*~*Stacy A.K.A Precious*~*

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Don't talk or do - just hear me. Advice is cheap - 20 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper. And I can do for myself; I am not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy. But when you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince you and get about this business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice. Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.So please listen, and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and I will listen to you.Author Unknown

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