuse my trust will find themselves not in my life.
Fifth...We have our rules. Our rules are designed to keep us safe...Emotionally, Intellectually, and Physically safe. Some of our rules are open to bending. Some ARE NOT! All of our rules are based on our experiences in and out of the lifestyle. And ALL of our rules are open to discussion. Some may even be open to negotiation. If you don't like or agree with our rules, talk to us. Perhaps there is a middle ground we can come to...Perhaps not. Don't fear our rules...Some are as simple as "Take your shoes off when you come in the house." Others are far more complicated. Communication is the key.
Finally...We are new in the lifestyle. We haven't yet found our stride in it. Being new, we are bound to make mistakes. Through communication, honesty and trust, any mistakes we make will hopefully be minor, correctable, and educational. We have already changed our course in the lifestyle several times. And we will continue to refine our position in it. And WE PLAY TOGETHER! If we can't play together or both aren't willing...It's not gonna happen. That doesn't mean we can't be good friends...Just means playtime is off the table.
